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SunshineFL

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #825 on: September 22, 2016, 08:16:16 PM »
Finally some good dating news- had one of my best ever first dates last week with a guy I met on Match. ... Who knows where this will go but it was nice to be beaming after a date and see some great, compatable men out there for me. He asked if we can meet up again...and I of course said yes. Swoon...

Not quite as "swoony" as CaptainsWife, but after all the (shall-I-politely-say) "odd" online dating stories I've shared here, this week has had a pleasant surprise introduce himself.  He messaged me on OKC on Sunday, answering the last line of my profile: "Off this site forever? Yes! Sign me up!" ... and then further mentioned what else he enjoyed in my profile and welcome me writing back to him.

We exchanged a few nice messages and enjoyed a really fun first phone call the next day. He was calm, intelligent, we laughed a lot - everything flowed so freely and easily. Tuesday, we texted a bit during the day, and when I texted that I just got home from a long day out and about, he quickly replied that he was in the neighboring town and asked was I busy. He asked if I wanted to be impromptu and meet in person for the first time out at the causeway for sunset. I said, "Sure, I'm up for impromptu - I'm on my way."

Well, three hours later on a school night, we wrapped up our first "meet" and he asked if I'd like to go out this weekend. Yes, absolutely - how nice. We've texted and talked each day this week, the conversations are always enjoyable and fun on a broad range of topics, and he seems to not have any lingering bitterness to past exes - how refreshing, you have no idea!!!  He has already bought tickets to a show for us downtown this weekend, which I'm really looking forward to.

Best part ... he shifted his voice down a bit in one of our chats and admitted that on Tuesday evening, he deliberately planned to "run an errand" near my town with the hope and the off-chance that I'd be able and willing to meet up with him that night. Sweet, right?  :)

Just like CaptainsWife said, no future thinking, staying very present; I like how comfortable I am to be myself in all ways around him and am just really grateful to have crossed paths with someone who seems like one of the good guys .... I was starting to think they were just an urban myth in my town.

So not a vent or a laugh, but nice all the same.
With a new season upon us, you just never know what a day will bring, right?
Be well.
Chat soon.

« Last Edit: September 22, 2016, 08:19:45 PM by SunshineFL »

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #826 on: September 22, 2016, 08:38:49 PM »
Happy for you, Sunshine!
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #827 on: September 25, 2016, 07:00:00 AM »
Very nice Sunshine and Captain's wife.

Didn't sign up for the speed dating, forgot I had plans that weekend.  Going to go see Adele.  ;D

Signed up for OurTime,and it is odd site. It automatically sends you notices so it looks like people are interested in you.  It is creepy.  Did message two guys. First guy doesn't like crowds and rather just stay home.  Kind of hard to date when you are like that.  The second guy too early to tell. 

Since online dating is far from what I was hoping I thought I would try volunteering at one of our local charities.  I went to a meeting and all the members were speaking french. (I don't speak french) Guess that one isn't for me.   

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #828 on: September 25, 2016, 07:19:21 AM »
Thanks NeedyToo. I find dating sites, venues to meet people hit or miss. Very dependent on timing of who's online, who is at venue. With dating site I wonder how much "fraud" is baked into how it works.I found hobby related Meet up.com groups to be a good social outlet. Swooned at date 2 with aforementioned guy I went out with (aka sexy Rhode Island guy) but had odd date encounter with widower this past week. He said to me on the date- I wasn't sure whether to go out you since you are a widow...hmm. I asked him to elaborate and he said last widow date cried on him and it was uncomfortable. Was surprised to hear that from a widower...and no I didn't cry on him...

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #829 on: September 25, 2016, 05:33:50 PM »
Needy - excellent reason not to have done the speed dating. Sure Adele was wonderful!

