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Max2507

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Re: "Little Happies" thread- we start small to find a bit of joy again
« Reply #60 on: August 07, 2015, 02:13:04 PM »
I had to pick up a few things at walgreens and being a bit bad got a coke. When I got back to my office I stuck it in the freezer for a bit so it would be really cold. Ahhh best way to enjoy a coke. After about half was gone I saw the name on the coke was my husband's. It said "share a coke with M" Gave me a smile. It was a nice surprise and coke was our favorite soda so we had shared a great number of them. I took a picture and thought I would post a look what I got on facebook but quickly realized no, that would only result in a phone call from my sister in the next few days asking if I am all right and no response from anyone else.

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« Reply #61 on: August 09, 2015, 12:12:16 PM »
New to-to-me exterior door purchased at the ReStore will soon be installed. and it was dirt cheap.  It replaces the old one which the crazy cat peed on and rusted out. Bonus, it is wider than the old one, so furniture will be able to go through a doorway that was previously too narrow.

Crazy cat hasn't peed anywhere but the litter box in weeks.

Flavor of the month steered me away form real wooden doors (including the one with an etched window)by whispering that they may be warped. *sigh* such a pretty door that didn't come home with me.

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« Reply #62 on: August 09, 2015, 05:18:39 PM »
I ate two cookies. I didn't need one cookie, let alone two, but they're soft chocolate cookies-- almost brownies, and I'm a sucker for a brownie. I found an inexpensive substitute for the Starbucks iced cinnamon chai latte I've become addicted to, and it's been a quiet day at work-- so quiet that I've gotten all my homework done for today (round one of three for the week). So-- cookies. Yay me.
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« Reply #63 on: August 11, 2015, 07:43:05 PM »
I just came back from the best weekend I've had since Catherine died. It was another inline skating club weekend, but this time it was in New York City. I still don't know how many miles I skated on the city streets, but it was something like 15 miles in Manhattan, 20 miles in Brooklyn, 8 miles on Staten Island and 8 miles in Williamsburg.  My legs are sore - in a good way.

The weather was beautiful. I traveled with a good buddy of mine who has persistently helped me re-establish my social life. I also had plenty of friends with me from my Boston skate club who knew Catherine and understand what happened to her.  There were also a lot of great people from NYC and other cities.

It's been 13 months since Catherine died.  It has been, by my own choice, the loneliest year of my life. I am so much happier now than I was this time last year.  In that one small respect, I consider myself lucky.

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« Reply #64 on: August 13, 2015, 08:07:15 PM »
Let me tell you all what happened at work today. I work for a big company that has several large facilities in my state.  Today I went to a meeting at a different location and saw several of my old co-workers. I followed one guy to his office and learned that his office mate is a woman I've known for years.  She's a real sweetheart, and we were both happy to see each other.

So we both hugged and kissed each other - at work, in her office. I asked her how her children were.  She told me that her daughter just had a baby. I was astounded.  She showed me a baby picture on her computer screen.  My eyes went back and forth between the picture and her.  I said to her "well, you're cutest grandmother I've ever seen!".  I don't think anybody expected to hear me say that after being widowed for 13 months.

I think I'll be ready to start dating again soon.

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« Reply #65 on: August 13, 2015, 10:03:33 PM »
Being out on the soccer fields with my girls watching them play and co-coach was my 'happy' tonight. They were all smiling and having a great time. My 16yo offered to help our neighbor co-coach the boys middle school team. He enjoyed having her input, so he asked if she would also like to help co-coach his 3rd grade boys team. My 13yo helped by being the goalie during their scrimmage.

 My 8yo was on another field practicing with her team. I graduated high school with her husband/wife coaches and one of the other mom's. It was like a small class reunion. After her practice was over I worked one on one with her while we waited for the boys practice to be over. I love having individual time with my girls. It doesn't happen very often. Great evening!
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« Reply #66 on: August 14, 2015, 04:16:47 AM »
Being able to walk across the street and go out on my kayak or paddle board and be surrounded by the peace and beauty of the lake.  This is what makes all of the stress of the move worth it.  This is my new happy place.
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« Reply #67 on: August 17, 2015, 07:34:29 PM »
I really dislike grocery shopping. It is something that my husband and I always did together. We just made a day of it.  I felt like he was with me today in spirit. I have had smoothie straws on my list for a long time. I've just never been able to find them in the store. Anyway, I deleted them from my list today. Well as I went to grab a few bags of pretzels for my girls guess what is on the shelf right next to them? A package of smoothie straws. Ha! I said, "thanks Phil." I don't care if anyone heard me either.

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« Reply #68 on: August 17, 2015, 09:14:13 PM »
As part of some dramatic and stressful work org changes, they are flattening out my department which means I am losing my direct reports. Luckily, it does not change my pay. So the bright side in this is one of my employees was told me I was the best manager he has ever had, which a year of those three years was post losing DH. I got warm fuzzies.
On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good. - Unknown

Don't be concerned about being disloyal to your pain by being joyous. - Hazrat Inayat Khan

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