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Virgo

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1020 on: December 20, 2016, 01:02:26 AM »
We ended up not getting together for our talk. I figured if he really wanted to talk he would have rescheduled a time. I didn't contact him.

The two guys I'm talking to are around my age, tall, and active. I thought that was funny since we were talking about that. One is 6'6 and the other is 6'4.
Jen

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Virgo

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1021 on: December 23, 2016, 11:54:25 PM »
I debated cancelling my date for tonight, but I'm glad I didn't. Really nice guy, complete gentleman. We both mentioned going out again.

The reason I debated, I wasn't in the best mental state. I took my dad to the ER around 10am and was with him until 5pm. The MRI showed brain damage from multiple  mini strokes and alcohol abuse. For those who don't know, my mom died 3 months before my husband. She had ALS.  It's going to be a long, hard road with my dad. I just don't feel strong enough this time. Everyone is waiting for ME to take control. Completely baffles me! I already started looking into obtaining a power of attorney. Next steps will be moving assests, assisted living, and selling my childhood home. :( My dad is 66. From the years of alcohol abuse they are saying his brain is comparable to a 85 year old.
Jen

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1022 on: December 26, 2016, 12:12:20 PM »
You are in my thoughts, Virgo. Becoming a parent for our parents is tough. I am an only child and my mom is back east, so it is a constant thing on my mind. Glad you had a good date though! Good for you!
Andree'

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1023 on: December 26, 2016, 12:39:55 PM »
Well you guys. I will be joining you in the online dating world soon enough. Shit just ended with NG after 14months.

I need a break, but I also don't want to avoid the hard work of dating....so I will probably start up sooner than later, maybe in a couple weeks once I see what my new school schedule is like....but then again maybe sooner because I am a curious bird.
 I am really trying to not be discouraged by all this.....I mean wow. Giving another man a fair shot is going to really test me....it's going to be hard But I must try to be as fair as I want to be treated. *deep breath*

I'll keep everyone informed of whatever online dating adventures I have, lol.

But deep down I am hoping I just meet someone in the real world..... That's how I met LH.

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1024 on: December 26, 2016, 12:45:15 PM »
Semper -- you will find a guy who is there for you as you will be for him. I think there are opportunities for online dating to be the jumping off point to meeting a good person in the real world. NG and I met online, messaged on the site, had one phone conversation to firm up face to face meeting plans, and followed through. I hope that it will be a long-lasting situation (it's been about seven months now) but realize there are no guarantees. However, I totally agree with you that continued online back and forth is ... weird ...  :o Hope you find a special situation sooner rather than later and that any adventures are fun and harmless. I know that you will come back with something entertaining though because you are so good with words :)
Andree'

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1025 on: December 26, 2016, 09:29:36 PM »
Semper, all of my dates have either been from meeting through friends or Facebook. I haven't ventured into online dating yet.

The guy who I met up with Friday is talking about getting together Wednesday. I'll keep you posted. I'm still chatting with the other guy, but he is dating someone. Stepping back a bit. I do enjoy talking to him though.
Jen

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1026 on: December 27, 2016, 12:38:04 PM »
Hi, friends - I hope the holidays are treating everyone well.
I'm just popping in for a moment with an update to my prior PSA post about personal safety (Reply #1007) and encouragement for others to stand strong in your truth and to listen to your intuition.

The hearing in court was held today on my motion for a permanent injunction and protective order. I appeared. He didn't. The judge granted my motion and ordered him to have no contact with me (in all its forms which are detailed and enumerated in the document) for TEN years.

He'll be served at work again by a uniformed sheriff. In addition, for the public safety as well as mine and my children's safety, he will have to turn in any firearms he might own and is forbidden by law to own or be near any firearms or ammunition for ten years as well.

We each have a voice and a right to not have anyone threaten us in any way.  It was very uncomfortable and trying for me to walk through this, but I did and if ever any of you need to as well (but I hope you never do), you know you can.  We have all survived much, much worse, right? (hugs)

As my dear sister-friend north of the US border reminded me to now do - EXHALING.
Thank you.  I hope my sharing publicly helps someone in any way.

Back to our regularly scheduled "Online dating vents and laughs" program, please...with emphasis on the fun, the laughs, the joy, the good and kind and respectful connections with good people!!



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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1027 on: December 27, 2016, 01:23:53 PM »
I am cheering for you, Sunshine! You go, girl!
Andree'

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1028 on: December 27, 2016, 04:30:59 PM »
Sunshine   Glad to hear that you followed through with an injunction and protective order.  Thank you for sharing your experience with what must have been a frightening time!   


To better times ahead with good, kind, and respectful people!
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1029 on: December 27, 2016, 06:53:46 PM »
Sunshine what an awful ordeal for you to go through.  I am so glad you had the strength and insight to follow through and protect yourself.  I hope you can begin to put this in the past.
You will forever be my always.

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1030 on: December 27, 2016, 08:26:56 PM »
Sunshine my friend, you are a strong woman.
Biggest hugs....


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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1031 on: December 27, 2016, 08:31:37 PM »
First date suggestion after initial meet and greet....

"Would you be up for coming to my place tonight and chilling?"

Sigh.....

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1032 on: December 27, 2016, 09:24:15 PM »
mtk...reminds me of a guy in the summer who tried to convince me that coming to his house for a hot tub was a good first date!?!
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momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1033 on: December 28, 2016, 08:06:35 AM »
Klim, I am at a loss to understand some of these men. The sad part is, it must work for them or they wouldn't suggest these things.

trying2breathe

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1034 on: December 28, 2016, 11:51:52 AM »
Guy I've seen twice asked me for dinner at his place - not ready yet for that.   He has yet to ask me out for dinner - I'd be happy to share the check.   Whatever ......   :-\
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