Author Topic: On line dating vents and laughs......  (Read 146632 times)

arneal

  • Member
  • Posts: 647
    • The Starving Activist
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #810 on: September 15, 2016, 02:38:05 PM »
Good for you, CaptainsWife! From all the newfangled dating info I've been reading, keeping your options open is what helps you find that right one. You aren't sitting around, waiting for it to fall in your lap.

The 'kissing like teenagers' made me smile. Yes, nothing like good kissing for sure :) NG and I went to a comedy club last weekend and for the first time it was like a storybook date ... holding hands, arm around me, all that. Not used to it at all, but it was nice. My former husband was affectionate but we didn't do this sort of stuff much and when we did, he kept his affections since I wasn't really into it. First husband was abusive, so there's that. But now, I'm ready :)
Andree'

Seek peace, and pursue it - Psalm 34:14b

Momtojandj

  • Member
  • Posts: 276
  • Widowed since 10/2012 . Living in NJ
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #811 on: September 15, 2016, 08:26:55 PM »
So I had a guy email me on match , say I'm a great girl , loves my profile but he's worried about distance . He's maybe an hour away . He emails me a few times, I'm thinking um ok why are you chatting with me , if you feel distance is an issue . Then he stopped. Honestly I don't care. My new horrible attitude. Sigh .
"To love another person is to see the face of God "

arneal

  • Member
  • Posts: 647
    • The Starving Activist
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #812 on: September 15, 2016, 10:43:36 PM »
Momto -- that's not a horrible attitude. If he was interested for real, he'd do more than send an email occasionally. Okay, so you're worried about distance; are you willing to overcome it? That's a half hour for each of you if you met in the middle. Not a deal breaker, or shouldn't be. Now if he's hoping you'll chase him, there's that. However, if you're not feeling it's worth the effort, don't do it.
Andree'

Seek peace, and pursue it - Psalm 34:14b

Justme2

  • Guest
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #813 on: September 15, 2016, 11:15:50 PM »
How does he know you're a great girl if he's never met you ?
I don't get it and gave up a long time ago. But everyone keeps going right back ( ;
« Last Edit: September 15, 2016, 11:32:07 PM by Justme2 »

Momtojandj

  • Member
  • Posts: 276
  • Widowed since 10/2012 . Living in NJ
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #814 on: September 16, 2016, 06:26:15 AM »
Arneal, I'm ok with distance , because where I live I realize I need to be more realistic and expand the distance. He's the one that said he believes I'm too far. Then emails a few times , no mention of meeting, so I wrote him off as he wants a pen pal and that's not for me.

Justme2.... He assumes by my pictures and my profile, that I'm a great girl. The reason I keep going back and trying online is because I have to believe there is someone out there for me , and the chances of meeting someone in real life is just as hard.. So try all avenues .
"To love another person is to see the face of God "

SunshineFL

  • Member
  • Posts: 168
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #815 on: September 16, 2016, 06:55:18 AM »
@momtojanaj at least he wasn't this guy who "liked" me this morning....
"I'm a romantic, passionate, single and active 53 years, 5'6", 185 lbs. looking for a loving, sweet woman to share all of life's adventures together in a strong partnership of honesty, trust and love. My herpes has been dormant with no outbreaks for more than ten years but I believe its better to be honest up front so there are no surprises when it comes time for intimacy
I'm looking for the same and I hope you are to."
Bonus:
His stats said he was 46.
 :o

nonesuch

  • Guest
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #816 on: September 16, 2016, 08:12:57 AM »
Okay, I like honesty as well as the next person. (It's over-rated, like controlling depression with therapy alone)

"My herpes has been under control..." is like saying,  "Anyone who dates me will have to pass muster with Mr. Boots and Fluffikins."  It may be true, but do you really want to lead with this information?

I would never be intimate without passing on this information. I figure it's in my own best interest to give men an opportunity to experience my warmth and wit, first. In fact, no man has ever back out after hearing this info.  I don't know whether this means I truly an warm and witty, or men are congenitally pre-disposed to take every opportunity to get lucky. I suspect it is the second.

