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Wheelerswife

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Anyone else...
« on: February 14, 2016, 01:49:06 PM »
...just bummed out today?  In general, I've been doing okay.  But today, I am really missing him.  We wouldn't have done anything special today, because every day was special to us.  I'm glad we lived that way.  Sigh.

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Captains wife

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Re: Anyone else...
« Reply #1 on: February 14, 2016, 03:12:51 PM »
So sorry Maureen...count me in. I'm still in my pjs at 4pm and just feel blah today. Binge watching tv and movies just to get through day.

Amor

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« Reply #2 on: February 14, 2016, 03:37:32 PM »
Yes just missing him more and more each day.  We never celebrated this day as well so I do not think triggered it.  Up last night until 3 and did not want to go to at bed.  Just wanted him here holding me. 
Wishing everyone a better day.
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« Reply #3 on: February 14, 2016, 03:40:32 PM »
I'm in. I'm feeling cranky, pissy and sad. It sucks. Even 5 hours straight of the Walking Dead didn't help, lol.

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« Reply #4 on: February 14, 2016, 03:46:31 PM »
Yes, I am bummed out today as well. My wife loved Valentine's Day. So it was a special day for us, even though we shared our love for each other all of the other days as well. The last time we went out was on Valentine's Day, which makes it bittersweet.
Mrs.C, You have been my Sweetheart, Best Friend and Love since 1987. You will be my Wife forever and ever and ever. Love Always, Mr. C

First Widow

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« Reply #5 on: February 14, 2016, 05:01:46 PM »
Me too!  Even though a few friends have sent me Valentine cards and wishes (including the young son of a friend who showed up at my door today with a handmade card for me because I "lost my Valentine") and I love everyone for thinking of me, it's just not the same.   Hugs to you all!
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« Reply #6 on: February 14, 2016, 05:13:29 PM »
Also bummed out.Today marks  seven years without my DH.

Guaruj

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« Reply #7 on: February 14, 2016, 08:16:56 PM »
It was brutally cold here today; it never got more than 10 degrees above zero (Fahrenheit). I had bought a bunch of stuff for my parents at Costco, and they said they'd stop by my house to pick it up. I got restless after lunch and asked them to instead meet me at Catherine's cemetery.

I took with me two heart-shaped cookies from a bakery we both loved. I left one in the snow just in front of her grave while I ate the other. I was really glad to get outside of the house, despite the cold. At least we had sunny skies and lots of snow on the ground.

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« Reply #8 on: February 14, 2016, 10:07:19 PM »
I am actually just weepy and sad today.  It started at 11:30 last night when I came across the movie P.S. I Love You.  And even though I knew what the movie was about I couldn't stop myself from watching it.  So I kicked off Valentine's Day crying on and off during the entire movie.  Couldn't get to sleep and then woke up still weepy and sad.  Thank goodness I knew it would be an emotional day and planned accordingly by having my kids friends over for the day.  It kept me from curling into the fetal position for the day.  Jon and I loved to do something special for Valentine's Day when it fell on a weekend.  We just wanted to steal those precious couple moments whenever we could, and used Valentine's Day as an excuse. Wishing he was here for a sweet Valentine's kiss.
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Re: Anyone else...
« Reply #9 on: February 15, 2016, 08:12:24 AM »
...just bummed out today?  In general, I've been doing okay.  But today, I am really missing him.  We wouldn't have done anything special today, because every day was special to us.  I'm glad we lived that way.  Sigh.

Maureen

Exactly how I was feeling and I was thinking how glad I was we lived like that. I have always disliked valentines day because if you weren't in a relationship the sad spotlight was on you and if you were the pressure to do something, buy something was there.

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« Reply #10 on: February 15, 2016, 11:28:12 AM »
Yes, yesterday was not a good day. I took a long nap which left less time to have to think about it. However, the kids liked the gifts I got them. My nephew dropped off a small box of my favorite salted caramels for me. I was blessed to have contact with a few dear widow friends. Then my daughter and I watched The Walking Dead together. So, I'm thankful for all those things, though missed my T very much.
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swilson

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« Reply #11 on: February 15, 2016, 11:43:17 AM »
Cold and snowy today so I didn't want to try the roads in the cemetery. Watched some hoops with mom, came home and got things together and ready for another week.
~ she's gone to Heaven so I've got to be good, so I can see my baby when I leave this world ~

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« Reply #12 on: February 15, 2016, 02:41:25 PM »
Going to join the pity party( although I had a very nice valentines with new guy). My dad died 5 years ago on Valentines day. A little over 2 years later DH died and finally a year later my mom died. Today on facebook I was reading some remebrances about my Dad, It made me think of all I've lost in the last while...my dad was the first.

It's kinda a double whammy here in Ontario.... Valentines day followed by Family day......just kinda accented those absent from my life.
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donswife

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« Reply #13 on: February 15, 2016, 05:45:47 PM »
yup yesterday was hard , sundays are hard enough
It was of course our favorite day to just hang out ,so add the valentine thing
makes it even harder , glad its over
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