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4 years ago yesterday
« on: March 22, 2015, 03:29:12 PM »
Yesterday sucked so bad! Hitting 4 years of his death yesterday was by far the worst meltdowns in a very long time! I can't believe it seems to be getting worse. Just a bunch of triggers the past few days.  Rough stuff this grief is... Such a crazy life.


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Re: 4 years ago yesterday
« Reply #1 on: March 22, 2015, 03:57:16 PM »
Hugs, Sandi!

Life is short.  Love with all you've got. 

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Re: 4 years ago yesterday
« Reply #2 on: March 22, 2015, 04:11:15 PM »

I heard your cry of pain and understand!

Several years ago I wrote the poem below, and perhaps it will bring you some comfort:

'Love Abides'

Does love abide?
Does it live on?
Does it stretch out
From here to there?

We promised it would last forever
Our heart believed it to be true
Now we're left on earth without them
A veil eternal drawn between

Great space divides--
A deep, wide chasm
So great and so imposing, true
But our love can span the distance
And build a bridge no one could fathom

Be still my heart and try to listen
And hear Love's message loud and clear:
Love Does Abide, it never ceases
And binds what's here to what is there

It is a bond that can't be broken
It does endure, it always will
It ties two souls once torn asunder
    ~~~ Forevermore ~~~
      My heart be still!

Wishing you Peace, Comfort and Serenity!


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Re: 4 years ago yesterday
« Reply #3 on: March 22, 2015, 04:41:48 PM »
Since I am only just a year out, I have no real words of comfort.  I just wanted you to know that I read your post and hope that today is a better day.
"The highest tribute to the dead is not grief but gratitude." - Thornton Wilder

Thank you, my dearest Kenneth, for loving me and for giving me the best 13 years of my life.


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Re: 4 years ago yesterday
« Reply #4 on: March 23, 2015, 09:16:44 AM »
So sorry, Roomie!  I hope you got over the hump with some help from your favorite furbabies...  ((Hugs))
It didn't seem possible to take the next breath; but I realize today that I am surviving your death. Some days are hard when weakened by sorrow; Remembering you inspires me to face my tomorrow  ~Author Unknown