Author Topic: FB message from YWBB founders on decision to close  (Read 22853 times)

Gabzmom

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Re: FB message from YWBB founders on decision to close
« Reply #15 on: March 10, 2015, 11:27:26 PM »
I get it was time to move on.  And it was hard to breathe when you feel your life line was yanked out from under you.  I think, if they were moving on, or it was too much, maybe asking if others wanted to step up as admin - that might have been the way to go.
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Re: FB message from YWBB founders on decision to close
« Reply #16 on: March 10, 2015, 11:46:04 PM »
The attitude inherent in the post smacked of--"well, I've done my part in helping wids online, but I'm at a point where I've grown apathetic about that, but I'm awesome because--lookey-look--I'm STILL expending my charitable efforts helping local wids IRL. But y'all are survivors! Now..buh-bye"

Two fingers firmly down throat.

Yes, they did help innumerable wids in search of comfort over the years. But the way that they cut us off so abruptly, and with no offer to relinquish the site to a willing bunch of wids who would've gladly taken the reigns, put a bad taste in everyone's mouths and seemed unemotional and detached in its handling.

Bottom line, it was poorly handled and the FB post was smug and discourteous.

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Re: FB message from YWBB founders on decision to close
« Reply #17 on: March 11, 2015, 12:33:21 AM »
As I've said since this whole mess started, they knew they were going to do it way before they did it, and there is ABSOLUTELY no excuse for the way this was executed and handled. Not For Profits have a responsibility to the communities they serve, they come into existence because they see a need in a population or community that is not being served or underserved. If they can no longer meet that need, then they have an ethical obligation to provide more than lip service and to make the transition as easy as possible -not, "Sorry! Last call! We don't care what you do, you just can't do it here!" It's not an issue of making a profit; NFPs can make money, it just goes back to the organization and nobody on the board of directors is allowed to make any money. The question is if the YWBB wasn't making money as an NFP, then why not? What kind of additional fundraising efforts outside of placing a "donate" button on the site were done?

The statement reads more like an explanation to a kindergartener as to why we're not going to Disney instead of an actual admission that the Board screwed up, they were not transparent, and they are genuinely sorry. It borders on "Mansplaining" or maybe it's "Widsplaining". A simple, "yeah, we effed up; yeah we're sorry; we really screwed pooch, and here's why" would have been better.
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Re: FB message from YWBB founders on decision to close
« Reply #18 on: March 11, 2015, 01:25:31 AM »
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Re: FB message from YWBB founders on decision to close
« Reply #19 on: March 11, 2015, 01:26:55 AM »
Everyone, please, I know everyone is upset about the loss of YWBB, but is this really the way we want this site to start?  With so much anger about things we have no control over?  I've dealt with anger over so many things in my life, the death of my husband being #1 at the top of the list but I really want this place to be a place of comfort.  Take a look at our theme picture at the top.  Two hands coming together to form a W with the pickies together forming a heart.  It's all about love, acceptance, support. 

I really hope that everyone here can try to focus on what we want this place to be and work on bringing here the best of YWBB, the love.  Regardless of how we got here, we are here, just like we entered widowhood.  Let's focus on the love and support and not the circumstances that brought us all together here. 
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Re: FB message from YWBB founders on decision to close
« Reply #20 on: March 11, 2015, 02:04:06 AM »
I just accidentally removed my post trying to edit. From about three down. I won't type out the whole thing again and I apologize for disrupting the continuity of the thread. I will summarize to say the entire situation is what it is. That explanation is malarkey. If it made you angry - me too. It is a valid feeling. All our varied feelings surrounding these events are valid.  IMO, we can share that here

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Re: FB message from YWBB founders on decision to close
« Reply #21 on: March 11, 2015, 02:36:20 AM »
For a couple days I have been trying to bite my tongue (or hold back my typing fingers)..... But that was a bullshit statement after a cold-hearted move.

I will defer the rest of my response to Mrs. Dan as she said it much more tactfully than I would of.
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Re: FB message from YWBB founders on decision to close
« Reply #22 on: March 11, 2015, 06:33:21 AM »
Well, I just think, in the grand scheme of things and after we've all already lost what is most important in our lives, a loved one, and not just any loved one, but our partner in life, that as upset as I am about losing the resource of YWBB (and I am upset) I'd rather focus on making Widda every bit as good if not better and being here to help others the way I was helped. 

