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Joey

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #270 on: March 14, 2016, 12:37:00 PM »
Sometimes its hard to know when a scammer is circling....claims to be a widower

Widower.... just curious why that claim would be made... Is this actually a coveted thing in online-dating circles?
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #271 on: March 14, 2016, 12:49:14 PM »
I have had this issue before - but I saw through it, easily. The guy was a clear scammer in my case. Certain scammers online dating have adopted the widower status to play the sympathy card. Its really sick.....But unfortunately there are also a lot of widows/widowers online : ( I try and give people the benefit of the doubt but I have seen it happen and its scary that people do this so I am ultra cautious.

momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #272 on: March 14, 2016, 02:06:39 PM »
CW, So sorry you are dealing with this too. I really thought it was me, giving off some weird vibe to scammers to come find me.

I've hid my profiles for now.  I was really disappointed.

I give all the nice guys the benefit of the doubt, but I have been wrong every time this round!

Sending commiserating hugs to you.😊

momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #273 on: March 14, 2016, 02:11:30 PM »
Sometimes its hard to know when a scammer is circling....claims to be a widower

Widower.... just curious why that claim would be made... Is this actually a coveted thing in online-dating circles?

Yes, widower, new in town/area, charming.....
Most of mine have been some kind of engineer or gold merchant!

It's the sympathy play for sure...so sad because it makes the real widowers who are engineers suspicious!
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #274 on: March 14, 2016, 04:36:19 PM »
I'm an engineer, but I don't lay pipe! :-)

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #275 on: March 14, 2016, 10:22:27 PM »
I am an Engineer and I design pipelines, what's the big deal?

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #276 on: March 14, 2016, 10:52:26 PM »
Rob and MMB you are too funny!!
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« Reply #277 on: March 15, 2016, 08:24:29 AM »
I hate the ghosting that goes on, on dating sites. Some guy contacted me last week (cute, professional), we emailed back and forth a few times and he seemed very eager to meet up for drinks. We were supposed to meet tonight so I emailed him yesterday to check in and sort out plans....I could tell he read my email but no response (so rude!!) .....Since I had to change my train schedule, sort out babysitting to plan this date I was pretty annoyed. So I blocked him and planned a new date with a new man. NEXT !

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #278 on: March 15, 2016, 08:27:12 AM »
One of the more odd but funny emails I received last night - "Your profile left me speechless. Maybe that's more appropriately termed mind-numb-cant think of- anything-clever-to-say. This might take some time for me to write something (ignoring the fact I just wrote this...)"

Thought I could make a few people smile today...Ill keep 'em coming.

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #279 on: March 15, 2016, 12:48:23 PM »
I always found the most confusing messages were the unsolicited penis pics... Does that ever work?! I became expert at knowing the block feature on the sites I was on.

And then I weeded through all the men and found a keeper. It was entertaining and funny and sometimes sad and lonely.

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #280 on: March 15, 2016, 08:57:55 PM »
I always found the most confusing messages were the unsolicited penis pics... Does that ever work?!

In a word, "Yes". That's why they do it. It's purely a numbers game. If the guy sends out 100 p pics and he gets 2 interested replies, he considers it a win. (Actually two wins) Believe me, there is always that percentage of any population that will respond to outrageous behavior.

The reverse happens too - morally broken women send unsolicited mommy part pictures to their targets. Many times, it gets a rise out them. Ummm. . . . . well, you know what I mean.  :-[

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #281 on: March 15, 2016, 09:36:50 PM »
I always found the most confusing messages were the unsolicited penis pics... Does that ever work?!

In a word, "Yes". That's why they do it. It's purely a numbers game. If the guy sends out 100 p pics and he gets 2 interested replies, he considers it a win. (Actually two wins) Believe me, there is always that percentage of any population that will respond to outrageous behavior.

The reverse happens too - morally broken women send unsolicited mommy part pictures to their targets. Many times, it gets a rise out them. Ummm. . . . . well, you know what I mean.  :-[

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I disagree. My sense is it's more of a kind of virtual assault; guys enjoy making women really uncomfortable with their junk.
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #282 on: March 16, 2016, 07:13:57 AM »

I disagree. My sense is it's more of a kind of virtual assault; guys enjoy making women really uncomfortable with their junk.

Not this guy!  I always enjoyed making one woman feel really "comfortable" with my junk.  Though it's been so long I don't know about that capability any longer.

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #283 on: March 16, 2016, 09:41:30 AM »
I'm an engineer, but I don't lay pipe! :-)

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Rob T

Darn! You don't?

momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #284 on: March 16, 2016, 09:43:53 AM »
I am an Engineer and I design pipelines, what's the big deal?

And if you messaged me on a dating site I would be suspicious now.
Why the scammers have chosen this MO, I have no idea!

No word of a lie, I've had at least 5 scammers like this!  😨
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