Author Topic: On line dating vents and laughs......  (Read 161503 times)

fairlanegirl

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #585 on: July 06, 2016, 03:09:40 AM »
So it  drives me crazy when I try and send a message to someone the same age as me and I get blocked by a message such as "Soulseeker only accept messages from females ages 24- 45" and he's 53.

I was fortunate to hook up with someone a similar age I knew before, and never went online, but I guess at least this is one way to sort the wheat from the chaff (ie the tossers with overinflated ideas of their own attractiveness :-) )

Needytoo

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #586 on: July 06, 2016, 07:00:04 AM »
Been chatting with one guy who gave me his cell number and wanted me to text which was my intention on doing.  I really have stepped up my work outs doing classes at lunches and in the evening and by the time I get my chores done it is after 9 at night and I just don't feel like sitting there texting someone so I haven't.  Going to try texting today and see how it is goes. 

arneal

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #587 on: July 06, 2016, 11:31:38 AM »
Yeah, crazy isn't it, klim? I had a guy check my profile and when I went to the site to see his, he'd blocked me. What is that? I've had young people (like, younger than my 30 year old) reach out as well as those above my age range. I have a wide age range (or so I thought), but it would be nice if some folks read the profile once in a while ...
Andree'

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TofinoMan

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #588 on: July 07, 2016, 11:50:36 PM »
This whole ordeal sounds more like torture than it ever should be.

Doesn't anyone just meet someone else while out anymore?

I have a daughter named Boo, a dog called Stick, and a truck named Zane Grey. My neighbors think I am nuts when they hear me yell Boo and Stick get in Zane.
Best part is neighbors leave the crazy guy alone.....

Virgo

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #589 on: July 09, 2016, 02:07:47 AM »
I haven't tried online dating sites . Most of my connections have been made through friends or Facebook. I did step out if my comfort zone and contacted a guy first through Facebook. All of the others contacted me first. We messaged for almost 3 hours.
Jen

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arneal

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #590 on: July 09, 2016, 10:09:41 AM »
Good for you, Virgo. Enjoy and be safe!
Tofino -- yes, the online thing is ... weird. Weirder than it should be, in my opinion. I'd like to meet someone in a more ordinary way, but tend toward being an introvert by nature (outside all the mayhem that widowhood can cause) so I don't go many places and my neighborhood isn't as neighborly as I'm used to, so this seems the best option.
On Facebook though, I've noticed I've been getting random friend requests from men who have no connection to me and who, after further investigation, have fake profiles. No matter where you are trying to meet people, be vigilant. I check phone numbers when people offer them quickly; if the area code is far away from the place they say they are from, I ask what's up. Some people say that they used to live in the place where the phone number is from (no problem there -- my son still has a Jersey # even though we've lived in CA for many years), but if I don't get any answer? Yeah, I start wondering what's up.
Andree'

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Virgo

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #591 on: July 09, 2016, 11:29:25 AM »
Everyone I talk to on Facebook are my friends or suggested friends, so friends of my friends. The guy I messaged is a LEO. :) I agree with you Arneal, I don't accept friend requests from anyone I don't know. I always get a few when I change my profile picture...delete.
Jen

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #592 on: July 09, 2016, 06:03:15 PM »
Next thing you know this elderly gentleman has followed me over to my picnic bench and asks me to dance. of course I couldn't refuse. During the dance I found out he was 80.

You made that gentleman's day.

arneal

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #593 on: July 12, 2016, 02:32:08 PM »
So despite having a main interest who I met online (and who I have been out with), I still have my profile up on this one particular site. I gave my alternate number to a couple of guys and we have texted. I am slightly annoyed at their terms of endearment (sweetie, honey, dear) or the one's 'romantic' overtures (the other day he writes, 'I woke up thinking of the most beautiful person I know - you') because they don't know me. Just can't be satisfied lol!
Andree'

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Needytoo

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #594 on: July 12, 2016, 04:34:02 PM »
Loved your story Kilm.

Ghosting? What is up with that.  I did text one guy and we chatted back and forth and I thought we were going to make plans to meet, and then poof no response  I see he is online all the time too, am I suppose to keep messaging him?  I don't get it. 

One legged guy messaged me and I told him I think we are done.  Two coffee dates and he didn't show up for both. 

Another guy has messaged me twice asking me over to his place.  Not once has he even asked my name.  I am no expert but sounds like he wants a booty call or maybe he just doesn't know what the heck he is doing online.  We are having a local reunion party weekend in our area and I told him maybe I will see him there.  Hint hint there buddy I am giving you an opening.  His response was "have a great time".  Seriously, what the heck. 

Lastly this one is for the books.  I belong to this women over 40 dating support site. There are women from all over the world on it and wouldn't you know it there was a women from my area.  Online she seemed great so I suggested maybe we can try speed dating or going to single dances together.  We got together last weekend. Three hours she talked.  To keep it short the woman is a little off. Now because of my big mouth she is going to a concert this weekend with me.  Seriously, I am an idiot.

Arneal your message put a smile on my face, thanks sweetie. lol

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #595 on: July 12, 2016, 05:26:58 PM »
Oh, Needy! I am so sorry to admit that I had to laugh about your 'sister friend' who you've now discovered is a bit off ... sigh.

