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Needytoo

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #465 on: May 02, 2016, 11:20:20 AM »
Great news CW!!

Sorry about your Friday night Momtojandj.  It does seem very rude. 

I also had problems with guys googling me and then having their picture show up on my facebook of people I may know.  It does bother me, I wish I was invisible online.

 Online dating and trust is a hard one that is for sure.  Once I feel the person isn't a nut case I am trying to be more open, which in all honesty isn't really that open but whatever I say isn't a lie. 

Wonderful story nonesuch.

 Still chatting with this 60 year old fellow and mentioned that I am getting quotes for some renovations.  I thought it was a pretty innocent ice breaker.  He is giving me great advice and actually offered to come look at my windows because he use to be a contractor before his retirement.  Wasn't expecting that.  We still haven't met in person and I told him I would think about it.  My brain has no idea what is the correct thing to do.  I need to trust but I also don't want to be a chump.  Or what if I go with another contractor and he thinks I am an asshole?  Advise wise daters.

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #466 on: May 07, 2016, 07:28:38 PM »
Nuthin to do with dating - be very cautious doing business with a friend. You don't have to use him because you had coffee together, any more than you have to hire your sister's husband because he's "in the business."  If he's feeling he did you a favor, and you're not happy with the job, it's awkward.

 

Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs.....
« Reply #467 on: May 08, 2016, 09:24:54 AM »
Ok.. Help me figure this out .. this is the second time I have received a friend request on Facebook  from a guy I spoke to online, but never met in person . Both guys we had just chatted , and after awhile if they don't ask me out I stop responding . Odd ! Why friend request me ? You didn't ask me out when you had your shot...
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momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #468 on: May 08, 2016, 10:06:29 AM »
Ok.. Help me figure this out .. this is the second time I have received a friend request on Facebook  from a guy I spoke to online, but never met in person . Both guys we had just chatted , and after awhile if they don't ask me out I stop responding . Odd ! Why friend request me ? You didn't ask me out when you had your shot...

Did they have your full name?
Sometimes even without a last name and just some other tidbits of info you can find a lot in a search. They have probably done a search and found you. Or, if you searched them, you could show up as people they might know.

In any case, if you haven't met, and they haven't asked you out, ignore the request. Even if you have met, it's not a valid reason to be friends on Facebook.

Safety over anything.

momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #469 on: May 08, 2016, 10:12:20 AM »
So date I was supposed to have tonight, I finally texted at 7:30 for him to say he was still at work . ( he's an hour to home, then 30 minutes to meet me half way ) Told him we can meet another night, not thinking positive anymore about this one. Something seems off. Sigh .. I don't get it .. Go online to meet people, but it's all games . How old are we ?!?!

Next!!!

You deserve  more!

Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #470 on: May 08, 2016, 10:16:40 AM »
Momtokam, neither knew my full name and I didn't know theirs , so I never searched for them on Facebook. One had my cell number , we texted but he never asked me out. Th other we only talked on the site . I wouldn't friend them , odd !
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momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #471 on: May 08, 2016, 10:25:59 AM »
They must have done a little searching with what little they knew.

I've tried searches on myself with the minimal info I have given out in the past. It shocked me how much came up! I became much more careful after that. It didn't help that DH's death was very public.

nonesuch

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #472 on: May 08, 2016, 12:04:42 PM »
Maybe they did an image search on Google? did you use the same pictures from your Facebook page for your dating  profile?

Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #473 on: May 08, 2016, 12:33:24 PM »
Maybe they did an image search on Google? did you use the same pictures from your Facebook page for your dating  profile?




I change my profile a lot. So not necessarily is it the same. But geez if guys have that much time to findme ? Lol
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TalksToAngels

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #474 on: May 08, 2016, 05:04:26 PM »
Part of dating site madness.
There is a link between the dating sites and email addresses which connect to FB.
Just like 3rd party "cookies" which enable businesses to view internet activity.
Not too much is private.
« Last Edit: May 08, 2016, 11:37:27 PM by TalksToAngels »

nonesuch

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #475 on: May 09, 2016, 10:11:58 AM »
You can tighten your Facebook profile.  I haven't gotten any weird requests since I have, not even ___sent you a friend request.

widowat33

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #476 on: May 09, 2016, 02:23:06 PM »
So even though I was adamant that I would not pursue dating again..about a month ago I found myself on an online dating website. I'm not sure if it was loneliness, or just curiosity..
So I've been chatting with a few guys for the past month..I move very slowly,lol..
On Wednesday I have finally committed to meeting one in particular. We talked on the phone the other night..for six hours,lol. We've been texting, he took his profile down, I didn't ask why.. Anyways I've been very straight forward with him that I'm looking for friends, not necessarily a relationship, and he's really good about it. So we will see what happens...

Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #477 on: May 10, 2016, 08:46:07 PM »
I so need a break again from online, so many fake people on there . One guy got mad because I said I wasn't interested since his profile said he smokes, he responds I don't smoke! Um ok.. Another one emailed me, then says where exactly is the town I live ( which is listed ) I tell him and he says too far.. Um you emailed me, look up the town first before emailing me.  Starting to think the chances of finding someone online is as good as winning the lottery . So discouraged :-(
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Captains wife

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #478 on: May 11, 2016, 08:00:14 AM »
Sorry Momtojandj - I have been there ! Online dating IS frustrating and I feel that many men don't have interests aligned with mine but pretend they do for physical reasons. And the ghosting just sucks....So I hope I can provide some words of encouragement. I was getting serious dating fatigue recently - had the ghosting issue, some crazy dates and I felt so frustrated and pissed off with the whole process. I felt burned by my last relationship as well.

I feel when it gets like this you should take a little time away from online and return when you feel you can stomach it again. Or try another site. Then come back to it with a sense of humor and open mind. And I know there are good men out there and we just need to weed through the "undesirables" to find them. Very unexpectedly, I ended up meeting (and am now dating) a guy I wasn't particularly taken with online but then we really clicked in person. And it happened when I was about to throw in the towel on dating generally as I was very discouraged....but I am glad I gave him a chance (as I ignored him at first and was actually kind of rude in my email as I was at that pissed off stage) and that he gave me a chance. Keep going when you are ready - but take a breather maybe and then return to it.....I wish you all the best - you deserve to find someone who will spoil you and treat you the way you SHOULD be treated.

TalksToAngels

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #479 on: May 11, 2016, 09:04:49 AM »
Dating sites are for dating.
I'm going to start a Relationship site.