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When I look to the Sky

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« on: July 10, 2016, 12:34:07 PM »
Hi there,

A friend sent me this link - I lost my husband suddenly about 2 1/2 months ago at the young age of 45.  I think the one thing that bothers me the most is the unpredictability of emotions.  Sitting in line at a grocery store and hearing a song that reminds me of him and then crying my eyes out in line.  I feel like it gets harder and harder each day but I'm trying to stay positive and hang on to the many wonderful things he gave me in life. 

hachi

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Re: New to this site
« Reply #1 on: July 10, 2016, 12:56:06 PM »
Hello there, When I look to the Sky,

Welcome to the club that nobody wants join. My husband died at the age of 50. Come here often, read, post and you will find others on your timeline who will become some of your closer connections, others further along your inspiration, and hopefully, you will see that you are not alone and that others here know something of what you are going through.

Peace,

Hachi
If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough.      ~ A. Einstein

donswife

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Re: New to this site
« Reply #2 on: July 10, 2016, 05:03:47 PM »
this site helped me through so much especially at the beginning
it was a life saver and I hope it is the same for you

take care or yourself and I am sorry you had to join us
 
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Re: New to this site
« Reply #3 on: July 10, 2016, 05:37:09 PM »
Hugs. I'm so sorry... I wish I had better words. Please keep talking. We're here and we get it.
I have love in me the likes of which you can scarcely imagine and rage the likes of which you would not believe. If I cannot satisfy the one, I will indulge the other. ~Mary Shelley, Frankenstein

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Re: New to this site
« Reply #4 on: July 10, 2016, 07:13:48 PM »
In the early days, weeks and months unpredictable emotions are the only predictable thing.  I'm so sorry you have the need to join us but I'm glad you found us.  You are not alone and no matter what comes up you will find someone here who understands. Sending you tight hugs.
You will forever be my always.

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« Reply #5 on: July 10, 2016, 11:54:27 PM »
I am so sorry for the loss of your husband and you having a reason to find us. I hope in doing so, you will find the understanding support and kindness I have found from this caring group of people. The uncontrollable emotions are hard to deal with, but completely normal, unfortunately. Many members here have shared the experience of breaking into tears in the grocery store. It seems to be a common trigger. I know I have done it myself on several occasions.

Sending you hugs of support...
Without you, Baby, I'm not me.

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« Reply #6 on: July 11, 2016, 01:44:50 AM »
Welcome to the place it sucks to be and you should never have to join.
Filled though with some really great people.
They have helped me.
And sure they will do the same for you.
Blessings
I have a daughter named Boo, a dog called Stick, and a truck named Zane Grey. My neighbors think I am nuts when they hear me yell Boo and Stick get in Zane.
Best part is neighbors leave the crazy guy alone.....

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Re: New to this site
« Reply #7 on: July 12, 2016, 01:35:01 AM »
So sorry you have a need to join us, but glad you found us.  Like many others have said, this community was and continues to be tremendously helpful to me as I have journeyed through this loss.

Ugh...I hated going to the grocery store.  I would almost run from item to item to get out as quick as possible.  I have found that while those moments still come, they come less often now. 

Sending you a hug.
Kate

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« Reply #8 on: July 13, 2016, 07:23:45 PM »
So sorry you had to join us here but glad you found it.

The grocery store was a huge trigger for me. Occasionally- 4 1/2 years later - it still is. I avoid the cereal aisle because he was a huge cereal eater. I never was. Now when DD wants cereal, I try to avoid seeing any but the kind she likes. DH loved Crispix - I get teary over damn Crispix boxes.

Please be kind to yourself. Try to eat healthy foods, drink lots of water, and breathe!! Always breathe. It is not a linear journey, there are no right or wrong steps.

But you can work your way to a new normal - even though it seems impossible now, you can and will.
here is the deepest secret nobody knows ...
and this is the wonder that?s keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)
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« Reply #9 on: July 21, 2016, 06:23:45 AM »
I'm so sorry. So very sorry. My husband died unexpectedly at the age of 43, 3.5 years ago. I remember being in a grocery store, my heart racing, and wanting to escape because I saw his favourite food and I went to grab it to buy it for him as a treat.. and then I remembered...
It is a rollercoaster. You think you are coping, and then you smell something, see something, hear something.... and you can't breathe.
It is too early for you to believe this right now, perhaps, but we survive. It gets better. One step, one breath at a time.
"When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight." Kahlil Gibran