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Online Dating Photos
« on: March 18, 2015, 08:49:27 AM »
I'm surprised by the number of people who post photos where they look mean, unhappy or angry.
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Re: Online Dating Photos
« Reply #1 on: March 18, 2015, 09:30:46 AM »
Just to throw out another possibility - you've heard of "bitchy resting face"?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3v98CPXNiSk

Now I am not sure why people would use a pic of their version of a "neutral" face rather than pose and try to look inviting, but some are opposed to faking photos and want others to know that "yeah, I look like this. it's not personal and nothing is wrong." But being someone who is often told to "smile, it's not so bad!" or asked "are you okay?", I find assumptions about my inner feelings based on the fact that I have a crooked mouth that normally turns down at the corners rather than form a straight line of curl up - wearying.

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Re: Online Dating Photos
« Reply #2 on: March 18, 2015, 09:39:13 AM »
Just to throw out another possibility - you've heard of "bitchy resting face"?


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Re: Online Dating Photos
« Reply #3 on: March 18, 2015, 01:47:18 PM »
i have noticed particularly as people age, that their smile REALLY improves their looks.

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Re: Online Dating Photos
« Reply #4 on: March 18, 2015, 02:01:35 PM »
There have been "studies" where they claim that men are more attracted to women when they smile in these types of pictures, where the converse, women find men less attractive when they smile in these types of pictures.

I've seen a few articles quoting said "studies", but then I see individual comments that oppose this (like this thread).

Who knows if any of it is actually true.

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Re: Online Dating Photos
« Reply #5 on: March 18, 2015, 03:26:10 PM »
I'm surprised by the number of people who post photos where they look mean, unhappy or angry.
  What are you doing perusing those sites?  ;)

I haven't been on the dating sites at all, but I would share your concern for a less than positive picture.  And, seriously?  Even "BRF" goes away with a smile.  Live a little people!!  Show your good side! (Says the girl who has never had a picture without a smile - I even flashed a big one for the relatives that wanted a picture with family at his funeral before they went back to Cananda...)

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Re: Online Dating Photos
« Reply #6 on: March 23, 2015, 10:45:39 PM »
Both of my children do hope that I will find a woman to have a long-term committed relationship with and they are very supportive in that department.

DD was encouraging early on. "Dad, you have taken good care of yourself, you should get some new jeans that show that." She was also looking over my shoulder when I was building an online profile. I was going to post a selfie. "Dad, trust me don't post that photo." My response: "But I think that it looks pretty good." Her response: "Dad trust me, it doesn't." I did trust her and didn't post it.
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Re: Online Dating Photos
« Reply #7 on: March 25, 2015, 06:43:52 PM »
There have been "studies" where they claim that men are more attracted to women when they smile in these types of pictures, where the converse, women find men less attractive when they smile in these types of pictures.

I've seen a few articles quoting said "studies", but then I see individual comments that oppose this (like this thread).

Who knows if any of it is actually true.

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Re: Online Dating Photos
« Reply #8 on: March 25, 2015, 06:56:06 PM »


Do the men have teeth?

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Re: Online Dating Photos
« Reply #9 on: March 27, 2015, 02:05:57 AM »
So, now I'm all concerned about whether or not I have "BRF".  I thought about it just this morning.  Hmmm.  I can think of a few times when random people (men) told me to "smile" but I (incorrectly?) put this down to some deep-seated insecurity on their part.  I was perfectly happy at the time.  Gasp.

I do refuse to wear glasses and when I do, they are weaker than I need, so admittedly, I have "anger lines" on my forehead that I try to ignore.  Sigh.  When I'm nice, with potential BRF, do I just confuse people???  Argh.

It's. all. too. confusing. 

 >:( , I mean  ;D

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Re: Online Dating Photos
« Reply #10 on: March 27, 2015, 04:25:31 AM »
I think there is something to be said for body language. BRF just may mean something.  Just sayin.
If I'm in a bitchy mood I guess I'm wearing my BRF, if not then it's not there.... I sure hope it isn't. Lol
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Re: Online Dating Photos
« Reply #11 on: March 27, 2015, 07:59:08 AM »
Oh I SO have BRF in one of mine, but I was having SUCH a good hair day..........
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