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LeahRoot84

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« on: January 17, 2017, 01:40:58 PM »
Me and my husband had this thing going where, Everytime we crossed paths with something in nature, we would get it tattooed. I have gotten a few things tattooed but haven't gotten everything. The biggest significance for me and him were butterflies. Never failed, Everytime we were together, we had butterflies around us.

I may continue the tradition we had. It could be a positive.
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Julester3

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Re: Tattoos
« Reply #1 on: January 17, 2017, 03:09:14 PM »
I got a memorial tattoo after my husband died, about 3 months after. I never felt the need to before then but was never against it. Now I always have him with me in our own mutual way that most people wouldn't understand. They don't need to as it's mine alone. I intend to get another when I can make the time.

LeahRoot84

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Re: Tattoos
« Reply #2 on: January 17, 2017, 05:27:25 PM »
I want a memorial tattoo as well. I would like to get a suicide prevention ribbon but I'm always coming across other things I think he would have liked. I'm so indecisive. I'm thinking it may come to me eventually. I just hope it doesn't take long!
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mbanyard

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Re: Tattoos
« Reply #3 on: January 17, 2017, 08:55:08 PM »
I got a memorial tattoo after my husband died, about 3 months after.

I did too. You're right...people don't understand, but I really don't need them too either.

Do what you feel is right for you....and don't worry about what another soul thinks of it!

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widowat33

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Re: Tattoos
« Reply #4 on: January 18, 2017, 01:20:37 AM »
I also got a memorial tattoo about a month after he died. I don't regret it at all.
A few months ago I also got a Phoenix tattoo on my thigh. I kind of like the story of rising from the ashes to become stronger as I feel that is exactly what all widows/widowers do.
I say it's your body and to hell with what people think if it is something you want to do, do it! I'm working on designs for my 7th tattoo right now :)

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« Reply #5 on: January 18, 2017, 09:19:51 AM »
I got a memorial tattoo on my upper right arm about a year after he died. It's a bear, holding onto a tree, drawn in such a way that it also looks like it's holding my arm. On the inside of my arm is a note from him. My boyfriend loves it, in fact he commented on it when he first messaged me (we met online).
You are the Bear of my heart dear,
And nothing can take that away.

LeahRoot84

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Re: Tattoos
« Reply #6 on: January 18, 2017, 09:01:09 PM »
I want to get my memorial tattoo more than ever! But like I said, I'm so very indecisive. One of the things I should probably learn to let go of. 😏
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« Reply #7 on: January 18, 2017, 11:33:42 PM »
I got a memorial tattoo about 8 months after S died.  I can't explain it - nor do I need to - but I felt a lessening of my grief from it.  I don't know if it's because I have a visible reminder so I know I will never forget (like I ever would but that does seem to be a thing I worried about in some part of my brain).  It's on my wrist.  I love it and I love that I see it all the time.  Even though I am 46, an accountant and a University teacher, nobody has offered a negative opinion.  I thought in those peer groups there might be a few of them.  Honestly, I think tattoos are becoming so common and visible, it's a non issue. 

I do call it my "gateway" tattoo as I now have some ideas for another one....ok maybe two.....three?  Oh boy. :)

LeahRoot84

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Re: Tattoos
« Reply #8 on: January 19, 2017, 10:38:54 AM »
Kater, it's like Pringles, once you pop, you can't stop lol I have many tattoos and they all mean something to me. No one else ever has to agree! Hugs!!
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« Reply #9 on: January 21, 2017, 11:06:26 PM »
I kind of like the story of rising from the ashes to become stronger as I feel that is exactly what all widows/widowers do.

Funny that you should say this about the Phoenix, as my CD that I am working on (1 of two actually) is called "The Phoenix" for the same reason :)

You folks amaze me and I am so lucky to have people who understand to speak to!

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jgib

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Re: Tattoos
« Reply #10 on: June 10, 2017, 02:47:59 PM »
Over 3 years out and I am now putting together a memorial tattoo.  We all do things in our own time.