Author Topic: On line dating vents and laughs......  (Read 144058 times)

Needytoo

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1170 on: February 20, 2017, 07:40:54 AM »
Totally agree on the ghosting, it isn't right at all.

Thanks for clearing up the Match app, now I am not as creeped out. I am continuing on my "Match" experiment and continuing to message three guys a week. So far not one has even read my message. Might be my primary photo, which I thought was kinda funny but maybe guys don't think so.  It is a picture of my sons and I posing with our sunglasses on; I believe that it shows the fun side of me, but others might think the boys look like bodyguards.   How do I change my primary photo to one that I just loaded up?  It just says it is an additional photo and not a primary one? 




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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1171 on: February 20, 2017, 10:24:32 AM »
A primary photo should be you only. Read that and found it to be true. Otherwise people sometimes see it as a ready made family and will steer away. At least I've found that to be true.
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Needytoo

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1172 on: February 20, 2017, 11:58:58 AM »
I think you're right wecouldbeheros.  On Match I was able to change it to a photo of me but it is an old one.  For some reason, I can't upload and use a current photo.

Update on my little experiment with Match.  One of the guys that I sent a message to has checked out my profile many times.  Under the message tab, it says none of my messages have been read but I can see he checked me out again.  I don't get it. Are the guys on Match more stuck up?

Went onto POF sent out one message the guy replied within 10 minutes.  Once I get more data might need to do a TED talk on this or we could include it in our book.


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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1173 on: February 21, 2017, 11:37:03 PM »
Update on my little experiment with Match.  One of the guys that I sent a message to has checked out my profile many times.  Under the message tab, it says none of my messages have been read but I can see he checked me out again.  I don't get it. Are the guys on Match more stuck up?

If he isn't reading your message, it's almost certainly because he's not paid up.  Ain't no guy gonna refuse to read a message!  Match will drop hints that you visited his profile, but he can't even see he has a message from you if he's not paid up.  You assume the worst a little too fast :-)

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There was something fishy about the butler.  I think he was a Pisces, probably working for scale.

Needytoo

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1174 on: February 22, 2017, 05:46:22 AM »
Does Match show the person is online even is they are not a paid member?


RobFTC

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1175 on: February 22, 2017, 08:06:02 AM »
Does Match show the person is online even is they are not a paid member?

Of course - it helps them market more people to you!  Some have documented that match reports people as "last online in the last N days" even when they haven't used their apps or logged into their accounts for a much longer time.  I like match, but they are a little shifty.

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There was something fishy about the butler.  I think he was a Pisces, probably working for scale.

nonesuch

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1176 on: February 24, 2017, 08:10:31 AM »
I think the tactic is used by many of the online dating companies, Rob. That's why they try like heck to get you to disable your account rather than delete it when you want to take a break.

Needytoo

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1177 on: February 25, 2017, 07:50:27 AM »
It is a shifty move what Match is doing and I keep picking the guys that are most likely not paid members. 

The guy I was "chatting" with from POF ghosted on the third day.  The guy didn't even try, would reply with one-word answers.


Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1178 on: March 25, 2017, 07:37:52 AM »
I noticed some things recently on match and plenty of fish ..
So,. when the picture comes up it will say Bobprofile , 54.   So now you click on it and it says Hi my name is Bob and I'm 49. So what I find funny is you have been on so long when you wrote your profile , the dating site kept up with your current age but you can't edit your profile to say hi I'm bob and I'm 54. .?

Other thing I find funny is the guys on plenty of fish can't spell the town they live in correctly , I'm talking butchering it so I have to think oo you mean xyz?
Then on match you get I live in (just an example ) .. New York City , but looking for someone 10 miles from Orlando Florida . Ok huh??
 
Glad I find humor in this ..
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momof2obs

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1179 on: March 25, 2017, 08:00:07 AM »
Has anyone else tried Bumble?  I did this week and can't believe not one match out of the dozens of men that I had liked. Not one.  Ego bruised but, in all reality, not the worst thing to have happened to me.

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1180 on: March 25, 2017, 10:26:55 AM »
Keep laughing M2j&j!
It's all you can do!
Those must be the old profiles they use for bait maybe too. I have found many of the opposite too. Profile says 50 and then they say they are 30 but like older women!

momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1181 on: March 25, 2017, 10:31:28 AM »
I have tried Bumble. It's hit and miss and not much different than Tinder.

Although, you do get a fuzzy glimpse of who has swiped on you on your messages page. It's sometimes easy to tell based on the colours of the image. Sadly most of these are not of interest for me.

I have met a couple and chatted with a bunch but nothing of value yet.

Don't take it personally. It's just the nature of the beast.

I forgot to add. Even if you match and you send a  message they don't always respond. They may also unmatch you. I had one this week unmatch me mid sentence! I was typing and he vanished! Get some manners people!
It's all part of the game I guess.
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Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1182 on: April 04, 2017, 07:05:17 PM »
Let's play a game .. backstory .. was on ok Cupid last night . Clicked on a profile of a guy I knew, he messaged me and said hey I know you . I responded I know you . He is a dad of a baseball player in our town, and I've  seen him before at the fields .  So we messaged for awhile , then decided to chat on the phone. Had never talked to him before in real life, so was pleasantly surprised how easy it was to talk with him. He asked if I'd like to go out Wednesday night. He said he would reach out today to finalize , also threw on or I could call him. ( which I don't and won't , at least in beginning if your interested I feel guys place to do that )
So the game is , it's 8pm .. will he call ? Text ? None of the above , flake and blow off the whole thing .
What do we think ? Lol
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1183 on: April 04, 2017, 07:15:09 PM »
Guys are often nervous about the first call too. They might be interested but aren't sure if you are. If he doesn't and you don't but you are interested, message him and say something like ' Hey, sorry we did not connect. Call me when you are free and let's schedule to meet.' It gives him clear direction on what to do. The first time NG and I were messaging I made the suggestion to meet. He agreed and sent his #. I sent mine and said something like 'Yeah let's talk'. He called. I wasn't adverse to ringing first, just too nervous :)
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Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1184 on: April 04, 2017, 07:18:21 PM »
Arenal but we already talked on phone last night. So first call out of way . Tonight is just a follow up to plan something for tomorrow.
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