Author Topic: On line dating vents and laughs......  (Read 162788 times)

sunshinedaydreamz

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #90 on: September 10, 2015, 12:17:37 PM »
That's the first line most guys learn online.
That after "hey cutie"
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momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #91 on: September 10, 2015, 05:28:22 PM »
That's the first line most guys learn online.
That after "hey cutie"
; )

Or ...
"Hi Beautiful"
"Hi Sexy"

My favourite...

"You look great for your age." Not sure how to take that one! 😁😁😁😁

SunshineFL

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #92 on: September 11, 2015, 08:00:42 PM »
After another "emotionally unavailable, non-communicative" man I met on OKC crossed my path this month, I found this article in my inbox this morning. Felt on point to this thread, perhaps helpful to others as well - thought I'd share (equally applicable to both genders; just switch the pronouns):

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/9-tips-for-anyone-who-dates-emotionally-unavailable-people/

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #93 on: September 19, 2015, 10:32:01 AM »
Hi, friends.
I didn't think I would need to add another post to this "online dating vents" thread, but this morning's slew of unbelievable messages topped off a week of them, so I might just share a few here.

After about a month break from it all (which was needed, lovely, but as I am still not in the beautiful relationship that I'd like to be), I updated the words and photos and enabled my accounts a week or so ago. 

I am enjoying getting to know a couple of interesting gentlemen, perhaps meeting one in person tomorrow, but I am still so creeped out by how some men can be so crude in their initial contact with a woman they don't even know.  And once you see something, or read something - you can't un-see it or un-read it, right?  :-\  These are a just a handful of what my eyes have been assaulted with this week in initial, out of the blue, unsolicited messages:

"Your hair is gorgeous. I just want to run my hands through it, pull it, yank your head back and do you."

"I'm looking for the elusive 'squirter' - could she be you? ....and his profile photos were all of women's genitals doing just that.

"Your profile paints an intriguing picture of who you are  - I'd like to see behind the painting. Can you send me naked pics of you?"

"I loved your profile and see you are Jewish. Do you date non-Jewish men?  I click over to his profile and see he is married, looking for the hook-up and casual sex. I replied then blocked: "I do date non-Jewish men, however I don't date married men."

And the "last straw" that just happened this morning and sparked me to "vent" here:

"I was hoping to send you a far more detailed introductory message, but am short on time. Perhaps we can talk more about your profile soon. Sending you good wishes in the New Year - Shanah tova"  It is the High Holy Days currently between Rosh HaShanah and Yom Kippur - and his profile name is the phonetic spelling of a holy prayer service at this time of year called "Kol Nidre" and he used it as a play on his name - Ray. Wait - it isn't rude and disrespectful yet.... his profile image was of a crude doodle of a stick figure man "doing" a bent-over stick figure woman in front of him with a smile on her sketched face with the text bubble saying something like, "Oh, Cole...kneed...Ray" or something like that.

Mind you - I get that these sites also attract those looking for a hook-up, casual dalliances, fetish-seekers - the gamut. That is fine and I hope they find the match that aligns with whatever they are into.  But when you see that my profile communicates that I am an articulate, real woman who is looking for a long term relationship, I wish they would just be respectful, click to the next screen and not write to me, be respectful of all women and stay on their side of the screen. 

One really needs a strong protective bubble to filter and stay true on some of these online dating sites.  And believe me, I know it works both ways. Switch any number of pronouns, I'm sure there are similar stories of unwanted communication. I have heard from my male friends and from some nice men online in email conversations, that they are "assaulted" by words from aggressive and rude women, as well.

Okay, thanks for listening - maybe I'll go take a cleansing swim and rinse this all off of me (LOL), so I can stay hopeful for the good and real man who shows up and teaches me he is good, respectful, loving and "gets it."

Be well, friends - have a good weekend.

« Last Edit: September 22, 2015, 04:48:25 AM by SunshineFL »

momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #94 on: September 19, 2015, 04:17:07 PM »
LOL SFL!

Here are some of my latest....

Initial first messages in their entirety....

"Scale from 1-10 how submissive are you in the bedroom hun? Hope you're having a nice weekend,"

"How dominant are you?"

"U want to come over"

"i love your nose"

"Heard you need a massage"

After I didn't reply to a message after a few hours...

"Your kidding right?" his spelling, not mine.

Sigh......please read my profile before you send a message OK?

Good luck tomorrow if you meet up SFL!

I do have one very nice potential....got a second reply today...we shall see.
« Last Edit: September 19, 2015, 04:29:17 PM by momtokam »

SunshineFL

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #95 on: September 19, 2015, 05:27:37 PM »
Ohmygoodness, momtokam!
Yours are unreal, too.

Here are two more I forgot to mention earlier:

I just decided that it is time that we met each other. (When I inquire what in my profile drew him to that conclusion, he said...) I just came to that decision and decided not to overthink it. (oh, okay)

I know you; I've seen you in a porn movie, right? (what?? omg)

Thanks for the good wishes momtokam. To you as well.
 ;)

momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #96 on: September 19, 2015, 05:51:51 PM »
Ok... the porn movie one beats them all!!

Hahahahaha!!!!

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #97 on: September 19, 2015, 06:54:12 PM »
OMG, MTK and SFL! Please tell me which sites you are on so I know which ones to avoid!!!!!

abl

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #98 on: September 19, 2015, 07:03:14 PM »
OMG, MTK and SFL! Please tell me which sites you are on so I know which ones to avoid!!!!!

abl

None are exempt from this sadly....

I'm on 3, POF, OKC, and Match. All 3 get these! A little more on the first 2 free ones but it happens on Match too.

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #99 on: September 19, 2015, 07:50:39 PM »
Avoid them?  No way -
There was something fishy about the butler.  I think he was a Pisces, probably working for scale.

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #100 on: September 19, 2015, 08:24:24 PM »
OMG, MTK and SFL! Please tell me which sites you are on so I know which ones to avoid!!!!!

abl

Match and okc, abl.
Agreed, Rob....so true. Funny (and sadly not, right)
Your graphic says it all.   ::)
Perfect.

Abitlost

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #101 on: September 19, 2015, 08:50:16 PM »
I don't think I am cut out for this.  :-\

momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #102 on: September 20, 2015, 07:57:31 AM »
I don't think I am cut out for this.  :-\

You know, the first messages I got like this were upsetting to me. Then I realized not to take them personally, they are what they are.

Now I see them as entertainment and a good laugh!
If I am in the right mood, I might even cook up a choice response to a few!

For the squirting one and porn one I could have lots of killer responses!

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #103 on: September 21, 2015, 07:26:12 PM »

 ....and his profile photos were all of women's gentiles doing just that.


Sunshine, ok - what's in the quoted part above made me laugh out loud. While I imagine some 'gentile' women do what he is interested in, we shouldn't exclude Jewish women's genitalia from the population this bozo is talking about. I'll admit the origin of the word you wanted is also from the Latin 'gentilis' so it's not a major foul.  ;D

What would Freud say about the slip? Quite alot I imagine. :)

Still chuckling, Best wishes, Mike
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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #104 on: September 22, 2015, 04:54:15 AM »
Ohmygoodness, Mike. Lol funny is right. :-[
Blasted auto-correct!
You know I am an attentive proof-reader, but that typo sure did get by me. And in the context, additionally hysterical. No Freudian anything, but thanks so much for pointing it out ...duly edited...and glad to add a smile to your evening. ;)
Be well.