On the booty call or fast moving folks, I am continually amazed. Maybe I'm just old-fashioned but despite the fact that I'd like to be close to a man, I'm not going to jump out there at the first thing breathing and who makes the suggestion. I had a phone conversation yesterday with the one guy I am texting (one of the 'babe, sweetie' fellows ... it's a good thing he's cute lol), who told me all about why he liked me and although he is aware that we don't live close and I am interested in connecting with someone nearby, he was willing to 'make it work' (huh? make what work? you don't know me!). I let him know that I am not much of a phone person to sit and chit chat, at which point he went on to tell me that he likes to talk and so I could listen. We laughed about it and then he said if things got too quiet, he would 'make me talk'. Again I say, huh? I told him that would probably be more difficult to do than to say and we laughed. I hope that he doesn't get too weird about it.
Andree'

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #596 on: July 12, 2016, 08:31:52 PM »
Haven't been online in months. Got tired of it decided to take a break. Honestly I don't miss it right now. It's a lot of work. My oldest sister now has a boyfriend that she met on match. He lives about 10 minutes from me , she's 2 hours away.  Go figure!  Meanwhile I have managed to book all but 1 weekend out of the next 8. I will say this for on-line dating. It allowed me to "meet" a large cross cut of society. I dated guys I would never meet in real life. Some were very intersting and fun and a few were boring. Then of course I met several who were just intrested in hooking up. It really made me broaden what I think I'm looking for and helped me relize  some of my deal breakers really aren't as big of a deal as I thought they were.  It also made me relize that as much as I say I want a serious committed relationship I really wasn't ready for one. I might go back online again at somepoint . Taking a break really for me has ended up being a good thing.

Needytoo

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #597 on: July 13, 2016, 06:52:56 AM »
I am glad that I made you laugh Arneal, and I have to add some more information just for your enjoyment.  The lady that I met she is a Sexologist and I got to here all the details.  :o

You are so correct imissdow this online dating is so hard, I try not to let it get to me but it is hard not to. 

arneal

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #598 on: July 13, 2016, 10:21:25 AM »
Ha, Needy! I imagine there were quite a few 'too much information' moments during that conversation!

imissdow -- yes, online dating is like a job! Interviewing, vetting, second rounds, rejections on both sides. Whew!
Andree'

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #599 on: July 17, 2016, 06:51:34 PM »
Haven't posted on this thread in quite a while - thought I would check in with friends here and see how you are all doing?

(Looks like I have a lot to catch up on, so instead of "quote" - I'll refer to post reply #s.)

Reply #572 @momtojandj - I hear you with the ghosting. Don't get it at all. I think it is just some weird "fun" for those not really desiring to make real connections.  How are things going with those guys you were texting with, by the way?  When you wrote: "Second one , actually sparked my interest .. Send me a video on my phone to show he was real.."   I know how great you are and always thinking the initial best of others, but that sentence "red flagged" for me - a guy sending a video to your phone seems even more "not real" or possibly hiding something. Be cautious, please.  That can be a video of anyone, anywhere, anytime. No modicum of effort to respectfully meet you in person....no thanks.

Reply #573 @robunknown - Loved, loved, loved your approach to making the online connection with women and setting up a meeting after an actual phone conversation. Confident, smart, effective, well-planned and thoughtful. How are things going by you?

Reply #575 @TofinoMan - You are too early out for me to be lighthearted about dating and such with you (that is a personal refection of mine in caring for your recently and deeply wounded heart right now, not a comment at all about whenever the time will be right for you to date) .... that all said, I think that lovely post of yours sent a ripple effect of some smiles and some swooning around the globe to many who read it.  Hope you are doing well this week. Sending good thoughts all the way up by you in BC.

Reply #576 @arneal - This post and several of your others made me smile at your strength and approach to this online dating madness. I love how you are being brave and also checking yourself with "reality checks" here and there. So, how are things with this gentleman you have been enjoying. So nice to hear and so deserved.

Reply #583 @klim - So brave and optimistic of you to reach out seeking new healthy connections with new people. I know your recent breakup was hard on you, but you seem, from what you are posting that you have such a healing approach and know yourself well. Have you been able to dodge the randy octogenarians  :o and gone out on any dates with those more in an age range that you are comfortable with?  How are things going?  I hope well.

Reply #586 @needytoo - Did you get in contact with the texter you were mentioning? I don't think you need to feel badly about not wanting to get into lengthy texting chats with people you don't know. Maybe finding a mutually convenient time to chat on the phone, set a date to meet and use text for convenience later after you know each other. I was just wondering. I know it was a while ago. How are you doing?

Reply #569 @imissdow - " I might go back online again at some point . Taking a break really for me has ended up being a good thing."  Me, too. Well said - I'm with you there ... but if my "beshert" happens to introduce himself to me in real time, I'm paying attention (and would love that)!  ;)

I hope I didn't leave out any recent posters - if so, please just join in - was just a quick snapshot of posts I missed and thought I'd stop in and say hi. I don't have any real vents or laughs to contribute - been focusing on new directions in my work and enjoying the summer and starting to plan another move, so let's call that "good busy."  8)

Looking forward to all the check-in posts; here to support and encourage each other and share more love in the world - we all (and the world) truly need it.
Chat soon, friends.





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