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4 years ago today...
« on: March 22, 2015, 09:57:56 AM »
John and I were in Hawaii.  It was the 18 month anniversary of Barry's death, and 2 days before our wedding.  We found a Hawaiian man who had a traditional double-hulled canoe that he had made himself.  We went out on Hilo Harbor with him late in the afternoon toward sunset.  We released 2 leis into the water in memory of my Barry and his Cheryl.  It was our way of remembering them, thanking them for all the wonderful years we had together, but also the recognition that they were in the past and we had a future together. 

Life is short.  Love with all you've got. 

Barry 11/29/55-9/22/09       John  1/16/57-1/11/14

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Re: 4 years ago today...
« Reply #1 on: March 22, 2015, 10:15:10 AM »
What a beautiful memory. (((Maureen)))
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« Reply #2 on: March 22, 2015, 03:53:37 PM »
I love how the two of you found a way to honor the part, while simultaneously recognizing that your were starting your future together.   Big hugs to you, my friend.
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« Reply #3 on: March 23, 2015, 09:03:11 AM »
Oh Maureen. You are one special woman. Xxx
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Re: 4 years ago today...
« Reply #4 on: March 23, 2015, 12:53:48 PM »
That is beautiful. It's great that John and you were able to blend your late spouses into your new life together.
My life is better because you were in it. You encouraged me to stretch my wings. I will forever be grateful. Rest in Peace Babe. Till we meet again.


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« Reply #5 on: March 23, 2015, 10:17:32 PM »
So beautiful and I'm so sorry you lost your Polarbear too. Unbelievable.
Hugs to you Maureen.
I don't want it to be his legacy that his death destroyed me.
I need to honour his life by rebuilding my life.


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Re: 4 years ago today...
« Reply #6 on: March 24, 2015, 06:02:19 PM »

Makes my sad too... {{Hugs}}
My wonderful husband Rick of 19 years, 12/11/67 - 9/20/09 Neuroendocrine cancer.
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