Author Topic: On line dating vents and laughs......  (Read 144111 times)

momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1155 on: February 09, 2017, 12:17:16 PM »
Why do I assume everyone I talk to is honest.

You chat with someone for a few days, make plans to meet, day and time, just need to pick a place, he knows I need to make childcare plans, and poof, the day before he stops responding even though he is seen on the site.  What do these jerks find so amusing about this?
Just man up and say you changed your mind. Don't appear interested if you are not! Sheesh!

I really don't know if I am up for trying this again. It's so infuriating!

Feel free to add your on line dating vents.



Well, it seems I haven't learned much in the last year and a half since I started this thread. I just got ghosted again. This time we had actually met and were getting along famously, or so I thought. Then boom, complete silence. One minute he is ready to bring me chicken soup because I am sick and then the next day POOF!

I am a trusting person. It's who I am. I don't want to be jaded. I don't want to change who I am. But Geez! Seriously? What is wrong with people? What happened to treating others the way you want to be treated?

I know this is a regular thing these days and I have to understand it's not me. But I don't want to be guarded with everyone I meet. I hate that this is what it has come to. I just want to be me. Now I feel I can't.

Honestly, I'm not sure I even want to try again.

I'm fine, I'm strong. I have survived a lot worse. It just sucks though!!!

End of rant.....


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StillWidowed

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1156 on: February 09, 2017, 01:27:16 PM »
I'm not even bothering anymore.  It's proven to be a complete waste of time.  And the one guy I did connect with (or so I thought) and dated off and on for three years, ended up being a real head case.  I'm busy with friends and family, but miss the companionship of a man.  Then I remember what a pain in the ass online dating is, and I'm ok again.

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1157 on: February 09, 2017, 02:09:34 PM »
momto and stillwidowed: I had the pleasure of spending a couple of days with a work colleague out of state who invited me to speak to her students. As we talked, she shared that she and her husband had met online. We talked about some of his quirks and some of hers ... we laughed a lot. I share that snippet to say, you both are wonderful and strong women. Whoever ghosts on you is missing out. And that right guy is out there. You might trip over him at the grocery store, slam your handbag into the back of his head getting on the subway, or spill a hot cup of something on him in the coffee shop. It will be spectacular and I for one can't wait to hear your story. It might not generate from an online meeting, but wherever it comes from, I pray it's magic.
Andree'

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MR

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1158 on: February 09, 2017, 03:31:51 PM »
Very nicely put Arneal

RyanAmysMom

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1159 on: February 09, 2017, 05:37:11 PM »
Why is it that when I look at men's profiles online, I am appalled at how OLD everyone my age is? 

Seriously - some of these men that claim to be my age - I would feel like I was on a date with my dad...... 

Am I the only one who hasn't aged?   8) 8) 8)


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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1160 on: February 09, 2017, 06:28:45 PM »
I just got ghosted again.

I don't understand what's wrong with these guys.  Bad taste AND bad manners?  Geez.  Hugs.

Take care,
Rob T
There was something fishy about the butler.  I think he was a Pisces, probably working for scale.

RobFTC

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1161 on: February 09, 2017, 06:31:05 PM »
Why is it that when I look at men's profiles online, I am appalled at how OLD everyone my age is? 

LOL, you could be my sister!  She's also widowed and 13 years older than me, and she can't get over how OLD the guys in her searches all look.  It's putting a damper on her dream of having a knight in shining armor ride up to her doorstep!  :D

Take care,
Rob T
There was something fishy about the butler.  I think he was a Pisces, probably working for scale.

MR

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1162 on: February 10, 2017, 09:48:25 AM »
I suppose guys age faster than girls..

bdean38

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1163 on: February 10, 2017, 09:55:30 AM »
Why is it that when I look at men's profiles online, I am appalled at how OLD everyone my age is? 

Seriously - some of these men that claim to be my age - I would feel like I was on a date with my dad...... 

Am I the only one who hasn't aged?   8) 8) 8)


haha! this is hilarious!!

momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1164 on: February 10, 2017, 07:26:08 PM »
I just got ghosted again.

I don't understand what's wrong with these guys.  Bad taste AND bad manners?  Geez.  Hugs.

Take care,
Rob T

Thanks Rob.
No taste at all! His loss! 😊

Needytoo

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1165 on: February 17, 2017, 02:45:43 PM »
Ghosting, just don't understand it, especially when you still see they are on the site?  Why are they there in the first place?

Another question for everyone. It appears that some of these guys show that they are online 24 hours a day?  Is something glitchy on the sites? 

klim

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1166 on: February 17, 2017, 03:43:36 PM »
On some of the phone apps it doesn't log out when you close the app. You actually have to go into settings scroll down and logout... I've accidently left myself logged in over an extended period of time.
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momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1167 on: February 18, 2017, 10:43:29 AM »
Don't take it personally Needytoo....

It is what it is....

And Klim is right about the logging off.

wecouldbeheros

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1168 on: February 20, 2017, 12:44:04 AM »
Ghosting is the way people show they have no interest in communicating further. Sort of the same as blocking but maybe they're thinking it's kinder.

klim

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1169 on: February 20, 2017, 07:23:28 AM »
Blocking is for people who are bothersome or threatening....
Not replying is for people you're not interested in....
Letting people go politely ( Thanks for the conversation/ coffee/ drink etc but I'm not feeling the connection I'm looking for. Good luck in your search.) is the right thing.


My definition of ghosting ...this occurs when you've had a fair bit of conversation, a meeting planned or perhaps even meetngreet..........and then nothing....

Ghosting is just weird and not nice.
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