Captains - you hit it just right: all dependent on who's online when. The fraud thing is an excellent point as well; I'd read something somewhere that a number of these sites are all tied in together. I was on one and a guy messaged me. We started corresponding and he asked me something that was obviously indicated in my profile; when I said that, he asked me which site I was on. After a few rounds of Who's On First (which site are you on? this one? which one is that?) he told me he was on a totally different site. Weird. I would say the widower comment just reinforces the notion that there is no way to tell when someone is ready to date. However, sad that it was such a scarring experience that he nearly missed meeting such a wonderful person as yourself!
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« Reply #830 on: September 26, 2016, 08:20:22 AM »
Thanks NeedyToo. I find dating sites, venues to meet people hit or miss. Very dependent on timing of who's online, who is at venue.Where I live, POF is pretty much blue collar, OKCupid white. With dating site I wonder how much "fraud" is baked into how it works. I think they use your picture to lure other people into being more active on the site. I'm certain they do when you 'de-activate'your profile, and that's why they discourage you from deleting it entirely. I found hobby related Meet up.com groups to be a good social outlet. Swooned at date 2 with aforementioned guy I went out with (aka sexy Rhode Island guy) but had odd date encounter with widower this past week. He said to me on the date- I wasn't sure whether to go out you since you are a widow...hmm. I asked him to elaborate and he said last widow date cried on him and it was uncomfortable. Well,yeah, it would be. If I wasn't up to going out, I'd cancel and re-schedule.Was surprised to hear that from a widower...and no I didn't cry on him...

And yes, many of the sites are the same outfit under different names. 

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #831 on: September 26, 2016, 09:01:54 AM »
Well, as long as these dating sites are using my picture in another state on the other side of the country....I can cope with that.
  Otherwise I'd be pretty embarrassed to be showing up locally on a dating site now.  I live in a small-ish area and I saw several familiar faces  when I was on Match. I'd hate for local yokels to see me on there at present.....especially when I am now in a relationship.

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #832 on: September 26, 2016, 02:54:19 PM »
Good point, Semper - you may want to see who owns the sites you currently have profiles on to identify if there might be the off chance that they post to your locale. You may want to just delete them. If you aren't sure, copy/paste your fantastic profile info into a Word doc and save it to your own computer :)
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« Reply #833 on: September 28, 2016, 07:11:48 PM »
Hi gang, I hope others find parts of this funny enough to make up for the length ...

The other week, I happened to notice a, bright, chipper e-mail from match.com, saying this:

"Your account updates went through without a hitch. Take a sec to make sure everything looks OK."
                                   Email address:  william_lester3@aol.com
                                                      <View profile>

OMG, whatchoo talkin bout Willis?  That ain't me!  But sure enough, I can't do squat.  Can't log in, phone app disconnected, etc.  This sucks, I have already had to fix my TiVo twice and had another computer throw a hard drive recently.  I must be tech cursed right now.

So I try to figure out how to contact them - wow, what a horror show.  There might have been a possibility of calling a phone number if I was logged in, but haha, of course I am not, am I?  I find a form that promises a response within 48 hours and fill it in with "I've been hacked!" and as much info as I can think to include.

The next day, I wonder - I reload that e-mail and click on <View profile>.  I get to a screen where I am asked to supply my birth date; when I do so, I find I have account access, and can change my password and my e-mail address.  Wow, cool!  I haven't heard from match, so I poke around.  Our friend Clem Kadiddlehopper kept my opening and closing lines, but rewrote the guts my profile with a lot of The Best Words, including making me a divorced native Coloradoan who'd spent a lot of time out of the US recently and was about to embark on an Exciting Venture.  He'd also made me taller, LOL! :-)  Some of it was SO thick and hackneyed it just hurt.  How did this stuff get through the focus group?  So I rewrite a new profile from scratch, mentioning that I've been hacked and would folks please not think any e-mails on MM/DD were from me.  I can't tell any were sent, but who knows.

