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Captains wife

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #240 on: March 03, 2016, 07:24:17 AM »
Ok - I can seriously live without the emails from men 15 years my senior (and outside my requested age range) who claim to be young in mind and body - and still plenty virile. Ugh.

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #241 on: March 03, 2016, 08:06:38 AM »
Captains wife......I find those as funny as the men 15 years my junior who claim to be just attracted to older women; but don't have their shit together and just want someone to cook and clean and do their laundry for them.  Or worse still want kids (when I clearly state I do not)  UGH!

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #242 on: March 03, 2016, 09:39:08 AM »
I don't know ladies - is it different for men than women regarding the large age differences?

I was 51 when I started dating again. I went out with women aged from 32 to 71 (I wasn't doing the asking out most times either). I never had a bad time but obviously not all dates were matches for me. I learned something from every woman I met.

I understand if you want to weed out the players and the scumbags as I had to weed out the gold diggers but could it be you may find "the One" who is outside your normal age range?

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #243 on: March 03, 2016, 11:44:17 AM »
Portside, for me - age makes a pretty big difference and this is partly as I have a very young child and trying to date. I have some flexibility but 15 years is too much for me - I have tried to date men up to 13 years older but it didn't work for me (in all cases).

On another dating vent, does anybody else hate the last minute date cancellation (from those guys who seemed so eager to meet you)? I am sympathetic to certain life issues that cause this (kids etc) but its annoying when it happens twice in a row with same person. My schedule is already tough enough to juggle around. NEXT!
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #244 on: March 03, 2016, 11:53:31 AM »
Portside;

I don't have an issue with a large age gap either.   In my experience the young ones seem to just want a mommy figure to do the stuff they never figured out how to do; but honestly for me the ones I have dealt with either still live at home or with a roommate.  I've tried but with the younger ones it seems to me that my 16 year old is more mature and has it more together.  (although I will admit, she is the adultiest person in our house sometimes)

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #245 on: March 03, 2016, 01:00:29 PM »
Having already outlived two husbands who were 6.5 and 5 years older than me, I would certainly entertain the idea of dating someone younger.  He must be potty trained and weaned from nursing from his mother. 

Maybe I should have a few other qualifications on my list?

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #246 on: March 03, 2016, 02:32:09 PM »
I'm 39, my boyfriend is 34.  I don't know if I could go much further beyond that range. I like being able to relate to a lot of similar things. We each have one young child; that can make a huge difference. And I'm sorry, I'm just not attracted to guys who are a great deal older. I thought maybe I could go as young as thirty. I did think, I don't want to turn someone away who might be a great match just because he was a year or two higher or lower than my desired range. So I set it to 25-45. I got accused of being a cougar. Nice. I bumped it up to 30.
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #247 on: March 03, 2016, 03:53:08 PM »
DW and I were the same age. I've dated women who have ranged in age from 14 years younger to 6 years older than I am. Age doesn't matter much to me.

Early on, DD who has been so encouraging with my dating gave me the following request: "Dad, i would prefer that you would date someone who is closer to you in age than me."


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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #248 on: March 03, 2016, 06:57:27 PM »
My husband was 17 years my senior...the age gap between myself and my daughter's father (he died in 1999) was a few years more. My mother used to tell me I was 13 going on 30 and that I had an 'old soul.' It doesn't seem to work in the opposite direction, though. Younger men just seem...well...younger...lol.

When I had a profile at a dating site, I got quite few hits from twentysomethings. My profile specified an age range from 45 to 55. While I'm willing to extend those ages a few years in either direction, I'm not ready to extend it that much. I aleady have two children....lol.


