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7 months today
« on: April 26, 2016, 06:26:01 PM »
Hi all. I am so grateful I was introduced to this group by a widow sister!

Here's my story.

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Re: 7 months today
« Reply #1 on: April 26, 2016, 08:23:34 PM »
Hi Chrissy. What a wonderful, kind soul Ryan was. I am so sorry for your loss and what you must have to had to experienced. How are you holding up?
On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% and that's pretty good. - Unknown

Don't be concerned about being disloyal to your pain by being joyous. - Hazrat Inayat Khan

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Re: 7 months today
« Reply #2 on: April 26, 2016, 08:53:07 PM »
Chrissy, I'm so sorry you so tragically became a member of our club.  I know there are a few others here who didn't get very long with their beloved spouses/fiance(e) or young loves.  I hope you are finding support amongst your family and friends, but I imagine that not many understand what it is like to lose your love so soon and so young. I hope you find more widow friends here!


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Re: 7 months today
« Reply #3 on: April 27, 2016, 01:52:16 AM »
Chrissy  - so sorry for your loss.  It sucks sums up everything.  Best advice is just to reach out and let the wonderful people on this site help you.  I don't believe most people, outside of those who have gone through this hell, get it.  One thing I do know, we all experience grief/healing in our own way and in our own time.  Do not put any pressure on yourself and do not compare yourself to anyone.   Take it day by day.  I am the kind of person who probably needs to take it hour by hour and sometimes even minute by minute.

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Re: 7 months today
« Reply #4 on: April 27, 2016, 10:20:27 AM »
Thank you all!

Holding up...I'm working on it.

Just yesterday I was told I'm destroying my husbands eternal resting place. His mom said this. She also told me she is so disappointed and Ryan would be devastated. The reason? His sister wants their grandfather's gun, and I told her no problem as long as we sign paperwork to make it legal.

I may have told them to stop pushing me around because it will get them nowhere.

I'm very lucky my own family is so damn understanding.


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Re: 7 months today
« Reply #5 on: April 27, 2016, 04:47:58 PM »
Welcome Chrissy, to the group nobody wants to join but we're glad you found us!! I'm so sorry for your loss of your dear Ryan.  So tragic.  It's shocking how people/family/friends react after a death.  I'm sorry your inlaws are being dicks.  Yup as simple as that.  How are you "destroying my husbands eternal resting place" by this request.  Oh, and I'm happy to hear you told them to stop pushing you around!!
I remember early out people giving me advise and guidance like I had lost my brain as well as my DH.  That really drove me crazy!
Big hugs to you Chrissy
I don't want it to be his legacy that his death destroyed me.
I need to honour his life by rebuilding my life.


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Re: 7 months today
« Reply #6 on: May 01, 2016, 10:10:57 AM »
Welcome Chrissy, sorry you had to join our sucky club. Thank you for sharing your story. My husband was killed in a motorcycle accident in 2012. Always here if you need to talk xo Renee
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