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What's in a name?
« on: March 20, 2015, 07:22:28 PM »
Long ago on YWBB, someone started a post on board names.  What is the story behind your board name?  Some might like to be more generic in describing their name to keep anonymity, but lets tell the stories.  Also...if you have changed your name, why did you do it?

My name has been Wheelerswife from the beginning of my time on the board.  My first husband used a wheelchair for mobility and used the name "Wheeler" as his screen name.  I, therefore, became Wheelerswife.  I've never changed my name before...when I got married at 30, I'd been signing my name professionally for 8 years and I couldn't identify with a name change, so I kept my maiden name.  When I married John, I didn't change my name either.  In keeping with my tradition, I haven't changed my board name.  I did have another account on YWBB that I used for one thread only when I was about 5 months out the first time.  I needed to vent about something very upsetting and didn't want to let on that it was me.

John's board name was polarbear.  John was an Arctic climatologist and had spent a significant amount of time in the Arctic, especially when working on his doctorate.  He loved polar bears and winter and all the snow and cold....hence his name polarbear.

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Re: What's in a name?
« Reply #1 on: March 20, 2015, 07:39:10 PM »
So my late husband hated any kind of squashes (zuchhini, summer squash, etc) he'd call them Squish. I almost never called him by his given name (shared with his dad); I called him Pumpkin.  A pumpkin is technically a squash, so therefore, I became MissingSquish when he passed away. Seemed to roll off the tongue better than "pumpkins widow".
Gone but not Squish.

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Re: What's in a name?
« Reply #2 on: March 20, 2015, 08:08:49 PM »
Remy is the rat in the movie Ratatouille. If you've never seen it, it's about a rat who dreams of being a chef in Paris. Our first trip together was to Paris, and Mark loved to cook. When he would start picking out fancy recipes, I'd call him Remy. I have an email from him where he said, "I hope you don't mind if we have the pork chops for dinner tomorrow night instead. I found an Alton Brown recipe I want to try, and it needs to marinate. ~ Remy" It still cracks me up.

We went to see it in the movie theater and didn't care that we were the only adults there without kids. (Same goes for Toy Story, Wall-E, and Cars...) There's even a scene where they show the window of a book store, and you're supposed to focus on the book called "Anyone Can Cook"... but next to it was a book by "Chef Mark". When we went to Disney World, we looked all over for a Remy souvenir. (Apparently, not everyone loves Remy as much as we did.) He finally found a Remy stuffed animal and he now sits on the top of my kitchen cabinet.

My old YWBB profile picture was from that trip to Disney World. We went to Chefs de France, and Remy came out to serve us our dinner. My new picture is from the Philadelphia Flower show. If you look closely, Remy is under the chef's hat.

Writing this brought back a lot of really nice memories. This is why this community is so important to me - sometimes you just need to retell your stories.
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To the long, winding road
You left me standing here,
A long, long time ago
Don't leave me waiting here,
Lead me to your door."
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Re: What's in a name?
« Reply #3 on: March 20, 2015, 08:29:35 PM »
Hmm, mines boring both kids are named something with a j . Hence mom to j and j . :-)
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Re: What's in a name?
« Reply #4 on: March 20, 2015, 08:38:25 PM »
I just happen to look like a bear. A lady I worked with at a nursing home in the early 80s said I looked like a grizzly bear. I had a long zz top beard and my hair in a ponytail to my lower back back then and it was not grey yet.  8)


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Re: What's in a name?
« Reply #5 on: March 20, 2015, 08:39:33 PM »
My paternal grandma's name was Birdie. I spent a lot of time with her when I was little because both my parents worked, and since I was always half a step behind my grandma, her friends called me "little Birdie." I am actually 5'9, i.e. not little, but it was the only name that came to mind when I registered.


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Re: What's in a name?
« Reply #6 on: March 20, 2015, 08:50:26 PM »
My brother and Ben always called me Del...nickname for Donell....

Ben had nicknames for everyone...Mine was either "Delightful Del" or "Del del my Sugarbell"--which he would sing usually when he was stoned and it always made me laugh. So I wanted a username that would make me smile...So Sugarbell it was.
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Re: What's in a name?
« Reply #7 on: March 20, 2015, 08:52:29 PM »
My partner and I had weirdly similar first and last names, which became one of our major talking points when we first met. Our friends had even given us the same nick names even though we grew up on opposite sides of the world! Every time we'd introduce ourself to new people they'd go ha! "Chris and Chris!" I am sure you can probably figure out what initial our surname started with...