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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #249 on: March 04, 2016, 12:21:18 AM »
Well, for me, my first husband was just a few years older than me.  My DH was 11 years younger than me.  It is funny in that my first husband in most ways was much more immature than my second husband.  And I met my DH when he was just 21, and I already had kids from my first marriage.  He loved my kids and was very involved with them.  My DH was just the perfect balance of youthful energy and optimism wrapped in an old soul.  My DH was perfect for me, and the age was only an issue for our families.  Jon and I used to joke when I would say, when we get older.  And he would smirk and in jest say, what do you mean, "we."  I thought that since women outlive men by about 5-10 years that would be perfect for us.  We would die together.  I did outlive him in the end, but that gap will now be ridiculous.  <sigh>  Anyway, I think age isn't a factor with the right person.  It depends what qualities you want in your future mate, and whether or not qualities affected by age (such as maturity, wanting (or not) wanting a family, youthful energy, outlook on life) work for or against what you are looking for.
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #250 on: March 04, 2016, 01:33:14 AM »
Looking for someone much younger than me, with an endless bank roll, and has a garage full of antique autos.
Who wants a non committal relationship, and will give me access to their bank card.
How'd I do ?
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #251 on: March 04, 2016, 07:57:20 AM »
Age is just a number, but...

One person who answered my ad graduated from law school the year I was born. I wasn't looking for occasional company on a platonic level, which he frankly told me he'd be.

Another one had numerous opportunities to tell me his age over the two months or so we emailed and phoned, but didn't.  He wasn't in great health, either.  I finally added, "Must be able to walk a 15 minute mile" to my advertisement. I *wanted* to put in things like "No nut jobs, embittered divorcees, or alkies," but that starts to sound kind of negative.  Once time I did put in, "Hey, Colonel Jack, I'm not a pro, you needn't answer this ad."

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #252 on: March 04, 2016, 11:20:19 PM »
I got punked and am feeling rather foolish. I was emailing this guy who seemed perfect on the site. Then he wanted to start texting. I did my homework first -- Google image searches on his profile pics and several text searches of his verbiage plus a quick phone number search; they were all clean. So I agreed and we spent the entire day engaged in a text conversation. We must have exchanged 500 texts. He had me fooled with his vocabulary, his story was flawless, he definitely is local because he knows all the spots, schedules, nuances, etc of the neighborhood. I kept thinking this guy is too good to be true. Then something he said gave me pause. First thing this morning I asked him to send a selfie doing something specific, a hostage photo if you will. Crickets. Of course he can't produce the photo because he's not really the guy in the profile pics. What a fool I am. But what gives? What is his M.O? I. Give. Up.

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #253 on: March 04, 2016, 11:38:15 PM »
Not a huge fan of texting although it's sometimes a necessary evil.
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #254 on: March 05, 2016, 08:22:13 AM »
I got punked and am feeling rather foolish. I was emailing this guy who seemed perfect on the site. Then he wanted to start texting. I did my homework first -- Google image searches on his profile pics and several text searches of his verbiage plus a quick phone number search; they were all clean. So I agreed and we spent the entire day engaged in a text conversation. We must have exchanged 500 texts. He had me fooled with his vocabulary, his story was flawless, he definitely is local because he knows all the spots, schedules, nuances, etc of the neighborhood. I kept thinking this guy is too good to be true. Then something he said gave me pause. First thing this morning I asked him to send a selfie doing something specific, a hostage photo if you will. Crickets. Of course he can't produce the photo because he's not really the guy in the profile pics. What a fool I am. But what gives? What is his M.O? I. Give. Up.

Don't feel foolish, even though it is hard not to. It has happened to me. Many of these scammers/fakes are really good at it. They try to build your trust with what they say and what they know.

They may not all be after money. Some may indeed be local but just want to lure you into sexting or phone sex. Some may be married. They are always too good to be true.  They can't show their real face as it's not them. Asking for a photo of them doing something is the best way to see if they are real. I'm glad you did this and I hope it was before you wasted too much time on him. I have mentioned this trick here before. Everyone with doubts should use this. Honest/real people will not have an issue doing this. I wish I knew this trick in my early on line dating days. Would have saved me lots of time!

I  hated that I  became cynical of messages I received that seemed too good to be true.  I am by nature, a very trusting person, always feeling that what I see is real. Why wouldn't it be? Well, I've learned that is not always the case with on line dating.