Author Topic: On line dating vents and laughs......  (Read 160820 times)

momtokam

  • Member
  • Posts: 554
  • Widowed September 2012
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #915 on: November 06, 2016, 12:53:12 PM »
am  supposed to get offline fall in love and give him my money????

just wierd

Yes!

It's funny, this is one scam I have not received.
The "widowed engineers" seem to target me!

I disabled my profile again.
I'm so frustrated by the whole on line thing.

RobFTC

  • Member
  • Posts: 458
  • Lost Michelle to ovarian cancer 2010/11/07
    • Celtic Journeys radio show
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #916 on: November 06, 2016, 02:02:55 PM »
am  supposed to get offline fall in love and give him my money????

Well, now that you mention it, yeah, they would love this :-)

When you think of these folks, imagine a packed little boiler room of scammers. I get likes and winks from the 28-32 year old women's profiles with the lovely pics and the Gmail accounts tortured into the description or stamped onto one of the photos.  (Like someone aged 30 would work for me!)  I laugh at the thought of the slimy little guys hoping for a good nibble.  Just curse them like us poor folks living in the US curse political canvassers, and you'll be in the right mood! :-)

Take care,
Rob T
There was something fishy about the butler.  I think he was a Pisces, probably working for scale.

Needytoo

  • Member
  • Posts: 402
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #917 on: November 06, 2016, 04:29:15 PM »
I have two guys that right now driving me a little nuts.

First guy I have chatted with for a long time, he stood me up once for a coffee date. Every couple weeks,he sends me a message. I don't get it.
This other guy I really don't know what to think.I swear he is always online. Why? Doesn't he have a life outside online dating sites?  A year ago he chatted with me and ghosted and now I am his best friend? I don't get it.  Really trying to be open, but I am finding it hard.

Might need a break soon.

First Widow

  • Member
  • Posts: 54
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #918 on: November 06, 2016, 05:51:37 PM »
Thanks for the research Klim!  I've been doing my own research the past week with non pic profiles on 4 different sites.  I'm convinced some of the messages I got right away were fake members to get me to pay the monthly fee. LOL  Match even appeared to like other members for me.  Any recommendations on the best site?
"But slowly he stole my broken heart and put the pieces back together while I wasn’t looking…and I love him."

arneal

  • Member
  • Posts: 707
    • The Starving Activist
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #919 on: November 06, 2016, 06:45:22 PM »
That's funny, klim!
Andree'

Seek peace, and pursue it - Psalm 34:14b

RobFTC

  • Member
  • Posts: 458
  • Lost Michelle to ovarian cancer 2010/11/07
    • Celtic Journeys radio show
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #920 on: November 06, 2016, 10:21:52 PM »
Hey First Widow,

I have always liked the features on match.com, and I have found it much better on results this go-round.  I have a better profile and (especially) pics, and I am more playful in my approach.  I find that okcupid.com just doesn't have very many people, and using pof.com on the web is so sad that I don't want to be there despite the good numbers (though the app sucks much less).  I hate hate hate the swiping apps (Tinder and Bumble) - all my time there has gone into a black hole no matter what I do, even as uptake of the apps has gone way up in my somewhat-sparse area.  I clearly don't have the Twitter-style mojo for those sites.

Needytoo, IMO any serious guy should stop messaging and make a date, almost not EVER break it (is someone bleeding?), and he should make it clear if he's interested.  If he doesn't want to meet, he could be married, but wtf do you even care?  I believe that decent people also let you know kindly if you're not the one - I did that the other day after two dates with a nice woman who just wasn't "it" for me.  I know guys don't always feel the need to do that until the relationship is further along, but I don't like that.

Take care,
Rob T
There was something fishy about the butler.  I think he was a Pisces, probably working for scale.

calimom

  • Member
  • Posts: 119
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #921 on: November 06, 2016, 11:28:27 PM »
Thanks for the research Klim!  I've been doing my own research the past week with non pic profiles on 4 different sites.  I'm convinced some of the messages I got right away were fake members to get me to pay the monthly fee. LOL  Match even appeared to like other members for me.  Any recommendations on the best site?

Firstwidow:
Learn from others here. There are wonderful women who, for whatever reason, who: A) engage with obvious online scammers. (it is a complete waste of time); and B) engage with men who are not right for them.

There is a lot to be said for the *delete* feature, and the *ignore* feature. Neither are as entertaining as the stories you might tell, but it will be far more productive to focus on what you ARE looking for than what you ARE NOT looking for. Like everyone, your mileage might vary, but the best advice is to move forward into your new life with what's going to work for you, whether you're looking for marriage or simply a nice person to spend time with.

