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imissdow

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« Reply #30 on: March 13, 2015, 08:46:20 PM »
pancreatic cancer. He had the wipple surgery and they told us he looked great. A couple rounds of chemo some radiation and they told us he was good to go and cancer free. He died of cancer  a week after the doctor told me that. Made it 10 months from his surgery.

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« Reply #31 on: March 13, 2015, 09:08:54 PM »
Laurie started to have symptoms of MG in 1993 or 94, which we ignored like idiots. Diagnosed with MG and a Thymoma, which had already spread to the left lung and intestines, in 1997. Very long surgery and died twice on the table. Four rounds of chemo and then wait and see. Cancer came back in 2004 as an inoperable tumor in the liver. (Laurie had lost her job and insurance in 2002 because of 9/11 so no job or doctor's visits for close to two years). Laurie died maybe 10 months later.
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« Reply #32 on: March 14, 2015, 01:55:10 PM »
((smabify))  I posted in the introduction section.  The battle lasted 4.5 years and it WAS a battle. adenocarcinoma poorly differentiated and too many mets to mention.  I am not "over" the trauma of his final days, and I don't know if I ever will be. 

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« Reply #33 on: March 14, 2015, 03:10:10 PM »
bladder cancer here ed was diagnosed in in april of 2010 lost his battle nov 14th 2010

ManutesGirl

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« Reply #34 on: March 14, 2015, 04:48:53 PM »
DH died from an extremely rare form of thymic carcinoma.  It had a neuroendocrine component but was not a neuroendocrine tumor.  We were married 5 months when I took him to the ER on January 6th due to severe abdominal pain.  After a chest/ab CT the doctor came back and told us he had a large mass in the mediastinal region, tons of nodules on both lungs, tumors in his liver, pancreas, etc...  His health had been declining rapidly but we weren't prepared for a terminal diagnosis.  That date is seared in my mind forever.  After 4 months on home hospice he died in October 2011.  Never expected the in sickness and in health, till death do you part be forced upon us so soon.

While DH was sick I often had people say I don't know how you do it and it's so much work, don't you need more help.  It was exhausting but it was just the life we were living and I really didn't think that much about it.  Looking back now I can see what others were saying to me.  I can't believe I (we) did all we did and kept things as normal as we could for as long as we could. 
?I have lived my life well, lived with integrity and always lived each day the best I could.  I have no regrets.?  DKB 9/2/65 - 10/23/11

Out_of_the_Blue

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« Reply #35 on: March 14, 2015, 05:01:25 PM »
So sorry to hear how cancer has robbed so many of us.

My husband died of brain cancer within four months of diagnosis at the age of 51. It was horrific.

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« Reply #36 on: March 14, 2015, 05:15:11 PM »
My husband died four months after being diagnosed with Stage IV kidney cancer.

Becks610

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« Reply #37 on: March 14, 2015, 08:48:18 PM »
Brain cancer.  He had glioblastoma multiforme.  I still hate to write it out. 

Big hugs to everyone.

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« Reply #38 on: March 24, 2015, 06:59:53 PM »
Bob was diagnosed with Acute myeloid leukemia AML at the end of Nov 2012 and fought a hard battle to which he lost on 4/4/2013 a little over 4 month later. We were only given positive outcomes from doctors so we had no talks about what would happen if he did not make it.
It will be two years since he has been gone and it still does not seem real.
You must give up the life you planned in order to have the life that is waiting for you.? ~ Joseph Campbell

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« Reply #39 on: March 24, 2015, 11:16:34 PM »
I'm unsure if I qualify for this thread due to a bit of diagnosis ambiguity...but glioblastoma is the only diagnosis that the neurosurgeons could reasonably make.

DH was discovered to have an enormous brain tumor which pervaded his temporoparietal lobes. A biopsy and a lobectomy later, and they still couldn't reach the crux of the tumor. The area of highest uptake on his scans had always been the center of his brain. The pathologists couldn't be definitive with the surgical specimens.

They felt it was a glioblastoma due to the gliosis, cerebral edema, structural distortion, and midline shift along with the neurophysiological symptoms he experienced.  They estimated his survival to be 1 to 3 years.

