Author Topic: On line dating vents and laughs......  (Read 146547 times)

Portside

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1035 on: December 28, 2016, 06:32:20 PM »
Klim, I am at a loss to understand some of these men. The sad part is, it must work for them or they wouldn't suggest these things.

It does work - that's why they do it. Some 'Ladies' say similar things too. Not everyone is a decent guy/gal. If you are in the dating market for any length of time, you'll run into one.

It's no different than high school except for the fact that the players are older.

Good luck - Mike
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1036 on: December 29, 2016, 04:29:16 PM »
Think this crosses over the gender gap, maybe it's the day and times, but I've seen an equal number on both sides.
Online complicates it, and imo accelerates it, because it's so easy to multiple date, so many seem brave with their approach, because there's always someone who will listen. Just a thought.

Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1037 on: January 02, 2017, 05:13:29 PM »
Make it go away ! After a hiatus from online , I went back. So far 2 scammers, a lot from states far away . And the topper today I see a guy that looks familiar, because his wife and him come to my gym class . I know both of them . I seriously want to stick pins in my eyes , it would be less painful!
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arneal

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1038 on: January 02, 2017, 07:14:23 PM »
Momto - there are some major creeps in the world. When my first husband died, my nextdoor neighbor's husband tried to get my attention. Ew.
Andree'

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1039 on: January 02, 2017, 08:48:48 PM »
I'm already losing interest. I'm not as patient with the crap anymore. Not interested in drama or games. I'm good by myself. If the guy doesn't add to my life...bu...bye!
Jen

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momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1040 on: January 02, 2017, 09:34:53 PM »
Sorry momtojandj.
I found scammers galore this round too.

Pins in my eyes....Yup!
Way less painful!

Virgo,
Yup, I have lost all my patience as well!


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momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1041 on: January 02, 2017, 09:39:13 PM »
Random Happy New Year texts came in on NYE.....

One from Mr "Can't meet you for coffee because I don't know when I'll finish from the gym".

Second from Mr "Come to my place and chill on a first date".

Yes, I laughed! 😁

Virgo

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1042 on: January 02, 2017, 10:47:11 PM »
I got a Happy New Year text from all of the guys I've dated. Plus a text from from a guy that I haven't been out with. He was out with his girlfriend.  😂
Jen

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SemperFidelis

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1043 on: January 03, 2017, 09:51:23 AM »
Well I jumped on match again about a week ago. But I kept my profile in "hidden" mode so that men couldn't contact me or see my profile unless I had initiated some kind of contact with them.

Honestly most of the profiles seemed like duds. It was actually kinda discouraging. I just felt like "oh my Gawd I am better off alone I think".  Which I guess is not the worst way to feel.... After the wacko I just ditched, I feel really okay with being alone for now....strange concept after being widowed....but the bad profiles just reinforced that feeling.

But I saw one fella who really caught my attention with what he wrote, and it turns out what I wrote really resonated with him too. Blah blah blah turns out he is a Persian gulf vet & 14yr navy guy, wants to live as far outside of the city as possible just like me.... Lives a very similar lifestyle to me and to the way LH was raised also. We went on a date yesterday and it was a hit. :-) Actually he initiated a lot of curiosity about LH and I didn't feel weird talking about LH at all. The give and take of our whole date felt very balanced. It was great to talk to someone familiar with the VA and all the veteran craziness. He even had inquired about how LH and I met, and smiled and laughed at the story. I felt like I was in the twilight zone.....especially after dating a guy who fundamentally did not respect LH or my decision to be with LH as long as I was. This guy point blank told me how much he respected what I went through with LH, etc.  Having that understanding off the bat is a really good place to be starting.

Anyway. A good experience. We'll see where this goes.
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arneal

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1044 on: January 03, 2017, 12:14:34 PM »
Okay, Virgo -- out with his girlfriend?! Really? Pins in eyes for sure!

Semper -- yay!!! Your date reminds me of my first phone conversation and date with NG last spring. All the best, friend!
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1045 on: January 03, 2017, 07:07:58 PM »
This seems to be the time of year for online dating - the activity pickup is giving me whiplash! :)  I am actually conflicted about how many threads I am willing to pick up.

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Rob T
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klim

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1046 on: January 03, 2017, 09:16:45 PM »
Oh  definitely think this is a heavy season for online..new year new life....
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momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1047 on: January 05, 2017, 05:55:10 PM »
Yup! Busy season!

The widowed, pipeline engineers, working overseas, are in full force!

arneal

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1048 on: January 05, 2017, 06:29:55 PM »
Right momto!

In other news, is it just me or has the 'like' button disappeared?
Andree'

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1049 on: January 08, 2017, 01:25:38 AM »
Created a profile on Match for about 20 minutes last night.  Was browsing my "matches" and saw my daughter's piano teacher's husband.   :o :o :o :o  Yup.  Deleted my profile.  'nuff of that nonsense......