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momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1095 on: January 21, 2017, 09:50:12 AM »
Klim, I totally get the "This is too good to be true" feeling.

It's so hard not to feel this. Most of the time it seems to be true. But, we have to try and think that sometimes it can happen.

Are there any red flags worrying you, not letting you relax?
Over thinking has been my specialty. I'm trying really hard to just go with the flow more. If it doesn't feel dangerous or overly worrysome, give the guy a chance. If you find yourself being too drawn in, too quickly, try and hold back a little. My specialty here too, so easier said than done.

Maybe I'm trying to give myself some advice here too. (Very deep I know! 😁)

And hey, of it works out, see if he has a friend for me! 😁(Kidding...maybe!)

momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1096 on: January 21, 2017, 09:52:03 AM »
Just keep trying needytoo....😊

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1097 on: January 21, 2017, 11:39:54 AM »
I hear you - I'm having trouble trusting...I'm dating a great man right now but I keep looking for red flags. #whatswrongwiththisguy.  Just enjoy your time with these good dates klim! : )

trying2breathe

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1098 on: January 21, 2017, 01:50:19 PM »
klim  Maybe proceed with a little bit of caution with your new guy?  Hope for the best but prepare in case something goes awry.  I like the adage "there's a lid for every pot" - believe in the possibility that you may be a great fit for him, and enjoy!
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trying2breathe

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1099 on: January 21, 2017, 02:04:03 PM »
  Is it wrong to always assume the worse? 
I don't think it's wrong, it's necessary in today's world to have a sense of caution with dating.  I'm a glass half-full kind of person - although I know it's important, for me it's difficult to get into this mindset.  Not to mention that it's disappointing when things don't go well. I'm trying to learn to be careful, have no expectations, and be pleasantly surprised when something goes right. :D   Easy to say, not so easy to do.
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1100 on: January 21, 2017, 11:41:04 PM »
I think the biggest thing for me was to learn not to take anything personally.  Women won't respond - who knows why?  Women flake - I don't know why there, either.  I'm not their flavor of the month; they have an oh-so-close-to-a-relationship pending; they aren't paid up; it's none of my business.  I only need to worry about the ones who do want to meet.  It's been easier.

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1101 on: January 22, 2017, 10:12:40 AM »
I am trying momtokam.  I find it remarkable that so many people find their partners through online dating because I am not finding it very easy at all, but I try to keep positive.  I do understand that it most likely very hard for guys in my age range as well. 

I am reading profiles and trying to decided on who to send a message to.  Right now I am on a free site and it seems like all the guys are truck drivers, handymen or retired at 50 (which translate to me to being unemployed).  My husband was a truck driver so I know how that is.  Handymen, guess some do well for themselves but right now I am suing one so really rather stay away from that.  Guys who play in bands, great to have a hobby but dam hard to make a living on it.  Their profiles either don't say anything at all or talk about fishing or hunting, I can't even come up with a question to ask them.  Or the guys whose profiles are demanding a certain "model" type and then have a picture of themselves that looks like it is a mug shot,they really push my buttons. 

Maybe I should just try Match again.

Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1102 on: January 22, 2017, 11:35:01 AM »
Trying match again .. can we all write a book one day about our stories about online ?  I really think it would be a best seller !
Like others, online isn't easy for me . I'll keep trying though .
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1103 on: January 22, 2017, 12:10:15 PM »
Just keep trying needytoo....😊

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1104 on: January 22, 2017, 05:20:57 PM »
Yes, klim ... I know that feeling. I think recognizing it is vital -- knowing that you can go overthink mode is important so you can pre-plan how to try and not let it bleed into your time with this person, particularly if you like him as well :) All the best!
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momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1105 on: January 22, 2017, 06:36:06 PM »
Trying match again .. can we all write a book one day about our stories about online ?  I really think it would be a best seller !
Like others, online isn't easy for me . I'll keep trying though .


Good luck and here's to it happening this time!

Oh boy, the stories we could write!
I have been tempted to start a blog.

Writing these adventures out can be therapeutic sometimes.

momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1106 on: January 22, 2017, 06:52:47 PM »
Needytoo,

There is no rhyme or reason for picking who to write to. Different things get my attention depending on the profile.
I also don't send out tons of messages. I am very selective.

I have everything hidden, but on pof, messages still come through if you've been in contact before. I received a another message last week, from a persistent man too far from me. I went on to reply. While there, a profile caught my eye. Nice smile and funny headline, right up my alley. I added him as a favourite so I could find him again when I wanted to go back in at some point. Well apparently, once you do that, they can see your profile. I received a message back pretty quickly. We talked the whole week about everything and met Friday. We are still talking and arranging another date.

My point is, I guess I can be pretty picky but sometimes something just stands out for me. It's not always the same thing. Be open and go with your gut, is the best advice I could give you.

momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1107 on: January 22, 2017, 06:57:45 PM »
Rob,

Sadly I have usually stopped responding if I am not interested. If I see a fabulous effort with real thought,  I still will respond as a courtesy.

I've had some backlash and it hasn't been worth it.

Yes, concentrate on those that are interested and don't worry about the rest.

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1108 on: January 22, 2017, 07:27:01 PM »
I have read so much about on-line dating, I even paid for a "course" on how to write an on-line dating profile.  I think we should write a book and make millions. 

I guess I am the same as you Momtokam, there is something in the profile or their pictures that draws my attention.  I sent out two emails and also received two emails from two different guys.  One guy is younger and is very nicely built and he has no shirt on. Oh my!!  Pretty sure he is looking for something I am not willing to offer. 
The other guy's picture is well, totally horrible.  He has his face pushed up against a window. Why? I ask why?

momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1109 on: January 22, 2017, 07:51:29 PM »
Up agaist a window?   Ok!

And the young studs? They want a cougar experience. There are obvious takers as it seems to be quite a thing!  No thank you!

I forgot to mention before. I saw you mentioned earlier about the hunting and fishing guys....

The man I just met got me with his headline...

"No fishing, no camping"   I was hooked! 😁