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Virgo

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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #690 on: April 17, 2018, 02:37:00 PM »
I still haven't heard from him. Normally we get together on Tuesday, but I've already decided I don't want to. Unless he specifically says we need to talk about the lack of communication this weekend.
Jen

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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #691 on: April 17, 2018, 03:28:33 PM »
Sorry Virgo :(
Do you think you'll have to tell him straight that you all need to talk about the lack of communication? Might he not get it more than he's avoiding it? Or if he is just avoiding, calling it out now and having the tough conversation is needed. If he stays silent, you'll need to decide how to move forward ... either way, it will be important that you are clear. This sort of thing is so tough ... {{{hugs}}}
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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #692 on: April 17, 2018, 04:37:45 PM »
Arneal, he did this once before around Christmas. I was the one who reached out first after almost two weeks of not talking. One of the first things he said then was, "I know this isn't how it works." I don't know if I'll reach out this time. It seems like he's making a choice. I'm not going to try and sway his decision. We would more than likely be in the same spot in a few more months. He's going to have to reach out to me this time.
Jen

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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #693 on: April 17, 2018, 04:52:28 PM »
This is tough, virgo.  What was going on the last time he did this?  Can you contact him to let him know that you value the relationship, yet plan to move forward without him?   No trying to sway his decision, instead to hopefully get him to up his game.  It would be good to get a guy's perspective here too ....
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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #694 on: April 17, 2018, 07:28:18 PM »
^^^ what trying2 said!
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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #695 on: April 17, 2018, 08:20:21 PM »
The last time he did this he told me that he gets very depressed around the holidays. He's not close to anyone in his family and he lost a lot of friends in the military, PTSD. It seemed reasonable, but now I'm wondering if it's a pattern. I'll think about contacting him maybe this weekend if I don't hear from him before then.
Jen

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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #696 on: April 18, 2018, 08:01:15 AM »
Boy Jen, this sounds like a mess. I'm not sure I'd pursue it anymore - this is suppose to be fun and exciting for both parties and it seems more like work to me. I guess what I am saying is, for me, if a new relationship is not moving forward, it's dying.

If I want to be ignored, I'll go try to get service at the DMV.  :o

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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #697 on: April 18, 2018, 08:39:07 AM »
Boy Jen, this sounds like a mess. I'm not sure I'd pursue it anymore - this is suppose to be fun and exciting for both parties and it seems more like work to me. I guess what I am saying is, for me, if a new relationship is not moving forward, it's dying.

If I want to be ignored, I'll go try to get service at the DMV.  :o

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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #698 on: April 18, 2018, 12:39:37 PM »
I agree Mike. That's where my thinking is too. When you're with the right person the relationship isn't hard. I think I'm a little jaded because my relationship with Phil was so easy. It makes me wonder if I move on to quickly now, but I should just go with how I feel.
Jen

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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #699 on: April 18, 2018, 03:49:45 PM »
Virgo, I would say there is a bit of work involved in every relationship. As a mom, things didn't stay smooth with my son and we've known each other since he was born  :o ;D
With a stranger, a new interest, it will take time and work to get to know one another. However, as Mike said, it should not be similar or worse feeling than DMV!
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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #700 on: April 18, 2018, 10:49:59 PM »
I've decided not to contact him. I'll let you all know if he contacts me. In the meantime I'll do my own thing. I have a date this weekend.
Jen

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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #701 on: April 20, 2018, 12:52:43 PM »
The guy that I have the date with Sunday asked if I would like to meet him for lunch today. I did. It was fun. Not awkward considering we haven't seen each other since May.
Jen

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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #702 on: April 20, 2018, 07:47:41 PM »
Thank you for sharing, Virgo -- happy you had a good Friday!!!
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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #703 on: April 21, 2018, 12:14:14 PM »
Yay, Virgo!  Hope you have a great weekend!
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Re: For those in budding relationships ...
« Reply #704 on: April 23, 2018, 05:28:16 PM »
Thank you! We had a great time. I dated this guy for a month before I decided to take a 6 month break from dating. I was just overwhelmed by the amount of guys contacting me at that time and needed a break. The guy I was dating was the first guy I dated after my break.
Jen

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