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Adley

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Personality
« on: January 24, 2017, 01:48:09 PM »
Has anyone read up on Myers&Briggs personality typing? Just curious. INTP here. I wonder if similar types have processed grief in similar manners. Maybe we can help one another more effectively if we have better understandings of our perspectives. Just a thought. Thanks!
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Wheelerswife

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Re: Personality
« Reply #1 on: January 24, 2017, 01:57:46 PM »
E/ISFJ here.  My second husband was an INTP.  I tend to like to make connections with others who have walked this road.  DH2 was also widowed, but tended to process more internally.  He read a lot, listened to music, and would come to me for quiet comfort when he was sad, but he would listen to me when I wanted to talk.

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momtokam

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Re: Personality
« Reply #2 on: January 24, 2017, 04:09:17 PM »
ENFP here....

MR

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Re: Personality
« Reply #3 on: January 24, 2017, 04:18:51 PM »
ESFP

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Re: Personality
« Reply #4 on: January 24, 2017, 05:11:16 PM »
INTJ here

Adley

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Re: Personality
« Reply #5 on: January 24, 2017, 10:15:30 PM »
Way cool, thanks! Although my wife was working on her master's in geriatric psy, we never discussed it together. I'm certain she would have tested ESFJ. Our relationship was. . . . . irreplaceable. It's so interesting to me to compare our writings, relationships, and experiences with our 'types'. They're all percentage based, of course, but it is refreshing for me to draw the parallels. Thank you all. And of course, anybody or anybody else that wants to discuss it further, please continue!
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HCE

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Re: Personality
« Reply #6 on: January 25, 2017, 02:07:12 AM »
I'm an INTJ, and so was my wife. People said she was a female version of me, and vice versa. It's no surprise we hit it off so well....
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Re: Personality
« Reply #7 on: January 25, 2017, 10:04:03 PM »
Has anyone read up on Myers&Briggs personality typing? Just curious. INTP here. I wonder if similar types have processed grief in similar manners. Maybe we can help one another more effectively if we have better understandings of our perspectives. Just a thought. Thanks!


Interesting topic @adley ...had me pondering your question today, and interesting to hear others' contributions so far, too.

Without the time or space to elaborate, I image we all process everything differently - our personal grief journeys included - depending on many factors, including our Myers-Briggs personality types. So much to be said on this topic...wish we could all sit over a coffee and discuss.

An intuitive empath here - an INFJ - who seems to be beautifully connecting with an INTJ.  ;)


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Re: Personality
« Reply #8 on: January 25, 2017, 10:37:20 PM »
I am an ENFP:  The Campaigner and Free Spirit (according to the website). 
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nerdywidow

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Re: Personality
« Reply #9 on: January 25, 2017, 11:35:53 PM »
INTP here as well.  I know that many people don't put much stock in personality types, but the INTP description really does describe me perfectly.

As far as grieving, I feel like I mentally accepted the fact that I was widowed almost immediately, and still don't know even 3 years out if I've actually processed it emotionally, or if I'm just pushing it down.  I'm all about logic and don't deal with strong emotions well.  As a result, I feel like some people may have found me to be cold, or oddly well adjusted early on, and the flipside was that when I was feeling (and still feel) strong emotions I didn't know how to express them to others.  I spent a lot of time that first year appearing perfectly fine and then sobbing in the bathroom at work.

I hope that's the type of info you were looking for.  Interesting topic!  I've often wondered how other INTP's process grief.

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Re: Personality
« Reply #10 on: January 26, 2017, 09:23:28 PM »
ESFP, -A/-T

just did the test ...now I have to read what it means...you've got me curious.

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Re: Personality
« Reply #11 on: January 27, 2017, 06:37:11 AM »
ISFG here.  As far as my grieving goes, my personality has caused me to isolate myself.  I don't open up to people easily and constantly feel like I'm being judged for how my children and I are handling our grief and rebuilding our lives. Other people's emotions and moods effect me greatly and can drain me.

I think that's what makes this forum a comfortable place for me, I can be more open here than with friends and family in real life. 
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Re: Personality
« Reply #12 on: January 27, 2017, 09:01:20 AM »
I tested as an ENTJ years ago, just took the test again twice and now am an ENFJ.  Life experiences change us, don't know if it takes the death of a spouse to change a personality type.  Interesting, thanks for the post Adley!
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Re: Personality
« Reply #13 on: January 27, 2017, 11:03:51 AM »
ESFP - A The entertainer.

I would have tested this prior to Michael's death... Now almost 5 years later I test this way. I'm curious if I still would have tested this way in the depths of grief? Does your basic personality stay in place even during deep and polarizing grief? Interesting question.

Tracy

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« Reply #14 on: January 27, 2017, 12:51:51 PM »
ESFP - A The entertainer.

I would have tested this prior to Michael's death... Now almost 5 years later I test this way. I'm curious if I still would have tested this way in the depths of grief? Does your basic personality stay in place even during deep and polarizing grief? Interesting question.

Tracy

Hi, Tracy,

I took the MBTI for the first time when I was 22 and I was an ESFJ at the time, fairly strong in all categories.  Each category is really on a spectrum, so you might be stronger in one area, but closer to the middle of the spectrum in another area. 

Over the years, my extroversion has slid toward the middle of the spectrum, while the other categories have remained somewhat fixed.  I call myself an introverted extrovert.  I do gain energy from other people, however I also require a significant amount of time alone to regroup.  I prefer to be on the edge of the room at get-togethers and prefer one-on-one conversations. 

I do believe that some changes occurred after my first husband's death, and I don't think I will ever be the strong extrovert I was when I was younger.  That is okay, though.  I kind of like this version of me.  I loved the relationship I had with my INTP husband - such opposites in how we functioned, but it really worked well.

Maureen
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