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Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1425 on: October 16, 2017, 07:33:58 AM »
So date number 2 last night with online dude , only 3 years from first date to second date . Lol . He wasn’t ready to date 3 years ago . Very nice guy , but I didn’t feel anything that plus young kids , not sure he would be for me . Now this part I hate , if he texts saying I’m not interested .
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Leadfeather

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1426 on: October 16, 2017, 08:41:38 AM »
Now this part I hate , if he texts saying I’m not interested .

Just rip that bandaid right off. As someone who was just was on the receiving end of a "your a nice guy but" text I much prefer to know and move on than to wait and not know.
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Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1427 on: October 16, 2017, 12:10:09 PM »
Leadfeather.. you are correct . I texted him , and he was so nice about it  . He agreed the difference in our kids ages and where we are at this stage in life wouldn’t work. Phew .. always hate that part .
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faye

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1428 on: October 16, 2017, 05:23:45 PM »
After a while I learned when a date cancelled, I left the ball in his court to re-schedule.

momof2obs

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1429 on: October 16, 2017, 10:24:19 PM »

On the lighter side there was no discussion of genitalia size. . .

Damn...you did better than me!

momof2obs

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1430 on: October 16, 2017, 10:31:58 PM »
it just keeps getting better...I can't wait for the book I write about my experiences...

Had a guy message me that he wants me to be his sugar momma (hello, buy into the rich widow myth much?)

I asked him what he meant and got this reply...

"you pay me for the ultimate orgasmic experience of your life"

 ::)

Julester3

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1431 on: October 17, 2017, 06:20:43 AM »
I got a similar offer once but I didn't have to pay him, he wanted to experience an older woman. 🤔 Uh no thanks you! I'm never that desperate for human contact!

Momtojandj

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1432 on: October 22, 2017, 04:02:43 PM »
Matched with a guy on tinder, we messaged . We happen to have a mutual friend in common . He asked for my number and texted me last night . I was out and said I would text him when I got home , I did .. he read it ( thanks iPhone ) no response. Texts me today , I respond he reads and no response . Ok not a good first impression... next... but why bother really ?
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trying2breathe

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1433 on: October 23, 2017, 08:42:11 AM »
momtojandj   Don't write him off too soon, the timing of texts has always been a source of stress for me.   It's the very start of communicating and there's no protocol.  I'd give him a chance and see where it goes.
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arneal

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1434 on: October 25, 2017, 02:52:21 PM »
Yes -- the text thing is crazy-making. Often if you don't ask any questions in your message, people feel no need to respond. He might have a weird schedule as well, making responses difficult. Never know until you have a chance to meet him if you so desire.
Andree'

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1435 on: November 06, 2017, 11:40:36 PM »
A little backstory for new wids. I haven't ventured into online dating unless Facebook counts. A lot of men contact me through Facebook. Back in May I decided to take a break from dating. It was just very underwhelming and unsatisfying.

On my birthday, August 28th, I ran into a guy I graduated high school with at the gas station. I was airing my tires and glanced back at him. He looked familiar, but I just went back to airing my tires. Then I left. He messaged me on Facebook asking if I was just at the gas station airing my tires. Our conversation started from there. We met for lunch a few days later.  We started meeting for lunch once a week, talking and texting daily, then seeing each other more often,  evenings, etc.  I'm an over thinker, so I'm trying really hard just to take it one day at a time. I really enjoy his company. He's a great guy. We're always laughing, both sarcastic. I feel really comfortable with him.
Jen

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arneal

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1436 on: November 07, 2017, 01:12:54 PM »
Good for you, Virgo!
Andree'

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Virgo

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1437 on: November 07, 2017, 02:21:57 PM »
Good for you, Virgo!

Thank you! I'm cautiously optimistic.
Jen

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Leadfeather

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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1438 on: November 12, 2017, 01:31:51 PM »
Not really a vent, more of a question.

How many men/women do you talk to online at a time? It feels like if I am not careful I am going to have to many conversations going at once. Three seems to be about my limit. Also after a few days of chatting I want to do a meet and greet before investing to much more time in a conversation.
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Re: On line dating vents and laughs......
« Reply #1439 on: November 12, 2017, 03:54:18 PM »
I think 3 was my limit too.  Actually it was a good number because I quickly realized that when I got a notification, I was disappointed if it was from #2 or #3 and I focused my attention on #1.  It took us about 3 weeks to meet in person, but it was February and the weather was wreaking havoc with attempts to get together.

Good luck!
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