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Captains wife

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #900 on: November 01, 2016, 02:10:43 PM »
Nice data mining klim! Unfortunately it can require a lot of quantity dating to meet quality...or at least a decent match. I found there was profile fatigue once I was online for a while. I had a run in with Match so I had to close down and re-open a new profile on round 3. Suddenly there was a flurry of new interest and from a number of guys that contacted me before. Another option is to try a different site ? All the best - its a jungle out there.

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #901 on: November 01, 2016, 02:26:14 PM »
Ah, profile fatigue -- great description, Captains Wife! It is something how, after a little break, the same folks come back round. I often wonder how many of them are copying/pasting information into their messages to multiple people. Sort of like shooting fish in a barrel, I suppose ...
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #902 on: November 01, 2016, 06:19:31 PM »
I think plenty of fish is trying to tell me something. Tried going on line thru phone and iPad and nothing, won't let me on. Two days now .lol
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Captains wife

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #903 on: November 02, 2016, 07:38:23 AM »
Does anybody have those dates that just never disappear ? I have had a few men who I went out with only a handful of times (at most), then either no connection or they go poof and then they turn up MONTHS later and try again (with texts) ? This has happened to me several times...sigh.

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #904 on: November 02, 2016, 07:52:21 AM »
Captains wife, the term I have heard for this is "being benched".  They have a hotter player, but rather than break ties or even just keep dating, they keep you in case plan A (or plans A, B and C) don't work out.  I had someone cancel a date and found it impossible to get another, only to have her message me a couple of months later.  Her problem is that I don't stay on the bench, I go wandering off to find a new ballfield!

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SemperFidelis

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #905 on: November 02, 2016, 11:06:05 AM »
So strange CW. I never experienced it but from what I gather it is somewhat common. So strange to me....what are these people thinking?

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #906 on: November 02, 2016, 01:52:35 PM »
I think plenty of fish is trying to tell me something. Tried going on line thru phone and iPad and nothing, won't let me on. Two days now .lol

This reminded me of something that happened to me on OKCupid. They have this quick match feature, where you can just scroll through the first page of random profiles. Every time, EVERY SINGLE time I did this on the PC, I got my boyfriend's profile. It was usually by the second or third one in. I'm sure it may have had something to do with how often we were communicating (we sent brief messages back and forth for several weeks before we had a longer exchange and then finally met) or the fact that we were such a high match. But I had a number of other high matches and exchanges and they didn't pop up or if they did it was never more than once. SO even though there may be a logical explanation, I still think it's pretty neat,. MTJJ, maybe there's some Ted Bundy type who seems appealing that POF is trying to keep you from connecting with, lol.
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #907 on: November 04, 2016, 05:45:59 AM »
Good work Kilm, I once snuck onto the guy side to see what woman were posting.  I was kind of shocked and what I saw.  Lots of girls with pictures of them on beds. 

Have to say my less hippy profile has if getting more attention some good and some bad.  I had one guy send me this huge long letter and then said my profile was simple.  Couldn't even reply to it.  Two others asking for sex on the third message and some repeaters that don't even remember we have chatted before.  I had one guy find me on facebook.  I swore I didn't give him enough information to do that but he has managed to find me and wants to be friends. 

I have been chatting with two guys for awhile, still no hint of actually getting together. Just going to try the slow thing and see if it makes a difference.
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #908 on: November 04, 2016, 10:59:31 PM »
Does anybody have those dates that just never disappear ? I have had a few men who I went out with only a handful of times (at most), then either no connection or they go poof and then they turn up MONTHS later and try again (with texts) ? This has happened to me several times...sigh.

Ummm, no, never.  I guess that's the advantage of being an acquired taste, if someone didn't like me right off, he didn't feel compelled to come back for more, later.

I would second the idea of taking your profile down form time to time or at least changing the pictures frequently.  I'm certain when people see the same picture over  and over they don't bother reading the profile.
 
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #909 on: November 05, 2016, 01:32:35 PM »
Oh my goodness......

Another widower engineer is contacting me.
I'm giving him a small chance to see of he's real but I'm not holding my breath!

Updated to add he's another scammer, shock of shocks! Thank you reverse image search!
« Last Edit: November 05, 2016, 04:06:26 PM by momtokam »

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #910 on: November 05, 2016, 05:57:00 PM »
I've seen this one a number of times...I don't get what the scam could be? ....but it must be

Hello, I have a very special friend who is a widower, His name is Gary, he's very interested in you but he's not into internet dating and he came across your profile through my account and he's been all over me about getting in touch with you, he said you seem like a woman whom has found balance in all aspect of life which is a hard thing to come by these days. He's 56 yrs old, 6'1 tall, He's a good man, all rounded complete & matured man. I didn't tell him I was gonna contact you, but thought I had to take the chance, you never know until you try. I have found love on here and I have an idea on what we want in a relationship and i believe if you email him, You both will get along and be more than a friend, it might worth it in the end. Please do contact him, I'm assuring you he'll share pictures and more info about himself with you. You can also email him personally on' (garykieser AT yahoo dot c o m )'' '' I am very sorry to bother you, one thing I can assure you is you will brighten his day if you get in touch with him.I am deleting my profile now, so i think you should take the chance to write him.

Not that it matters but does anybody even understand what the scam would be
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #911 on: November 05, 2016, 06:18:53 PM »
It seems to me there is too much dialogue. I guess it could just be me but when I have been the middle person for a friend I get right to the point. I don't say anything about me. I would suspect the person writing is speaking for himself if I read this o  a site.
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #912 on: November 05, 2016, 08:20:53 PM »
I've seen this one a number of times...I don't get what the scam could be? ....but it must be

Hello, I have a very special friend who is a widower, His name is Gary, he's very interested in you but he's not into internet dating and he came across your profile through my account and he's been all over me about getting in touch with you, he said you seem like a woman whom has found balance in all aspect of life which is a hard thing to come by these days. He's 56 yrs old, 6'1 tall, He's a good man, all rounded complete & matured man. I didn't tell him I was gonna contact you, but thought I had to take the chance, you never know until you try. I have found love on here and I have an idea on what we want in a relationship and i believe if you email him, You both will get along and be more than a friend, it might worth it in the end. Please do contact him, I'm assuring you he'll share pictures and more info about himself with you. You can also email him personally on' (garykieser AT yahoo dot c o m )'' '' I am very sorry to bother you, one thing I can assure you is you will brighten his day if you get in touch with him.I am deleting my profile now, so i think you should take the chance to write him.

Not that it matters but does anybody even understand what the scam would be

Haha - if this wasn't a scam? No matter, I'm not gonna date a guy who can't even write his own email and intro message! Jeez. I never got a message like this online.

What's the scam? Dunno, but whoever garykieser at yahoo is, he would then have your email address, and can easily get your IP address...

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #913 on: November 06, 2016, 11:48:45 AM »
Why can he see your profile through her account? You wouldn't think she had access to look at the accounts of women looking for men.

Scam is written all over this one.
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klim

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #914 on: November 06, 2016, 11:55:10 AM »
Oh I know it's a scam , it has appear probably 5 or 6 times from different people and probably a different "widow " name.....I just don't get the scam?

am  supposed to get offline fall in love and give him my money????

just wierd
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