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Brenda

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I guess I just graduated to this subgroup...
« on: January 13, 2016, 04:38:15 PM »
One year down.  Many more to go (hopefully), and surely they can't be worse than the first.

Can't believe how the time has flown and dragged simultaneously.  But glad to have all the "firsts" finally out of the way.

Thanks for the support, everyone at Widda.  It's meant a lot.  Life would have been far worse without this fantastic group of people who reach out and help one another despite being in the same awful situation themselves.
« Last Edit: January 13, 2016, 04:40:37 PM by Brenda »

Lisa

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Re: I guess I just graduated to this subgroup...
« Reply #1 on: January 13, 2016, 04:45:14 PM »
For me the 1st was the absolute worst. It isnt everyone's experience but it was mine. Best of luck to you as you continue this path with us.
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donswife

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Re: I guess I just graduated to this subgroup...
« Reply #2 on: January 13, 2016, 05:30:34 PM »
Brenda: You made it through the first of "first"
Never sure how to react to this but we are all still standing so that has to be good

my year one was in October
The only good part was I went to a bago dinner the night before so it gave me a bit of strength
It surprised me, how the actual day ,I couldn't stop the raw tears from coming
you know the ones that are non stoppable no matter where you are
take care 

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Re: I guess I just graduated to this subgroup...
« Reply #3 on: January 14, 2016, 06:44:21 PM »
I wish some magic happenened at the one year mark but not having to anticipate all of the "firsts" is the one thing.  I have to agree that this group has saved my sanity on many occasions.
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Re: I guess I just graduated to this subgroup...
« Reply #4 on: January 14, 2016, 09:32:12 PM »
Congratulations on surviving that first year! I agree with Trying, that reaching the one year milestone does not magically erase all the pain or make things better. What it does do is to help you realize you have made it through the first year after experiencing the worst thing that can possibly happen to anyone. No one can ever take that away from you. From my experience, that knowledge alone can help keep you going, when the difficult days roll in, in the future. From my experience, that knowledge can also help you enjoy the good days that inevitably come along, just a little bit more, too. ((((Hugs))))
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Re: I guess I just graduated to this subgroup...
« Reply #5 on: January 21, 2016, 01:28:45 PM »
((((((Brenda)))))))
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