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arneal

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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #315 on: August 10, 2017, 05:38:17 PM »
Take your time, friends. And while you do, feel free to take out a few of your NGs ready to recouple stem cells and inject them into my NG? LOL! I am joking. He is committed to the process and even though we haven't labeled anything, we are going at a good and steady pace. Heck, if he suddenly got all "I wanna move in together" I'd probably get freaked out!!! I wouldn't mind, but we haven't been around each other long enough to seriously consider what such a thing would mean as far as use of space, sharing of time, and so on. Yikes!
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« Reply #316 on: August 15, 2017, 11:51:37 AM »
Never thought I would be posting on this thread but here I am!!

Four weeks have gone by with NG, and so far it has been amazing.  We just fit. 

Still, haven't told our children and I am in no hurry. The time we have together is our time. 

trying2breathe

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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #317 on: August 15, 2017, 02:37:13 PM »
Welcome Needy  Glad that time with your NG is amazing, it's great to find a relationship that feels right!

arneal  Sending re-coupling vibes your way, pass them along to your NG.  And yes, be careful of what you wish for!

Had an overnight get-away with NG this past weekend, first one for us.  We stayed at a beachside hotel near the home of one of his cousins.   I got a chance to meet his sister, a few cousins and their spouses.  It worked out well - he has what I think of as a good family and I felt very comfortable with them.  Didn't sleep much at all though as it was the first time to spend the night together with him.  ::)   It felt weird to share a room, brush teeth, get into pajamas, etc. with him there - what is wrong with me?!  We have a road trip next week and another overnight, I'm hoping this next one goes a bit better.
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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #318 on: August 15, 2017, 02:49:57 PM »
Needy and trying2 you give me hope......  :)

arneal

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« Reply #319 on: August 16, 2017, 01:20:52 PM »
Needytoo! So excited for you and your NG. I don't know how long it was before NG told his daughter that he was seeing me; I didn't get to meet her until the Christmas holiday last year, which was a good seven months or so in. I told my son that I was seeing someone but he hasn't met NG yet but that may come this weekend.

trying: The first time NG and I were in the same room, it was in my house, so some of the trepidation was taken away. However, I was concerned about taking it to the next level. I still have those moments where I am self-conscious and I am sure he is too. However, that first time was nearly a year ago now ... amazing how time flies ... because it was in early fall if I remember correctly. Now, it isn't even a thing. He and his daughter (who is an adult) share an apartment, so it is a rare thing for me to stay there (so far it's been I think twice times I've stayed at his place overnight) but he has spent several weekends at my house. Over the last couple of weeks we have had mid-week visits as well. He had a day off from work and came here to hang out; he took a nap while I finished a work meeting and then went home. I went there yesterday and we ate and watched movies, after which I went home. It's the development of a comfort level. I think some of your sent vibes got through, which I appreciate! Keep sending them as I expect to need them to get this meeting with my son to go well. My son has no filter so I am concerned about what may fall out of his mouth in conversation that will send me scurrying away in embarrassment. Also, NG is off from work for the rest of this week due to nerve pain; I am wondering if he will not want to make the ride. Will wait until probably early tomorrow to text him to ask as I need to make the arrangements with my son's caregiver about where we'll meet. More updates and hopefully good ones by the end of the weekend!

jgib -- it will come! Keep the faith and know we are rooting for you!

Best to all of us on this rollercoaster!
Andree'

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arneal

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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #320 on: August 18, 2017, 07:14:29 PM »
Hi all and welcome to another weekend :) So this week's junior high update ...

I got a message from NG on Tuesday that his doctor put him off work for the rest of the week because of a nerve injury. He's on some heavy duty meds to alleviate the discomfort. I offered to take some dinner round for him and his daughter; I figure she's back in the classroom (she is a teacher's aide if I'm not mistaken and working on her teaching certification) and he had been fussing about a messy house (as she doesn't clean enough of her dirty dishes and so on for his liking). I had some running around to do, spending time with friends who were driving cross-country to their new home and such. I also had to pick up my mobile from the shop because I had it in for repairs. In the process of getting mine back, I had to reset everything. When I got to his place, the contacts had not updated and I couldn't get access to his number. One trip to the leasing office at the complex later and I let him know I was there. We hang out for a while and I head out. Remember: this weekend was the possible meet up with my son. After seeing his condition, I'm figuring he isn't up for it. I give it until yesterday to send a text to ask. No response. I give it until noon-ish today to hit back again with 'Not sure if you are getting my messages after the phone issues the other day but I wanted to check on whether I should consider another weekend for the son meeting'. He texts back in a short while with an apology, mentioned the medications, and said another weekend would be better. I replied that I figured, particularly since he has to get off those meds to get back to work on Monday. Now to see what sort of messages if any come at all this weekend  :o I feel bad about it from all directions -- selfish because I want my son to meet him, compassion because I know what being on painkillers is like. Fortunately, it is due to be a warm and lovely weekend, so I have more than enough to do to keep myself entertained, whether I hear from him or not :)

Hope you all have a great one!
Andree'

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trying2breathe

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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #321 on: August 19, 2017, 08:40:54 AM »
arneal  Bad timing with your guy on meds, probably wouldn't make for the best meeting with your son anyway.  He's lucky to have your offer of dinner and support.  I love your attitude, you have plenty going on with or without your guy!  In our youth there was little downtime with ailments, aches & pains - so much different now, dating later in life. 

My weekend is busy, DD and I are packing in preparation for drop off at college this coming week.  :'(  DS will be with us for the trip, I'm thankful for the added help and support from him for the process.  My daughter starts her freshman year, she's ready to go and I'm ready to let go but no doubt it will be emotional.  On another note, I haven't seen NG much this week as I was away for a short trip and have been busy with family obligations.  Our relationship is feeling like a friendship more than anything, and I'm not willing to settle for this. It might be the transition of DD's school drop off that's keeping us separated emotionally, I'm not sure.  He tends to stay away when anything less than happy is going on.  I call him my Good-time Guy, always around for the good times but tends to disappear when things get tough.  I'll let the dust settle and re-assess, don't want to have a relationship talk that might change things with everything else that's going on right now.

Happy Weekend All ~
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arneal

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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #322 on: August 19, 2017, 09:15:15 AM »
Hey there trying2: congrats on having a freshman! I was so glad to get out of my folks' house at that age. I used to not understand those who got homesick.

I worked yesterday from 4 am until 11:30 pm. House stuff, errands, and end of course grading. I hope to finish up some housework after my volunteer today and then take a nap! Yeah, it was sucky timing. You gotta eat your Wheaties before dealing with my son LOL!

Yikes - I think all of my Jersey attitude would come out at your NG for shrinking back when things are a bit less sunny. This is real life and with what we have already been through, I know for me having somebody who can handle the truths of life (I hear Jack Nicholson's 'you can't handle the truth!' right there) is very important. Pray that it gets sorted and soon love.
Andree'

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