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Julester3

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Re: I'm a prude
« Reply #15 on: September 06, 2017, 12:36:21 PM »
Yes we all miss holding hands. Normally i drive using one left hand and right hand is free so would hold her hand if she was on passenger seat for most of the route except when both hands needs to be on wheel. Now-a-days my daughter seats in front and she started holding my hand as we both feel better that way.

We used to do that as well. My daughter has said she used to like seeing us hold hands like this on our road trips on whenever we were in the car. She holds my hand sometimes when we are out and driving too.

Sugarbell

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Re: I'm a prude
« Reply #16 on: September 06, 2017, 06:01:19 PM »
At what point do you start holding hands???

For me it's when you are really into them and think they could be "it". I have never held a guys hand publicly until I started seeing NG. And we held hands really quick..in public..it felt right and natural.

The guy before him I dated for over 2 years and we never held hands..it just felt weird/wrong.

It's an intimate thing for me to do (oddly the other real sexual stuff I never freaked out about).

So no you're not a prude...I think it's just whatever our comfort level is.
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Bunny

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Re: I'm a prude
« Reply #17 on: September 06, 2017, 07:43:16 PM »
I am a big fan of the hand-holding experience. I once dated someone (for 3 years) who wasn't and it made me pretty sad and frustrated. I do hope you get to experience that unique joy again some day, oneoftwo. Even holding a child's hand has always brought to me a feeling of bliss- so tiny and soft and trusting. (also kinda germy, I guess).

One of the first times holding hands after widowhood we were alone in the woods but I still blushed fiercely and felt all kinds of self-conscious and awkward. And yes, it did feel super-duper racy!
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oneoftwo

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Re: I'm a prude
« Reply #18 on: September 06, 2017, 11:19:01 PM »
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oneoftwo

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« Reply #19 on: September 06, 2017, 11:21:08 PM »
Quote from: Bunny it did feel super-duper racy!
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Yes, with the right person it can!

oneoftwo

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Re: I'm a prude
« Reply #20 on: September 06, 2017, 11:24:00 PM »
Thanks all- for giving me an ear, some hope, and a shoulder-





Monique

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Re: I'm a prude
« Reply #21 on: September 18, 2017, 02:55:30 PM »
I've been thinking about this lately too. At almost 7 months out, I don't want a new relationship or sex, but sometimes I do really miss having someone to hold my hand, or to just sit with and put our arms around each other. Sam and I were constantly touching when we were together- he'd reach for my hands as soon as we sat down across from each other at a restaurant. So being alone is really hard.

Also seconding what Bunny said about the joy of holding a child's hand. It's such a sweet, simple show of love when a kid wants to hold hands or give you a big hug.
Death cannot stop true love. All it can do is delay it for a while." --The Princess Bride

arneal

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Re: I'm a prude
« Reply #22 on: October 05, 2017, 02:28:25 PM »
I too tend to be introverted and just a big ol nerd when it comes to this sort of thing. Like I tell people, I was married/in some form of committed relationship for 25 years between two marriages so what do I know from dating? We didn't exactly date ... it was sort of a mutual coming together. Not romantic at all the first go and I was too wounded the second go to get when he was trying to be romantic. It just wasn't part of my DNA. NG is very touchy-feely but even in the beginning he didn't try to hold hands or anything. We just sort of grew into it. One time we went out and were sitting on a bench outside and he put his arm around my shoulder. In public (!). I couldn't believe it but I liked it. Later, he would hold my hand and now, depending on where we are going he usually holds my hand. Like MR, when I drive I keep my right hand free because I know he likes to hold hands. And when I can't because I need to really concentrate, he'll put his hand on my right shoulder.

It is true -- for some, hand-holding is more intimate ... I have to agree.
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Bunny

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Re: I'm a prude
« Reply #23 on: October 05, 2017, 02:45:54 PM »
My husband held my hand every time we had to cross a street. I suppose some might find that a bit parental, but it made me feel cherished. He was almost a foot taller than me and bf is half a foot taller. The hand-holding experience feels fairly similar but kissing is easier, not so much neck ache issues now.
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Virgo

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Re: I'm a prude
« Reply #24 on: November 08, 2017, 03:32:11 PM »
I think holding hands comes into play when you have to feel that physical connection with someone. Especially in public when the physical connection needs to be more discreet.  Other than my late husband I've only held hands with one of the guys I've dated. Happens to be the guy I'm dating now, and we haven't been dating long.
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