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Virgo

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #135 on: October 29, 2015, 09:49:43 AM »
Here's one. People who message, there's some back and forth, but they do nothing to advance the conversation. I'll ask questions, or make a comment, but they don't ask any questions. And I would think, okay, they're just not interested, but they keep responding. And then it feels like I'm doing all the work. Only two guys were really good at it, one the guy I liked who disappeared and the other I'm still texting and like personally but just don't feel an attraction to.

One guy seems reason interesting on paper, and he messages me every couple days and asks how I'm doing but offers nothing by way of sharing interesting things about himself. And I've given him opportunities. It's completely boring. But I'm still talking to him because he keeps reaching out to me. How am I doing? Shit, that's how I'm doing! But I'm not going to share that with you because despite my attempts, we're not really getting to know each other are we? And I don't get the vibe that he's just some jerk stringing me along, I think he's probably very sweet but just not very good at this. But dude, give me something to work with!

I haven't ventured into online dating, but this is how I feel about the guy I'm dating. We've been out three times.  He's really sweet,  admittedly shy, and a lot of fun. I just wish I didn't feel like I was initiating all contact  and conversation. 

Jen

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #136 on: October 29, 2015, 10:50:28 AM »
Torn, that pleasuring woman was probably the fictional creation of some guy in an overseas boiler room whose goal was to extract money from your wallet.  That happens, and has  nothing to do with online dating except for camping out on that particular communications mechanism.  You can get used to "smelling" them rapidly.  What dating site was that?  On match.com, they go 'poof' as their fraudulent credit card payments fail or as they are flagged and deleted.

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #137 on: October 29, 2015, 07:19:08 PM »
I had as many dates from Craig's List as I did conventional dating sites.

Actually without a profile to fill out, I think it was easier to tell the fakes from the legitimate.

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #138 on: October 29, 2015, 07:26:14 PM »
Ya know that would make great sence Rob, the crazy thing is this person 'not a lady' I have seen around my area, she actually live 5 minutes from my home, I know this because she told me her street name & I realized that's why she looks familiar,I've seen her and her mom shopping.
    I'm telling ya man, NO WOMAN I've ever dated would've shared a video like that.
   I'm no saint or a prude,but I really think some people do crazier things than I had imagined.
    Before the porno clip she text me, and honestly I'm a very lonely person, I miss talking to a female my age & don't think I'd consider anything serious anyhow,it's just plainly put I'm 42 and have had a steady long-term relationship that was a love based relationship since I was 13.

 So I miss lil things like the way a lady paints her nails & considers new hair styles purely put the girlie part of a woman.
      Maybe one day but not on "Plenty of fish" dating website.
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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #139 on: October 30, 2015, 10:39:41 PM »
Every once in a while I scroll through my filtered messages on OKCupid. I found this one tonight: "Look, you owe me 99 cents because your profile melted my heart like a snickers bar in a pocket on a hot summer's day."

Is that ridiculous or just depressing? I can't decide.

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #140 on: October 31, 2015, 08:43:42 AM »
Meema, Not quite sure...but it definitely made me laugh!!! So thanks for sharing! :)
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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #141 on: October 31, 2015, 09:14:19 AM »
What in the world did people do before all these "dating sites" were available via technology?  I'm not venturing onto dating sites...there may be "real" honest people on there, but I'm not in the mood to be "fishing" through a lot of lunatics to find one.  I do enjoy reading some of your classic adventures though, some are just plain ridiculously funny!
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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #142 on: October 31, 2015, 05:30:18 PM »
What in the world did people do before all these "dating sites" were available via technology?  I'm not venturing onto dating sites...there may be "real" honest people on there, but I'm not in the mood to be "fishing" through a lot of lunatics to find one.  I do enjoy reading some of your classic adventures though, some are just plain ridiculously funny!