I'm thankful that the founders started YWBB.  I'm thankful that an extremely smart wid or wids among us was wise enough to have this site ready for us to move to so quickly.  I'm thankful that many of our ranks have found their way here.  I'm thankful for the many, many, widda friends I've made who hold me up whenever I need it and 5 years later, I still need it. 

I have high hopes for this site but I don't want the main focus as this site starts to be anger about how we got here.  I instead want the focus of this site, starting out to be how we can turn a shitty situation around and give new and not so new wids the support they need. 

You know, there have been many times on the old YWBB that I got my panties in a twist over stupid shit.  We all do.  But now, let's focus on everything we still have rather than what we don't.  Let's focus on how we can do things better rather than everything someone else did wrong.  Actually, as new wids find their way here, I don't want the first thing they read to be everything that pissed us off about the ending of YWBB, instead I want it to be that we are sorry they had to find their way here but glad that they did and that we are here to listen, ((((hug)))), cry and laugh with them as they navigate this new life they have entered into. 

Rick, an amazing husband, father, fisherman & fisher of men with a servants heart who served God every day. ReRe, miss your smile & twinkle in your eye.

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Re: FB message from YWBB founders on decision to close
« Reply #23 on: March 11, 2015, 06:52:27 AM »
^^^^THIS^^^^ I like this!
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Re: FB message from YWBB founders on decision to close
« Reply #24 on: March 11, 2015, 07:15:05 AM »
I'm grateful to Lauren and the early founders for starting the ywbb.org. However the discontinuing of the site should have AND could have been handled in a MUCH better way. I know there are business issues involved since they were organized as a 501c3. In NY a minimum of 3 board of directors are needed to keep a 501c3 active. Maybe there weren't enough board members to keep it going. However, a business goes through a wind down period when it is closed. The ywbb site should have had a week or two notice so users could transition. It was too abrupt and only catered to the adminstration's needs. The action traumatized many who were already dealing with a tragic life event. I'm surprised as I read Lauren's statement she runs support groups for the widowed. It makes her abrupt shut down of the site even more shocking. Like many have said, it wasn't the shut down itself. It was the way it was handled. Just my $.02.

There is something amazing that arose out of the devastation. Look at those of you who had a new venue set up within an incredibly short time. Let's also not forget how you reached out to make sure the news of a new home would be known.

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Re: FB message from YWBB founders on decision to close
« Reply #25 on: March 11, 2015, 07:27:56 AM »
I have nothing to add other than ditto to Mrs.Dan AND to those who expressed that we have a fresh start here with unlimited potential and we KNOW more care will be taken with the newbies as far as being let in as soon as they come knocking. I am in awe of all that has been done here in so little time and will be forever grateful.
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Re: FB message from YWBB founders on decision to close
« Reply #26 on: March 11, 2015, 07:37:20 AM »
what is this facebook page people keep speaking of? What's the name of it? :)

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Re: FB message from YWBB founders on decision to close
« Reply #27 on: March 11, 2015, 07:46:59 AM »
what is this facebook page people keep speaking of? What's the name of it? :)

Chrispy89 I was completely unaware of any facebook ywbb group too. Ditto the countless others about how painful the way they decided to close ywbb. I was going through an incredibly tough week and the sudden closing of ywbb sent me into a bad emotional spin out.

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Re: FB message from YWBB founders on decision to close
« Reply #28 on: March 11, 2015, 07:58:09 AM »
The statement reads more like an explanation to a kindergartener as to why we're not going to Disney instead of an actual admission that the Board screwed up, they were not transparent, and they are genuinely sorry.

I wasn't appeased by the explanation either. They might as well have said: "oh, did that bother you. Oh well."

I know I'm not alone when I say that YWBB was a lifesaver for many of us. Even those who didn't post frequently, but just went there to feel validated and not alone.

That is why I am SO grateful that this new site came together so quickly. You all are amazing!!!!!

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Re: FB message from YWBB founders on decision to close
« Reply #29 on: March 11, 2015, 08:07:30 AM »
The attitude inherent in the post smacked of--"well, I've done my part in helping wids online, but I'm at a point where I've grown apathetic about that, but I'm awesome because--lookey-look--I'm STILL expending my charitable efforts helping local wids IRL. But y'all are survivors! Now..buh-bye"

Glad I am not the only one who thought this when I read it..
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