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Re: What's in a name?
« Reply #8 on: March 20, 2015, 09:03:58 PM »
I love to read.  Whenever Rick had chemo, was in the hospital, at the clinic or we were on a plane flying to another hospital... I would read.  Waiting in the carpool line to pick up my son, I would read.  It was my escape.

I read a series of books and one of the characters in that book was called "Simi"... She was girl who was carefree, surrounded by an aura of mystery.  She was someone who was misunderstood by everyone around her.  So, when I logged in, the only thing I could think of was Simi.. I added Red, cause I have red hair.  "SimiRed"

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Re: What's in a name?
« Reply #9 on: March 20, 2015, 09:04:11 PM »
When dh went to a restaurant he used the fake name "Earl" to be put on the list to wait for a table.  In my extreme grief, I really considered the name "GoodbyeEarl"...but decided that my dark grief humor might be too much for some... didn't want anyone to think he had abused me or I had killed him like the Dixie Chicks song. (DH would've thought that name was hilarious though!!!!! )

So instead, I settled for a reference to a Robert Earl Keen song (which only one person here has recognized independently that I know of)  DH and I spent our courtship in Texas dancehalls, the song "No Kinda Dancer" talks about a person that wasn't a good dancer, but their partner made them a good dancer.  At the end of the song, there is an old man dancing alone without a partner, and the singer is glad that he has a partner.  DH taught me to dance, and now I'm dancing alone wishing I had a partner. 
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Re: What's in a name?
« Reply #10 on: March 20, 2015, 09:25:15 PM »
As long as I've been posting in online forums, I've been Jer-- that was what my sister called me when we were kids, and I started using it online to differentiate myself from the 900 million other Jennifers out there. My family usually call me Jenni, but Jim called me Jen. He was the only person who called me that, so when I registered on YWBB, I wanted to make sure it was clear whose Jen I was-- I was Jim's Jen, and I thought I always would be.

I wrote a post sometime late last fall... I'd started to lose the sense of him. In the early days, he had seemed to stay so close, but he was slipping away. I didn't dream about him, I didn't feel him. Finally, one day I realised that he was gone. That wasn't a bad thing-- he was done, he'd gone on to whatever comes next. His business with me and this life was over. And I was left. Not his anymore-- not anybody's. Just me. Just Jen.

That's where I am now. I still cherish a tiny hope that someday I'll belong to someone again, but as we all know, in the end, all we have is ourselves. It terrifies me to think I'll be alone for the rest of my life-- when it gets unbearable, I think of Dune, one of Jim's all-time favorite books, and the famous Litany Against Fear:

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing....only I will remain.
I have love in me the likes of which you can scarcely imagine and rage the likes of which you would not believe. If I cannot satisfy the one, I will indulge the other. ~Mary Shelley, Frankenstein

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Re: What's in a name?
« Reply #11 on: March 20, 2015, 09:53:40 PM »
5 months after we married, we moved to Indonesia. I raved about the fresh fruit my kitchen maid would prepare for me every morning to my sister. When I got pregnant while living there, my sister emailed me once and the title of the email was "Hi Mangomom". It stuck. I have used that for many online screen names and user ids.


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Re: What's in a name?
« Reply #12 on: March 20, 2015, 10:23:54 PM »

That's the tat I got soon after Jamie and I started seeing each other and I had fallen deeply in love with her.  She was my North Star, and my email address was Stargazer74.  I wrote tons and tons of love letters to her from there, none of which survive now, (thanks yahoo).  Its also because I actually do love to go out on clear nights and star watch, especially during meteor showers.  We would go out together and lay for hours in the back yard, talk and dream.  I have wonderful memories of us together, counting falling stars and naming constellations.
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Re: What's in a name?
« Reply #13 on: March 20, 2015, 10:52:43 PM »
Like Momtojandj  not much imagination coming out of me either.  Hell I was 5 months out when I found YWBB and imagination was not my strong suit at that time hence you can guess that I have kids, how many and where I live.  So much for anonymity.
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Re: What's in a name?
« Reply #14 on: March 20, 2015, 11:06:12 PM »
If i put my ssn in my name i could be less anon. It was 2 days post funeral. I was going to pick a new one but i feel it is too late. Almost 6 years. I'm LisaPop in widow world
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