On line dating vents and laughs......

[SemperFidelis]

Okay I thought I would see if I could dig up my old profile summary, and I succeeded. This profile yielded my amazing ch2, and I did get quite a few responses from guys who seemed lovely and decent (but just not for picky picky me) and spent some time on their initial messages to me. I did also still get responses from people way outside my stated age range. I remember one fella was in his 80s. Yeesh.


"Strenuous long hikes in the wilderness are what I look forward to every week, ending each night with a thought-provoking book about neurology, psychiatry, war, or theoretical physics.  Add my dogs into the picture, and I am content.

Integrity, patience, dedication, courage, honesty, perseverance, humility, wisdom.....these are the virtues I strive to embody, and I look for the same on others.

I am testing the waters here on Match. It takes a lot to get me away from my little paradise in the woods, but with the right bait I'll emerge. "

[arneal]

I love that, Semper! I wish I'd saved the one that I had on the site where I met my current prospect ... don't remember what his said either, but the cool thing about the site was that you could indicate interest in someone and if they indicated interest back, the two of you could message one another as much as you wanted for free. We sent a few messages and he sent me his #; I sent him mine and he called in about five minutes. We set up a lunch date and the rest is unfolding now. Guess that means something I wrote and said was working lol!

[StillWidowed]

Here was mine.......

I enjoy strenuous long periods of time on the couch while watching The Kardashians, ending each night with a titillating book like 50 Shades of Grey.  Add my ability to break out into night sweats before I even fall asleep and I have another sleepless night!

The ability to know the difference between their, there and they’re, and you’re over half way their…wait they’re….crap, there!

I am testing the waters on this seemingly website of freaks.  It takes a lot to get me off the couch, but with the promise of a really big cheeseburger, I’ll emerge.

No wonder I can’t get any dates……

[SemperFidelis]

Here was mine.......

I enjoy strenuous long periods of time on the couch while watching The Kardashians, ending each night with a titillating book like 50 Shades of Grey.  Add my ability to break out into night sweats before I even fall asleep and I have another sleepless night!

The ability to know the difference between their, there and they’re, and you’re over half way their…wait they’re….crap, there!

I am testing the waters on this seemingly website of freaks.  It takes a lot to get me off the couch, but with the promise of a really big cheeseburger, I’ll emerge.

No wonder I can’t get any dates……

Lol, hahaha, I think I just died a little of laughter. 

Please for the love of god, someone go forth and use that profile and come back with the results!

[SemperFidelis]

but the cool thing about the site was that you could indicate interest in someone and if they indicated interest back, the two of you could message one another as much as you wanted for free.

Cool template for a site - so if I understand right, no messaging unless mutual interest was expressed? If so, it seems like this would effectively weed out the nasties.

[arneal]

Right, Semper -- that's how it was most likely intended. However, there was still the lack of reading on the part of some who expressed interest.
For example, I had one guy message me who lived in Virginia or somewhere. After the first few messages, he asked when I was coming there. I said I wasn't and asked when he was coming to California. He said he wasn't. I said, 'Good luck with your search.' He replied with something like, 'Oh, that was quick.' To which I responded with a bit of logic: If I'm not traveling and you're not traveling, it seems our ability to meet would be um ... limited. He answered with an 'okay' and asked if I was on the site for a hookup. When I said no, he ghosted. The next person I got a like from is the guy I've been seeing. Didn't go back on after that, other than for a quick look around once and then to delete my profile.

[klim]

Arneal that sounds like Tinder...

So.... I let one guy know I wasn't interested ia second date saying he was nice but I didn't think our activities/ interest matched...He texted back

"LOLhahaha"
"Too Shallow"

I did not understand so expanded "I like hiking you like antique hunting ec.

He responded "well you were too old but I didn't care, you said it!"  ( he was 49 and I'm 54)

I have no idea what his problem was but as you can see that is why I wanted advice about letting them down easy........and I also think I'm happy I made the call as early as I did based on how he handled it.

[SemperFidelis]

Klim, I think some men will start behaving childish with ANY rejection. (And I am sure some women behave the same). For some, there just is no such thing as an easy letdown. You can only Do the best you can do, and how they respond is up to them.

[nonesuch]

In one of my profiles I wrote that I could patch sheet rock, mow my own lawn, and swap out the kitchen faucet on my own.  One man replied that he was good at watching joint compound dry, like to watch grass grow, and could turn faucets on and off.  Yes, we went out for a while, but we were at different places in our lives.  He was looking for someone ready to retire.

[arneal]

klim - that reminds me of the guy who told me I should put a sign on my lawn that I was looking for someone close by. Some people will be jerks via online media. Doubt they'd have the stones to say it in a face to face situation. Although, I wouldn't bet on it 

[nonesuch]

I've encountered a couple folks who didn't add a picture to their profiles.  One was a doctor who wrote he didn't want his patients trying to fix him up.  Another was a local radio personality.

Current Beau was careful about dating people in his home town:  He was on the city council at the time.  e didn't want to deal with gossip, or accusations that this woman or that one got a variance for zoning or got a ticket "fixed" or whatever.  He dated a couple discreet women, but was glad I lived in another town.

[SemperFidelis]

I've encountered a couple folks who didn't add a picture to their profiles.  One was a doctor who wrote he didn't want his patients trying to fix him up.  Another was a local radio personality.

Current Beau was careful about dating people in his home town:  He was on the city council at the time.  e didn't want to deal with gossip, or accusations that this woman or that one got a variance for zoning or got a ticket "fixed" or whatever.  He dated a couple discreet women, but was glad I lived in another town.

I was contacted on Match by a guy without a picture but he promptly sent one by email. He explained that he was a local attorney and wanted some privacy. Made sense to me.

[arneal]

If you use Google Chrome, you can right-click on the photo and search Google for it. That way you can find out if it's been used on scammer profiles. There's also https://ctrlq.org/google/images/ for Google reverse image search if you don't use Chrome

[Needytoo]

Not sure if it is just the bad luck odds from dating sites but I am attracting some weird ones again.  Here is my profile any advice I would greatly appreciate it. 

I can swing a hammer (but I wouldn’t stand too close, seriously stand back a bit), kayak, zip line, and get thrown gracefully off a sea do. But there’s a lot more to me than that, I’m a traditional and sophisticated/outdoor, lady who loves to have fun and let loose.

Here’s what I figure, I’m living my life enjoying my friends and family, seeing and exploring new places, challenging my mind and body and inspiring others to live their best lives. I am very outgoing but sometimes I just like to sit back and listen.

Meantime, I keep learning and getting inspired by taking all kinds of classes from yoga, meditation to the arts. I have to say I am more connected to life and living in the moment than ever before. I am loving life but still missing that connection that amazing wow factor of life.

One of my favorite places on this planet is sitting on the beach at Windy Lake watching my dog swim and just observing the waves and the landscape. Combine that with the right man would be one of my ideal perfect portrait of a wonderful day.

You understand that being bold and gentle, adventurous and kind can co-exist. You also have created some security and success in your life, but that doesn’t define you….you know there is so much more. Maybe you haven’t travelled the world but you accepted your past and who you are. If you’re smiling and this sounds good, get in touch with me and let’s talk.

[SemperFidelis]

Needytoo, looks great to me! I laughed at the first line!

I don't necessarily think there's a strong correlation between the quality of a profile and the weirdos it attracts.....I think the weirdos will respond to anything.   And sometimes too there's just a lull in whose out there... I checked match every month for three months and saw a few recurring faces but plenty of new ones each month.