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arneal

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #945 on: November 13, 2016, 02:22:11 PM »
Well said, trying2 ... I agree. momto - I thought your profile was great and wished I'd come up with something witty like that! Sheesh. Is it a dating site or a literary critique class (says the university prof lol)?
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #946 on: November 13, 2016, 03:30:58 PM »
Thanks ladies. This same gentleman  (using the term loosly) attacked my 12 reasons not to meet me profile on Match,  which I posted right before my membership expired. He obviously has zero sense of humour!

POF does seem to be a busier site here. I've been inundated with messages. No time to go through them all!

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #947 on: November 13, 2016, 06:29:06 PM »
Sounds like a good problem to have, momto!

I think I mentioned this elsewhere but I realized early into my dates with NG that I was woefully unprepared to date. I had been off the scene (and not really on it, to tell the truth) for about 25 years (across two marriages and widow experiences). I decided to start reading and subscribing to dating advice. I watch videos by Matthew Hussey, many of which are quite funny, but that offer interesting food for thought on how to connect in this dating thing. One point he mentions is having options, so momto, the fact that you've got a number of hits is right in line with the so-called experts. It gives you choices and you get to decide who you will talk to and who you won't. Go, girl!
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #948 on: November 13, 2016, 10:47:08 PM »
"As a Teacher you would have a basic understanding of psych - to have a negative as your preamble and indicate a reverse onus that someone else here prove otherwise... would that attract the man with qualities in which you seek... one of which being intelligent...? Something to consider... all the best..."

momtokam, I thought your quip was good - what a doofus.  I've seen some multi-paragraph rants about how much some women hate the site and why.  The good news is that clicking "next" on those profiles is no harder than on any others! :-)

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #949 on: November 15, 2016, 09:22:50 AM »
I have to share this ... I woke up this morning to a new message that contained this:

"I have discovered during my two days as a OKC member that this site has lots of creepy guys who send pictures and messages that make me want to abandon OKC completely. It was refreshing to come across your profile. (You´ve restored my faith in finding cool people through sites like this. :-) "

Good living pays off sometimes? :-)

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #950 on: November 15, 2016, 11:01:25 AM »
Well done, Rob - what a great way to start the day!  Would definitely boost my ego a bit to get a message like that!  Is there a date being arranged out of this?   ;)


I think I'll check out the advice videos you mentioned, arneal.  I'm woefully lacking in modern day dating skills.  Like texting etiquette - yikes!
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #951 on: November 15, 2016, 01:00:27 PM »
Well done, Rob - what a great way to start the day!  Would definitely boost my ego a bit to get a message like that!  Is there a date being arranged out of this?   ;)

I'd like that :-), she's easy on the eyes as well.  But it could take a little while with all I currently have going on and Thanksgiving around the corner.

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arneal

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #952 on: November 15, 2016, 02:43:18 PM »
tryingto - Matthew Hussey offers a number of texting suggestions. His videos are free on Youtube but he of course has paid stuff. Part of it, especially once you've made a connection, is to work on your conversation skills. I know for me, that was one of the hardest. I am an only child who grew into a twice widowed woman. Despite a career in education, I don't do well with cross-the-table-talk generally. it helped me learn how to break the ice and be prepared for our time together. I am much more comfortable now after these months but I still continue to read a lot of information to stay ahead of the curve a bit :)
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #953 on: November 16, 2016, 08:37:01 AM »
arneal  MH does have some good texting videos, thank you for sharing this.  Handsome guy that I briefly dated was heavily into texting and I was not.  I now think that I should have been more responsive to his texts ..... sigh.   

Rob  She sounds like she's worth the wait!  It is a difficult time of year to start dating, isn't it?
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #954 on: November 16, 2016, 08:27:23 PM »
Watched a couple of those videos. Thankfully I'm much better at texting than I used to be. I think that has really helped me date better. When I first started dating again I hated texting. Now I text more then I call and I'm getting more flirty with them. Still have always to go. Need to go watch a few more.
 Typically I meet these really needy guys and it becomes a real turn off really quick.I would think it's the same for them.  Being really busy has been a blessing in some ways makes it easy for me to not have time to worry about if it takes longer to return a text.  Got a text from the guy I met on Sunday from okcupid He asked what I was up to told him honestly I was out shopping and didn't have time to meet him. I did make time for a phone call. I think we're planning a second date on Friday, least that's what he said tonight and I gave him very few choices if he wanted to see me again. So far so good. We will see what happens but I'm feeling pretty good about all of this.

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #955 on: November 17, 2016, 07:44:31 AM »
When I started dating NG, we texted A LOT!!!  Over 10,000 texts in the first month-6weeks. 

We played the "would you rather" game to get to know each other.  Ex: Would you rather beer or wine, would you rather steak or seafood, would you rather casual cup of coffee or formal date.....
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #956 on: November 17, 2016, 10:00:08 PM »
Entire first message......

"Uh"

Not even sure what that means!

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #957 on: November 18, 2016, 01:02:34 PM »
momto - your profile was too intellectual for that reader  ;D
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #958 on: November 20, 2016, 12:57:37 PM »
Soooo....

Talked on the phone with someone Friday during the day. He asked to meet for a coffee on Saturday afternoon and I agreed. He said he would text to confirm plans.

Heard nothing until Saturday 9:30 pm. I didn't reply until early this morning. Told him my day was busy (described my legitimate reaons) but I could meet around 1pm. Heard nothing until 12:10 when he said he could meet today as he was off work.  At this point I'm in the middle of other things and offered 4pm and a nice place to meet.

At 1:15 I get....I am going to the gym.I've no idea when I will be done

Seriously?

I replied perhaps another time....I was being polite. I wanted to just say Bye Bye!

Sigh.....
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arneal

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #959 on: November 20, 2016, 05:38:44 PM »
Yeah, momto -- that's messed up for a first meeting opportunity. I mean, life intervenes, but if a person wants to do something, he or she will make time to at least communicate in a reasonable time frame!
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