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meganj

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would have been his 34th birthday tomorrow
« on: November 09, 2015, 08:26:18 PM »
Lost my husband nearly 3 months ago in a motorcycle accident. He would have been 34 tomorrow. Really feeling it and especially hormonal as I recently gave birth to our first child nearly 2 weeks ago. I am so mad at the universe that she won't ever meet her father in this world and that we have all been cheated of him. It's so stinking unfair!! Eric was the best thing that happened to me and to have him ripped away is just heartbreaking and infuriating. My tiny silver lining is I work in the medical field and know the air ambulance crew who landed (thank goodness was not a shift I was on...) and spoke with the medical examiner myself so I know he did not suffer. Death was instant. I have worked trauma icu for years and saw so many times how quickly life can change, but it.was always "someone else"  now that someone else is me. I had a memorial plaque done in his name at the local humane society as we are both huge animal lovers. Thinking will go there tomorrow with friends and family and little baby Erica (yep she's named after him! We couldn't decide on a name before he passed and this just seemed.fitting to honor him)

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Re: would have been his 34th birthday tomorrow
« Reply #1 on: November 09, 2015, 09:19:07 PM »
Welcome meganj. I am so very sorry for your loss of Eric. We have had a few members that were pregnant when their husbands passed, so you are sadly not alone in such a difficult circumstance. I think it is beautiful you named your daughter Erica. I think she will grow up proud to have been named after such an obviously great guy.
On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good. - Unknown

Don't be concerned about being disloyal to your pain by being joyous. - Hazrat Inayat Khan

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Re: would have been his 34th birthday tomorrow
« Reply #2 on: November 10, 2015, 09:39:06 AM »
Thinking of you. 

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Re: would have been his 34th birthday tomorrow
« Reply #3 on: November 11, 2015, 08:27:07 AM »
Megan, I am so, so sorry for your loss. So many hugs to you, and to that sweet baby girl. I love that you named her Erica... such a lovely and fitting tribute.

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Re: would have been his 34th birthday tomorrow
« Reply #4 on: November 11, 2015, 08:40:50 AM »
meganj, so very sorry for your loss.  He sounds like a great guy.  I hope yesterday went okay. 

meganj

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Re: would have been his 34th birthday tomorrow
« Reply #5 on: November 11, 2015, 09:35:22 AM »
Thank you all. Had some family and friends over for cake and snacks. We had a good time as Eric would have wanted. Still not fair :( why is it that we have to go through this horrible pain? Ugh

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Re: would have been his 34th birthday tomorrow
« Reply #6 on: November 11, 2015, 05:44:40 PM »
I am glad you got through the day ,couldn't have been easy
so sorry to hear about your Eric
and yes none of this is fair , none of it !
but I love that you named your daughter Erica
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