He made it 1.5 years exactly.

Baylee

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« Reply #40 on: March 26, 2015, 04:31:12 PM »
Undifferentiated cancer (rare);  89 days from discovered to gone, Oct 30, 2006. He was 42, I was 41. Our kids were 6 and 9 YO. Complained of chest pain in May. Without even looking at or touching the patient, the doctor "diagnosed" GERD. D had a stage 1 melanoma removed in 2004. Why no follow up, or concern?After three weeks of pain, it stopped. We never even filled the GERD prescription.

In July, pain resumed. This time, doc pressed on D's sternum (D yelled in pain). Ordered CT SCAN. Lemon sized mass at top of heart, inoperable and already mets to bone. We got one round of chemo in after numerous rounds of pathology to try to categorize the cells to direct treatment. The chemo made D too weak to withstand any more. He walked to the doc office that Tuesday. By Thursday he was quadriplegic, by Saturday, gone. He was still himself to the end. It was so quick that he had not lost any hair yet.

That Tuesday, I told the kids the cancer was going to win, eventually. On Friday, I futher explained that I meant DEATH. We were unsure if we would get Christmas or even Thanksgiving with him. I never dreamed he would not see Halloween.

Worst moment of my life, even worse than witnessing his final breath (was asleep on morphine due to breathing trouble), was telling my children that next day. I would clobber anyone who harmed my kids. I had to hurt them worse than they ever imagined in telling them of his death.

F--- cancer!

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« Reply #41 on: March 26, 2015, 07:14:20 PM »
Stage IV non small cell lung cancer.  He was diagnosed(finally!) on Dec 18, 2008 after having had symptoms-weight loss, anemia and fatigue for 7 months.  Had had workups and dr visits including oncologist during that time but nobody took the time to listen.  Attributed it to some phantom virus.  He fainted in November, had a cough after Thanksgiving, went to the dr and was diagnosed with bronchitis.  He had hip pain(thought he injured it during a yoga class).  I sent him back to the dr after the antibiotics for bronchitis didn't work and told him not to come home without an X-ray.  They found a spot on his lung.  The CT scan showed a tumor and I knew long before the PET scan was done that he had not injured himself in yoga-he had mets to bones and brain.
137 days from diagnosis till he died.  Chemo, radiation and a million treatments for all of the horrific side effects.  The dr said that he was getting better-the tumors were shrinking.  He died before the next round of chemo was due. 
I sometimes look back and can't believe that I lived through that.  It seems completely surreal even now, almost 6 years later.

Pat

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« Reply #42 on: March 26, 2015, 09:01:38 PM »
Stage 4 pancreatic cancer.  Less than four months from diagnosis to death; from "perfect" health to nothing that quickly.  She was amazing throughout, and I'll never forget the dignity she exhibited in the face of utter hopelessness.  Fuck that disgusting disease.

Seems like there's a fair few pancreatic cancer widows here.

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« Reply #43 on: March 27, 2015, 06:25:49 AM »
Stage 4 pancreatic cancer.  Less than four months from diagnosis to death; from "perfect" health to nothing that quickly.  She was amazing throughout, and I'll never forget the dignity she exhibited in the face of utter hopelessness.  Fuck that disgusting disease.

Seems like there's a fair few pancreatic cancer widows here.

Brenda, My husband died of colon cancer but by BIL (his brother) died of pancreatic cancer.  He was 53.  He was experiencing some lower back pain.  3 weeks from diagnosis to his passing.  He passed a month after my husband.  Cancer sucks....
I miss how happy I was with you.

Brenda

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« Reply #44 on: March 27, 2015, 07:29:26 PM »
Brenda, My husband died of colon cancer but by BIL (his brother) died of pancreatic cancer.  He was 53.  He was experiencing some lower back pain.  3 weeks from diagnosis to his passing.  He passed a month after my husband.  Cancer sucks....

That it does.

I'm so sorry to hear about your losses.  Makes the three months I got with my wife (to say goodbye) sound like an eternity.