Dated local gals/guys, friend of friends, other church members, etc.  The internet is a blessing and a curse. Too many choices make people confused, imho.
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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #143 on: November 05, 2015, 08:17:31 AM »
POF seems really nutty right now - all of a sudden, the Raging Grannies seem to be after me.  I got a number of messages last week from a woman in Denver who's ten years older and retired; I was polite and explained that the distance would not work for me, and best of luck.  She appears to have forgotten she contacted me, and tried again this week with the same initial approach.  Yesterday, I got a message from someone 18 years older, also a bit too far away.  And my last nine profile views have included women 14, 11, 11 and 23 years older.  This is not quite the demographic I would like to excite!  I try not to buy into the norm of older guy/younger women, but I'm 54 and am starting to feel weird looking at women 45 or younger, and these gaps aren't more comfortable.  Do I look that old? (Don't answer that!)

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Rob T
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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #144 on: November 05, 2015, 01:03:32 PM »
Rob, you young stud you!
POF was the same here for me this time. I completely deleted my account there because it was just much older in age or in looks contacting me. It was much different 2 years ago and I actually met my one relationship on there then.

I'm not really going on the other 2 sites right now, but recently on OKC it was only men far away in the US or UK contacting me. Scammers?  Maybe. Who knows, too far for me so it doesn't matter.

My friend is trying to convince me to try Tinder. She is insisting it's not a hook up site for my age group and has friends in relationships from Tinder.  I can only imagine the stories I  could share from that experience!

Right now I'm just laying low for a bit. My minimal texter from a few weeks back is still sending texts like "Hey". We did meet up last weekend for coffee a second time. But still getting minimal contact after that. He is very busy, but a nice guy and does lots of talking in person. I'm still trying to figure him out, but it's probably the speed I need right now after my last crazy whirlwind.

Tracey, there are nice ones on the sites, look at all of us on there.😊
You need to be in the right frame of mind to weed through it though. Not always an easy task.

Bear, yes, the too many choices confuse people and keep many from continuing conversations. Someone better comes along and they go "poof" on you. What happened to giving someone a chance first?

I'm in the "whatever" mood right now with all this stuff!

Keep sharing your stories everyone! We all need a good chuckle as often as possible!
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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #145 on: November 05, 2015, 11:34:53 PM »
Well, I met with him. Not quite what I expected, but very, very sweet. Like really really sweet. Maybe I'm an idiot, but it seems genuine.  And while his demeanor isn't the type I'm normally attracted to, I find his profession totally hot . So we'll see. Quite frankly, I could use sweetness at this point in my life.

But this is a vent post, so I'll add that I got the nastiest post from is other guy about all the things he would do to me. Classy.
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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #146 on: November 06, 2015, 09:02:56 AM »
Hi how are you today sexy?  ( I have a pic of a sunset up)

I'm good....we've actually met

I'm Dave...what's your name?

Still the same .... but last time you were Ben..

What is wrong with people?

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #147 on: November 06, 2015, 12:43:03 PM »
Hi how are you today sexy?  ( I have a pic of a sunset up)

I'm good....we've actually met

I'm Dave...what's your name?

Still the same .... but last time you were Ben..

What is wrong with people?

Hahahaha!!!

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #148 on: November 06, 2015, 12:46:55 PM »
Well, I met with him. Not quite what I expected, but very, very sweet. Like really really sweet. Maybe I'm an idiot, but it seems genuine.  And while his demeanor isn't the type I'm normally attracted to, I find his profession totally hot . So we'll see. Quite frankly, I could use sweetness at this point in my life.

But this is a vent post, so I'll add that I got the nastiest post from is other guy about all the things he would do to me. Classy.

Sweetness is very good!

Classy for sure! I guess they feel a computer screen allows for this kind of communication? Would they say those things if they met out in person somewhere?  I think not!

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Re: On line dating vents......
« Reply #149 on: November 06, 2015, 01:57:17 PM »
No, they wouldn't do it in person, and the fact that they have to know that people aren't actually going to respond in the affirmative makes me think of it more of an emotional assault, a virtual slap in the face.

Just got one: "Would love to kiss those lips." Ugh, gross. Like that's it. No, hi, how are you? No attempt to disguise the fact that now I'm just whack off material to some guys out there.
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