Not sure if it is just the bad luck odds from dating sites but I am attracting some weird ones again. Here is my profile any advice I would greatly appreciate it.
I can swing a hammer (but I wouldn’t stand too close, seriously stand back a bit), kayak, zip line, and get thrown gracefully off a sea do. But there’s a lot more to me than that, I’m a traditional and sophisticated/outdoor, lady who loves to have fun and let loose.
Here’s what I figure, I’m living my life enjoying my friends and family, seeing and exploring new places, challenging my mind and body and inspiring others to live their best lives. I am very outgoing but sometimes I just like to sit back and listen.
Meantime, I keep learning and getting inspired by taking all kinds of classes from yoga, meditation to the arts. I have to say I am more connected to life and living in the moment than ever before. I am loving life but still missing that connection that amazing wow factor of life.
One of my favorite places on this planet is sitting on the beach at Windy Lake watching my dog swim and just observing the waves and the landscape. Combine that with the right man would be one of my ideal perfect portrait of a wonderful day.
You understand that being bold and gentle, adventurous and kind can co-exist. You also have created some security and success in your life, but that doesn’t define you….you know there is so much more. Maybe you haven’t travelled the world but you accepted your past and who you are. If you’re smiling and this sounds good, get in touch with me and let’s talk.
Needy – If you don’t mind, I’ll offer my comments. A profile and how it impacts a reader is a very personal thing. Just because it leaves one person lukewarm, doesn’t mean it isn’t a great one so please accept my comments in that spirit. Thanks!
First off, very well-written – it flows nicely, spelling and syntax are great and you made fine use of paragraphs. That’s not important to many but for others, poor writing skills make one winch.
As a guy, however, it just doesn’t reach out and grab me. (The hammer comment does though! Good one!
) In general the profile leads a guy to come to the idea that you are on an ongoing quest for self-improvement and that this is important to you. While, I think we can all agree that is a wonderful and worthy goal, that is not what a man wants to read in a profile. I know, I know – what could be wrong with that you ask yourself. Rightly or wrongly, most men don’t care about that. We aren’t interested in your self-growth. Oh, it is certainly a commendable way to live, but guys don’t want to hear about your yoga or meditation activities. That’s girly stuff. We want to know if you would be a good fit for me. Self-centered yes, but that is how it is. A man’s take may be – after all this self-improvement stuff, she’s gonna come after me with it and he’ll run screaming from the room. And “living in the moment” is a meaningless phrase to us. That phrase means nothing to a guy other than what they hear if listening to advertisements on the Lifetime channel or scan the magazines’ covers in the checkout line at the grocery store.
I mentioned earlier in the thread how one must be careful to write for your prospective matches, not your own sex. Portions of the last paragraph – “Maybe you haven’t travelled the world but you accepted your past and who you are.” - will confuse most men. What does traveling the world have to do with my past? Does traveling necessarily mean I have accepted my past? What does ‘accepting my past’ even mean? I haven’t accepted who I am? Wait – what? It’s confusing is all I am saying. Men are, by and large, simple creatures who don’t want to read a profile that causes them to ponder more questions than it answers.
I’m not sure a profile itself attracts or repels creepizoids or the weird. They don’t read profiles for content anyway. They are primarily looking for the desperate and the weak but will toy with a well-adjusted woman if she offers herself. Writing a profile in a particular way will not deter them. I suppose you just have to put up with them until you weed them out.
As I said, what jumps out and reaches me is only one man’s opinion. Please take it as food for thought only.
Good luck! Mike
