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Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #555 on: June 24, 2016, 10:35:14 AM »
So I have to amend my answer, I actually have a date Sunday night with a guy I started contact with online . He then has asked me out, we have texted on phone . No phone call.. But that's ok . Public place . Funny thing is not sure he's really my type, but one of his pictures made me laugh and I sent more of a comment about it . So we shall see.
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #556 on: June 24, 2016, 06:21:23 PM »
Yeah to MomtoJandJ!

I had a few men contact me, getting on line first of Feb. 2016.  I swear they wanted a green card or were just lonely truckers.   A few contacted me and then ghosted when I replied.  :o Enter the NG.  I looked him up.  He had a soldiers' uniform on, in Iraq at one point.  I live next to one of the largest Army Posts, where my DH worked, too. So, I started with that, asking if he had been stationed there.  Turned out I missed the AF Officer uniform pic, so, no, but he still responded.  Told me he never would have looked at me due to the distance, out of his parameters, had I not contacted him first.   3 plus months, and we are together as a couple.  He jokes he was "plucked off the shelf" by me, likely an ego boost, but he changed his rules to see me  ;D.  So, there ya go... I got off line in March, too.  He is who he said he is, thankfully, based on the stories here.  Wow....
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momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #557 on: June 25, 2016, 12:56:19 PM »
Klim... I have on occasion contacted a guy , and it's never resulted in a date .

Same here...

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #558 on: June 25, 2016, 12:59:21 PM »
So I have to amend my answer, I actually have a date Sunday night with a guy I started contact with online . He then has asked me out, we have texted on phone . No phone call.. But that's ok . Public place . Funny thing is not sure he's really my type, but one of his pictures made me laugh and I sent more of a comment about it . So we shall see.

Good luck! :-)

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #559 on: June 26, 2016, 12:15:41 PM »
Interesting conversation while I have been off living life ...

I think the flip side of "a good man will pursue" is that "a good woman will make it clear she likes him".  I have made most of the initial moves, but if I am getting mixed signals or a woman is reading "The Rules" and deciding to play hard to get, I will cut my losses.  There's a difference between a woman who's got a busy life but makes time for me, and a woman following a rule book, and a woman who's just not that interested.  I don't mind not interested, it happens every day, but it's best if that's apparent.  I understand and accept a lack of response, given what women get from some fools.

On the topic of women initiating, I have had that result in several dates, including a woman I had a nice time dating last summer.  For me, I am sometimes getting offers from Large Marge the cowgirl from Nebraska who looks rode hard and hung up wet, or someone else from pointlessly far away, and I don't want it to go anywhere.  Anyone initiating must remember it's still subject to the other person's selection criteria and not take rejection personally.  I'd say ask if you're comfortable, and you might get guys who like that and to heck with those who don't - could be a nice fool filter.  And it can give you some perspective about how smokin' low guys' response rates can be!

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #560 on: June 26, 2016, 04:34:14 PM »
Update from the North.  I have no issue starting the conversation with a guy and a few of them have resulted in coffee dates.  Still getting messages from one legged man, he has stood me up twice thinking of blocking him. Still more of the guys asking what I do for a living before even asking my name but the mystery is solved thanks to my dental hygienist who has the scoop on everything.  According to her the guys in our area are sick and tired of the welfare Moms. Guess that makes sense.
Another guy messaged me last week to hang out in his second sentence. Honestly not sure how to take this but maybe I shouldn't be so critical.  That is the point isn't, to meet the person face to face.
Another interesting development, I belong to an online facebook for single ladies over 40. There are members from all over the world, wouldn't you know one of the members lives in the same town as me.  We both are going to go to the Speed Dating together, and the 45-55 group is the largest.  Go figure. The next Speed Dating even is July 23 and I can't wait. 

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #561 on: June 27, 2016, 09:21:50 AM »
he has stood me up twice thinking of blocking him.

I would block any man that stood me up - you can do so much better.

Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #562 on: June 27, 2016, 12:48:27 PM »
Ok, date from last night changed to Tuesday night . So I will let you all know how that goes. However , chatted with another online seemed nice , pics good. Then he sends me a recent one thru my phone.. Um Ok , the pictures online are easy 10 years old based on his recent ! Geez... I hate online !
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #563 on: June 28, 2016, 11:06:46 PM »
he has stood me up twice thinking of blocking him.

I would block any man that stood me up - you can do so much better.
He's got an excuse: he's only got one leg!!  ;D

...unless she meant he has one he doesn't walk on LOL!!

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #564 on: June 28, 2016, 11:08:23 PM »
Ok, date from last night changed to Tuesday night . So I will let you all know how that goes. However , chatted with another online seemed nice , pics good. Then he sends me a recent one thru my phone.. Um Ok , the pictures online are easy 10 years old based on his recent ! Geez... I hate online !

Doncha know cameras add 10 years on to the subjects...or is that kilograms??  :-\

Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #565 on: June 29, 2016, 06:54:58 PM »
So was supposed to have two dates this week.. One ghosted and other fizzled out.  I don't want to do this anymore . Make small talk , talk about myself to have them poof . It's tedious, I deleted the dating site I was on, went to try a new one and just don't want to !  I think I'm in need of a break , refocus .. Maybe I'm going about it wrong , I don't know anymore .
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #566 on: June 30, 2016, 08:46:58 AM »
I had a meet and greet last night.  When I showed up he was standing outside waiting for me.  When he smiled his teeth were as............yellow as the SUN!  Come one people!  Buy some Crest White Strips or something!  It's not that difficult!

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #567 on: June 30, 2016, 11:01:21 AM »
stillwidowed;

I'm with you, bad teeth is a deal breaker for me. 

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Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #568 on: June 30, 2016, 12:26:51 PM »
I have an issue with teeth too, if I can't see teeth in their pictures online.. I'm convinced they have none or are yellow... Lol
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #569 on: June 30, 2016, 01:36:43 PM »
Or they're a vampire.  Seriously, don't date vampires. It's not like Twilight, you'll never get past the age difference and the fact that you'll never agree on a restaurant