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momof2obs

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1230 on: April 27, 2017, 10:04:20 AM »
I finally got some matches on Bumble and have started messaging the men.  Most don't reply back.  I'm a big girl and that's fine.  But the fun (?) has been with the ones who have replied...the first got insulted that I didn't jump at his immediate offer of going all 50 Shades of Grey on me (really? we just started chatting five seconds ago!)

The second guy told me in his first message that he was into extreme fetishes...

OK...so is this how it is going to be?  What ever happened to meeting for coffee?

momtokam

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1231 on: April 27, 2017, 12:41:14 PM »
Momof2, sadly this is all normal.
Keep trying. There are normal guys who will ask to meet for coffee. It just takes longer to find them!

Julester3

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1232 on: April 27, 2017, 08:17:09 PM »
So 24 hours live on a dating site - 60 requests? Crazy! Over 15 text messages on the site. A few intriguing ones but when I was up front that I want to take it slow and start platonic didn't go well...

jgib

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1233 on: April 27, 2017, 11:21:57 PM »
I found that too.  Go slow is no go.  I don't even post photos anymore.  I mainly lurk and if I see a profile that has some brains behind it I may send a message with a photo.  I am in my 50s now so looks are not as important as substance.
By this you can understand why I have not had much interest!  Lol.
I guess I could say I am not sure how ready I am anyways.  I am pretty sure if something clicks I would be interested....or maybe just be happy with myself now.....

Julester3

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1234 on: April 28, 2017, 06:30:27 AM »
I'm just seeing if this is something to pursue. I have never online dated before because I never had to.

Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1235 on: April 28, 2017, 06:33:43 AM »
Has anyone seen the new show on NBC , called first dates ? I decided to watch it last night and it is cute . Actually was interesting to see what they talk about and things maybe they shouldn't lol.
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tybec

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1236 on: April 28, 2017, 09:09:31 AM »
Yes, as it is Friday night!  ;)

I think it is interesting, too.  And they have a diverse group of couples, not all just barbies and kens in their 20s.  They had the elderly couple, the Asia couple, mixed races,  and the gay couple.  I didn't date many before DH and now I am with NG,   my first guy I met Face to face on line, and it has been a year.  So, I really don't know how to date.  ;)

 

arneal

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1237 on: April 30, 2017, 08:55:27 PM »
Here's another interesting video (http://www.howtogettheguy.com/blog/win-at-dating/) ... the part about being higher maintenance than everybody else ...
Andree'

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Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1238 on: May 13, 2017, 06:49:25 PM »
Never leave your iPad out when you have friends over . Woke up this am to quite a few matches from online that I didn't do . Quite funny , maybe they can pick better than I . Lol
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Julester3

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1239 on: May 13, 2017, 07:22:17 PM »
About 2 weeks into online dating. I have come to the conclusion that people see widow and think I must want hot sex. Some guys have been okay but majority wants some sort of sexual favor or sexy photos. Really? I just got asked by a 28 yo who said he'd be my boy toy and I can use him till I find someone better??? This is crazy stuff I can't make up. Found a decent guy and found out he was still legally married? Ugh! Also got stood up a few times and a guy refused to go out with me cause I wasn't dressed in a way that turned him on.

BrokenHeart2

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1240 on: May 14, 2017, 02:08:32 PM »
Hey Julester3, I'll take the 28 yr old for a while!! LOL I'm just joking people :)
I don't want it to be his legacy that his death destroyed me.
I need to honour his life by rebuilding my life.

Julester3

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1241 on: May 14, 2017, 10:25:43 PM »
He increased his age to get past my age filter. He's spent the last 24 hours promising me he will do anything to please me. Omg man up and take my refusal with some dignity!

Needytoo

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1242 on: May 16, 2017, 05:50:12 AM »
Julester3, hot stuff!!

I went to my first meet and greet in over a year.  The guy is 10 years older than me but I am trying to be more open. Poor guy was so nervous and I felt he overshared.  Now don't get me wrong I really want a  relationship that we both feel safe that we can share but doing it within 15 minutes I find weird.  We shared our phone numbers and he was texting me a lot during the day. I am not used to that and it feels weird.
He wants to go for coffee and go for a drive. Just not feeling that is a right thing to do. Advice?

Julester3

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1243 on: May 16, 2017, 05:59:57 AM »
It's funny you mention you are not comfortable. I wouldn't be either. There is comfort knowing you can go to your car and escape if things get weird or don't work. My solution was to install the Uber app on my phone so that I do have an escape plan. Dating is going to make you try things we may not be keen on, I think.

Texting and talking with a new round of guys. Still have the married guy talking to me. I just flirt with him. I think he needs an ego boost from what he can't get from his wife. So it's platonic because I keep him that way.

Love2fish

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1244 on: May 16, 2017, 06:18:13 AM »
I love to give advice Needytoo.  My first and most important tip is never follow any of it.  No one will ever know even a tiny fraction of what it is that makes you tick.  Listen to it and if it truly feels like your own inner voice then it may have merit.

If things aren't feeling right about this guy they probably are not.  If it's just a question of propriety then suggest an alternative for your next encounter.  You are in charge.

It sounds to me like he may have been smitten with you.  I've been on both sides of the smitten dynamic and over-sharing was one clue.  If you feel some attraction then being on the receiving end of smitteness is a great place to be for a host of reasons.  But tread lightly.  Where smitten goes there go strong feelings. 

But maybe he's just an over-sharer