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Needytoo

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #495 on: May 27, 2016, 06:03:18 AM »
I think I found out why that guy stood me up for our coffee date because he forgot.  Last night he messaged me that he isn't doing very well, his prosthetics are making it very hard to walk.  I don't want to sound like a shallow human being but is this something you should or shouldn't tell someone early when you are dating?   

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #496 on: May 27, 2016, 09:14:31 AM »
I think I found out why that guy stood me up for our coffee date because he forgot.  Last night he messaged me that he isn't doing very well, his prosthetics are making it very hard to walk.  I don't want to sound like a shallow human being but is this something you should or shouldn't tell someone early when you are dating?

I guess I belong to the camp that tends towards not sharing any physical limitations in an online profile or initial phone call/text. They will be evident when you first meet.

A date may not find that important or even noteworthy.

If you are unwilling to further your relationship with this guy due to him having a prosthetic limb, let him know immediately. However, if you liked most of the other aspects of himself that he shared, I urge you to  meet with him.

However - the fact that he forgot the date would signal, to me at least, a lack of consideration.

Good luck - Mike
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #497 on: May 27, 2016, 10:22:06 AM »
Personally, I think that disclosure of significant limitations is a matter of honesty. I know that I will eventually ask someone to take on my risks, but I will be up front about those that I know. I don't know just what I will be willing to risk or accommodate to in a new relationship, but we all deserve openness from the start. My first husband never walked a day in his life. He was a great guy. But...I don't know that I could take on that kind of risk again, knowingly. I don't think that makes me shallow.

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arneal

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #498 on: May 27, 2016, 10:53:39 AM »
So I don't know if anyone has already posted this but I thought I would share. It's called Google reverse image search: https://ctrlq.org/google/images/

We're looking at and reading online profiles, but who knows if the images we see are for real, right? Just like there are services to find out about phone numbers and email addresses, this one gives you a way to search pictures. Just save one or more of the profile pics to your computer and then upload where indicated on the page. It will show you either similar or exact photos.

I posted earlier this month about a man who I met on a site that was just pushing all the right buttons; I used this search after considering (note, I did not act on it!) going to visit him. Come to find out, the reverse image search sent me to like three or four different LinkedIn profiles, each with slightly different names and related stories. I sent an email to him that read something like: 'So I think I told you I am into technology; anyway, one of my software algorithms returned multiple hits on your photos and I'll need to understand that before moving forward. If you're trying to maintain privacy, that's cool, but let's get on a video call to discuss.'

Can you hear the crickets?

No texts, no email response, nothing.

I'm sad, but relieved. As Steely Dan says in the song 'Babylon Sisters', love's not a game for me ... I'm not in this to hurt anyone or to get hurt. Be aware, my friends, and be safe!
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Needytoo

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #499 on: May 27, 2016, 12:10:13 PM »
You are correct Portside, I do feel the online conversation should remain very light.  I messaged him and told mentioned that I feel bad that he is in pain and reminded him when he is feeling better we should attempt the coffee date again. Deep down I am thinking this relationship isn't going any further than being online. 

That is very unsettling arneal, good thing you went with your instincts on that one.  I have to say I think I received my official scammer copy and paste message.  Very long message and he went on and on how beautiful I am.  He is says he is a widow as well.  Didn't fall for it.

arneal

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #500 on: May 27, 2016, 12:22:48 PM »
Yes, Needytoo: I tend not to be very trusting but got sucked in a bit on this one. However, I learn quickly and thank God without too much collateral damage ...
Andree'

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Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #501 on: May 27, 2016, 05:27:16 PM »
Googled a guy I had a date with other night, google says he's 55 not 50. Also can't find separate addresses for the ex wife and him . I did ask him today on phone if she lived close and he said yes. Hmm .. Not sure about this lol
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arneal

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #502 on: May 27, 2016, 05:45:16 PM »
Momto -- amazing, isn't it?  ::)
Andree'

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #503 on: May 28, 2016, 01:47:50 PM »
Googled a guy I had a date with other night, google says he's 55 not 50. Also can't find separate addresses for the ex wife and him . I did ask him today on phone if she lived close and he said yes. Hmm .. Not sure about this lol
Yes - many men lie about their age to date younger women. I was dating a guy from Newport that lied about his age for months until I snuck a look at his drivers license and caught him red handed. So unnecessary.

arneal

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #504 on: May 28, 2016, 02:03:57 PM »
Agreed! The crazy part about it is that I know on my profiles I put in the age range I'm interested in. I've had some younger men or men who don't fit my interests as listed try to reach out and I'm like, 'did you not read anything?' lol
Andree'

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SunshineFL

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #505 on: June 02, 2016, 09:20:44 PM »
If anyone needs an online dating laugh today, here you go.
A screenshot of a message I received today. 



Okay, well, I tried to attach the screenshot here in a low resolution, but that didn't work. Here is the message exchange retyped:

Him: "Baby, your profile is too long to read. Men in this site want to see pics and easy women. You're too intellectual for them. And they get bored reading you. I think you should change dating site."

Me:  "Love the honesty. I completely agree. Please tell me where the "highly evolved and intelligent humans" meeting site is and I'll jump right on that."

Before I could delete it, he replied back with the word "Me" - ugh!

Seriously - does anyone know of the "highly evolved and intelligent humans" site?
Sign me up.  :-\

This came after another man who would send me "good morning" notes or a random "hope you have a good day" message for about 5 days, and when I added a little reply of "good morning, my OKC pen pal," he replied with asking me out to meet each other: "Would you like to meet for coffee."
I answered - would you like to tell me your name first?
OMG!  :o
« Last Edit: June 03, 2016, 05:46:38 AM by SunshineFL »

momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #506 on: June 02, 2016, 09:26:50 PM »
Thank you for the laughs SunshineFL! 😂

SunshineFL

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #507 on: June 02, 2016, 09:35:59 PM »
  ;) We aim to please, @momtokam!  ;)
A little levity in the midst of the madness.

Okay, then, here is one more from today:

We both click on the "mutual likes" button.
Great.
He messages me a little note of introduction ...in short sound byte phrases, so OKC generates a separate email to my inbox for every single one of them! 15 all told!

Then he tells me his full name, that he is an interior designer with a showroom in my town and gives me the name of the company, tells me he is the CEO and he is sure I must have heard of them from their commercials.

Do people not check these things?  How long does it take to confirm online that information is completely false and there is no such company or interior designer here in Florida with that company name, or his name, etc. Blocked.

Okay, that one is more a vent than a laugh, but enjoy the madness nonetheless, friends!
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nonesuch

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #508 on: June 03, 2016, 09:40:21 PM »
Do people not check these things?  How long does it take to confirm online that information is completely false and there is no such company or interior designer here in Florida with that company name, or his name, etc.
While checking the offerings one morning, a fellow popped up in the chat box, declaring he'd go anywhere for love.  Hmmm, his profile lists his residence as only 20 miles away.  My sister lives in that little town.This would be easy! "Where's a good place to get pizza in ----?"  He told me he had to take a phone call.  He came back.  "So, Googling pizza parlors in ---?" I asked.   

  He was gone by that evening.

Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #509 on: June 04, 2016, 10:09:10 AM »
Ok, so I was chatting with a guy online , went ok then we talked on the phone , twice. Well his voice and the way he spoke about certain things just turned me off. In my gut said something was off , or just not for me. So I told him nicely today I wasn't meeting him. That didn't go well . Wasn't very nice about it. What was I supposed to do ? Still meet him ?
« Last Edit: June 04, 2016, 10:14:45 AM by Momtojandj »
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