Virgo

  • Member
  • Posts: 892
  • Location:Indiana Widowed:2/4/14
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #817 on: September 16, 2016, 08:48:10 PM »
Mentioning herpes in your profile? Wow! He should be honest and forth coming when intimacy is discussed, not in his profile!

My guy and I are still talking and seeing each other almost daily.  It still feels very comfortable.  Earlier today we went shopping for items for his new house. Tonight we're going out.
Jen

"Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened." Dr. Seuss

SunshineFL

  • Member
  • Posts: 168
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #818 on: September 16, 2016, 11:18:19 PM »

My guy and I are still talking and seeing each other almost daily.  It still feels very comfortable.  Earlier today we went shopping for items for his new house. Tonight we're going out.

Happy for you.
Nice how you are staying present with it @virgo ...enjoy, so deserved.

arneal

  • Member
  • Posts: 647
    • The Starving Activist
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #819 on: September 18, 2016, 05:25:07 PM »
Oh, Sunshine! Herpes? Really?! Yes, honesty is a good thing but wow, this takes it to a new level.

NG and I are still doing our weekends. I realized last week that I get to about Wednesday or Thursday and end up texting him about the weekend; I decided not to do it this week and was pleasantly surprised that he reached out. He's sometimes more of an introvert than I am :) He also mentioned plans for next weekend before leaving my place, which is cool.

Funny on the communication thing: I was fretting for a while because we don't talk during the week. Then I realized we actually do -- on Facebook LOL! In this day and age, being able to share public but private conversations (last night we were talking about flowers and continued it online today -- nobody would have a clue as to what started it) on social media is communication ...
Andree'

Seek peace, and pursue it - Psalm 34:14b

Captains wife

  • Member
  • Posts: 607
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #820 on: September 19, 2016, 06:38:44 AM »
Finally some good dating news- had one of my best ever first dates last week with a guy I met on Match. He picked a gorgeous place to meet in Newport for lunch, made reservations and the day of he was running a few mins late so he called ahead to the restaurant to buy me a drink while I was waiting. He found out it was my bday that weekend - so he slipped out in the middle of the meal and asked the waiter to bring me a chocolate torte cake with a candle in it (my fav dessert). So thoughtful, so classy. And as well as being handsome he has a great personality and I saw him tearing up when I was talking about my LH (he asked a few questions). So kind, and sensitive. Who knows where this will go but it was nice to be beaming after a date and see some great, compatable men out there for me. He asked if we can meet up again...and I of course said yes. Swoon...
« Last Edit: September 19, 2016, 06:41:51 AM by Captains wife »

SunshineFL

  • Member
  • Posts: 168
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #821 on: September 19, 2016, 08:02:31 AM »
 :) Great news @captainswife!
So refreshing to hear a positive dating story...and so deserved.
Swoon away ... And happy belated birthday to you.

arneal

  • Member
  • Posts: 647
    • The Starving Activist
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #822 on: September 19, 2016, 12:23:46 PM »
Yay, CaptainsWife -- you've made my Monday! And happy birthday as well :)
Andree'

Seek peace, and pursue it - Psalm 34:14b

Lisa

  • Global Moderator
  • Member
  • Posts: 522
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #823 on: September 19, 2016, 10:10:26 PM »
What a lovely date. Happy birthday
"All the waves must reach the shore before the water calms"-Ray ♡

RobFTC

  • Member
  • Posts: 455
  • Lost Michelle to ovarian cancer 2010/11/07
    • Celtic Journeys radio show
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #824 on: September 20, 2016, 12:36:59 AM »
An unusual offer for a first date:

"Maybe this is weird for a first meeting...do you have any interest in seeing the movie the labyrinth with David Bowie Wednesday night at 7:00 at the timberline theater with me?"

Ooh baby, talk Bowie to me! :-)  I let her know I had a conflict, and no other contact since.

Take care,
Rob T
There was something fishy about the butler.  I think he was a Pisces, probably working for scale.