The next day, still no contact from match.  I got a ping from a woman who thought I was cute and wondered if I had a beard or not.  Um, I have had this goatee so long, science isn't sure what's under there, why do you ask?  So I go look at my photos - he's uploaded a couple of clean-shaven photos that I don't think looked like me, or as good as me!  (Hijacks-R-Us must not have had the budget to use good pictures.)  And it took me two days to notice :-(  I fix that and reply to said lass that yea verily I sport facial hair.  She thought the hacker's photos were better, apparently.  Hmph, no accounting for taste!  Hey hon, if you find him, I hear he has this Exciting Venture ...

The final calamity was this: after six days (nearly seven), match.com finally thought they Had To Act, overnight, on my earlier trouble report, having seen Suspicious Activity.  (This must have been the Rapid Response Team!)  They announced that they were restoring my profile from backup, at some nebulous time soon.  Which wiped out at least six days of messages, plus all of the sparkly turns of phrase in my new profile that I wish I'd been able to hang onto :-(  And they explained that despite the restore, some settings in a few places would not be set back as they were, and I would have to check those ones myself.

Soon after, they sent out one of those little "did we provide you with excellent service today?" surveys.  I admit I had some fun filling that out, including a detailed account of how they messed me up and a suggestion of what would have actually HELPED me after six days of thinking I was on my own.  I hope my rating spoiled someone's bonus; I know some of my phrases should have warmed their coffee.

All good now, except for an odd uptick in incoming interest from out-of-state that makes me want to go over my settings a tenth time.  That's apart from the ever-present 28-32 year old gorgeous scammers whose profiles self-destruct like Mission Impossible in an hour or two.

So boys and girls, make sure you don't re-use passwords all over of God's green earth, or this might happen to you! :-)

Take care,
Rob T
There was something fishy about the butler.  I think he was a Pisces, probably working for scale.

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #834 on: September 28, 2016, 08:06:11 PM »
Oh Rob! I am so sorry and admit I giggled through this. So sorry you've had all this occur. I wonder who that crack team of customer service specialists are at these sites and how they manage to not have real contact info available when things go kaput. I suppose there's something in those wonderful Welcome emails they send when you sign up, but now that you've investigated and all, that suggestion is a wee bit outdated :)
All the best with your double new and improved profile!
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #835 on: September 28, 2016, 11:28:46 PM »
Rob, the same thing happened to me earlier this summer on match. I hadn't logged in in a long time, but I was trying to help a guy friend to move on from asking me out multiple times despite me telling him I'm happy with bf, by helping him set up a match profile and he wanted to see my old profile...

Anyway, yeah someone hacked my account, changed all the info, and charged a bunch of upgrades on to my account that was somehow still connected to PayPal. After dealing with the customer service, I got most of the $ back and account deactivated again. What a pain though! Hopefully I don't ever need to use match again!
Amy, mom to four (14,13,9,5)

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #836 on: September 29, 2016, 01:19:35 PM »
Oh, wow, Amy! That is horrible but thank God you found out before more was taken from you.
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #837 on: October 01, 2016, 08:34:11 AM »
 :) How nice to be casually enjoying the company of a really good man these last couple of weeks. Laughter, good conversations, picnic on the beach and ... guess what ... I even trusted him completely to try something new-to-me ... rode on the back of his Indian motorcycle at the beach at sunset!

So
Much
Fun!

Staying present and enjoying new experiences on a lot of great levels.
We are going out for my birthday later tonight - looking forward to that.

Have a happy weekend, friends.
Hope you are all well.

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #838 on: October 01, 2016, 08:52:00 AM »
:) How nice to be casually enjoying the company of a really good man these last couple of weeks. Laughter, good conversations, picnic on the beach and ... guess what ... I even trusted him completely to try something new-to-me ... rode on the back of his Indian motorcycle at the beach at sunset!

So
Much
Fun!

Staying present and enjoying new experiences on a lot of great levels.
We are going out for my birthday later tonight - looking forward to that.

Have a happy weekend, friends.
Hope you are all well.

Congrats Sunshine 😊 Glad to hear you found someone you are meshing with!

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #839 on: October 01, 2016, 09:59:53 AM »
Have fun, Sunshine!
Andree'

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