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2 1/2 years
« on: July 11, 2016, 03:21:03 PM »
It is hard to believe that 2 1/2 years ago, my wonderful polarbear went to sleep after a Facetime conversation with me...and he never woke up.  I wasn't home.  In fact, I was on the east coast to visit family and friends and attend a bago. 

Polarbear was one of us.  I met him through YWBB, the precursor to this site.  We just clicked, the two of us, and we dove head first into a new life together.  I'm so glad I didn't waste a single moment of that time together.  Sometimes, I still can't believe that all of this happened. 

Today, my heart breaks again as I think about John and that life as I knew it with him.  He was such a beautiful man.  It was my privilege to have his love for the last 3 years, 9 months and 22 days of his life.  I had never been so happy.

Life is short.  Love with all you've got. 

Barry 11/29/55-9/22/09       John  1/16/57-1/11/14

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Re: 2 1/2 years
« Reply #1 on: July 11, 2016, 04:57:31 PM »
I am so sorry for your losses Maureen.

Sitting with you if you like,
As your wife I was proud and honoured, as your widow I will be too.
You died the way you lived - trying to do what was right.


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Re: 2 1/2 years
« Reply #2 on: July 11, 2016, 06:12:49 PM »
It should have been so much longer, Maureen. Sending you love and tight hugs...
Without you, Baby, I'm not me.


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Re: 2 1/2 years
« Reply #3 on: July 11, 2016, 06:32:10 PM »
Sending you tight {{hugs}}
I miss how happy I was with you.


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Re: 2 1/2 years
« Reply #4 on: July 11, 2016, 11:46:13 PM »
Maureen, I am so sorry for your loss dear.
Getting to know you a little bit I am sure you made those last 3 years and 9 months of Johns life incredibly special for him.
Just sad you are hurting xo
I have a daughter named Boo, a dog called Stick, and a truck named Zane Grey. My neighbors think I am nuts when they hear me yell Boo and Stick get in Zane.
Best part is neighbors leave the crazy guy alone.....


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Re: 2 1/2 years
« Reply #5 on: July 12, 2016, 07:16:04 AM »
so sorry Maureen
sending hugs to you
take care
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Re: 2 1/2 years
« Reply #6 on: July 12, 2016, 09:50:19 AM »
Sending you so much love.  I wish I could have met him but feel like I know him through you.  Thank you for being so strong; you have helped me stay strong more times than I can count.  Love you! 


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Re: 2 1/2 years
« Reply #7 on: July 12, 2016, 11:50:55 AM »
I keep trying to think of how to articulate the feelings I have when I read about him in your words, and about losing him, after already having gone through so much....  And I never can.  Thinking of you and sending love and admiration.

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Re: 2 1/2 years
« Reply #8 on: July 12, 2016, 02:17:29 PM »
I know all too well that life isn't fair but whenever I think of your story with your Polarbear I want to cry "but that's just NOT FAIR!"
You will forever be my always.


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Re: 2 1/2 years
« Reply #9 on: July 13, 2016, 07:44:46 PM »
Tight hugs Maureen. I know how long you had together and am amazed at what you packed in! I see the photos and hear the stories on Facebook and think "they lived three lifetimes in their short time together." And yet, you should have had so much more, my friend.
here is the deepest secret nobody knows ...
and this is the wonder that?s keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)
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