Wishing you luck and most importantly - lots of fun!
"I'm breaking through, I'm bending spoons, I'm keeping flowers in full bloom" - REM

Forgottenwife

  • Member
  • Posts: 126
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #922 on: November 07, 2016, 11:07:25 AM »
Any recommendations on the best site?

I found my Chapter 2 on OkCupid. I think it depends on the area you live in, and what works best for you. I liked the easy interface and being able to see how well we matched up on important issues.

Portside

  • Member
  • Posts: 364
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #923 on: November 07, 2016, 11:31:22 AM »

  Any recommendations on the best site?


Also, there are many niche sites that cater to rather narrow slices of folks looking for a match - perhaps one of them may be for you. If you are a woman of faith - look for a site specializing in your area of comfort. There are sites for farmers, engineers, gardeners, bakers, etc., etc., etc.

Maybe check some of them out - you never know . . . . . I found my match on one.

Good luck - Mike
The war is over for me now. But those of us who did make it have an obligation to build again, to teach to others what we know, and to try with what's left of our lives to find a goodness and a meaning to this life.

imissdow

  • Member
  • Posts: 236
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #924 on: November 07, 2016, 04:52:43 PM »
First widow: it depends on where you live and who you are. My sister is dating a guy she met on match. I've done pof, OK Cupid, Christian mingle, eharmony, and briefly match. Christian mingle& eharmony don't seem to have enough people using them. Pof I got a bunch of guys looking for a hook up and couldn't hide or filter them out. I didn't care for that.   I probally should try paying for match, i didn't really give it much of a shot. I keep going back to OK Cupid I like that they ask questions and I can typically weed out the guys who are looking for a fling. I still get scammers and guys looking for a hook up but I use the hide and delete feature often. So after a bit it feels more my style.

klim

  • Member
  • Posts: 442
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #925 on: November 07, 2016, 04:53:51 PM »
I think it might be slightly regional which is better and also the age demographics is different.
I'm  50 ish  and near Toronto and I find the best to be POF......but friends have liked Match. I thought eharmony wasn't any good at all. I've had minor success with tinder and okcupid, but feel like they are better for a younger crowd.

Of course these are recommendations from someone who hasn't really succeeded!

arneal

  • Member
  • Posts: 707
    • The Starving Activist
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #926 on: November 07, 2016, 07:09:29 PM »
I agree with Portside's point about niche markets. I found my NG on a special site for interracial dating as I was looking to expand my horizons a bit.
Andree'

Seek peace, and pursue it - Psalm 34:14b

trying2breathe

  • Member
  • Posts: 398
  • Widowed August 2013
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #927 on: November 08, 2016, 09:00:35 AM »
I did a halfway attempt at on-line dating, never posted any photos of myself and after a year, realized that absolutely nothing came of it.  Not much ventured, nothing gained.  I think it was more curiosity rather than really wanting to get out there.


Forward to now - last week I joined a dating/matchmaking service.  Members are vetted, profiles are posted and dates are arranged.  I attended a party, met some great people and made a couple of connections, met for dinner with one very handsome guy.  First attempt at dating - this handsome guy is still so damaged from his divorce ten years ago, it's sad.  This was probably one of the most depressing dates that I've ever been on.   It was a slap in the face to realize that it's so much more complicated now.   Ugghhh ...... hopefully some better stories to come.
Have I told you lately how much I love you?

nonesuch

  • Guest
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #928 on: November 08, 2016, 07:14:30 PM »
Getting you off the dating site is so the dating site can't monitor the communication when he asks for money.

arneal

  • Member
  • Posts: 707
    • The Starving Activist
Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #929 on: November 08, 2016, 07:23:55 PM »
nonesuch - yes, for scammers! I ran into a bunch of those before NG, particularly those who didn't live close to me. What was weird to me was that they didn't want to use texting as often as they wanted to use one of those video chat apps. Ew! How old are you? How about we text or actually talk to one another instead of using some app with lots of colors and emojis?

NG and I used the site to message one another. We seemed to hit it off and he lives about 40 minutes from me. I suggested we should have coffee or lunch to continue the conversation and he agreed. Posted his real mobile # to me. I sent him the Sideline # I used for dating purposes and he called me. We talked for about an hour + and set up a lunch date for two days later. We were there for 3 + hours that day. We are in month six now :)
Andree'

Seek peace, and pursue it - Psalm 34:14b