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Sugarbell

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Re: Those dating divorcee with nutty ex
« Reply #90 on: June 10, 2017, 08:00:43 PM »
Awesome vacation! Her mother was partying at the beach and didn't call much.

But she's nuts...as we were driving home from vacation she had just gotten back into town and started with the texts/calls. This is hard in a tiny (5000 pop) town...
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Re: Those dating divorcee with nutty ex
« Reply #91 on: June 11, 2017, 03:14:41 PM »
So sorry, Sugarbell. You got this though. You are doing a great job!
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« Reply #92 on: July 05, 2017, 10:16:21 PM »
Bitch is crazy... (although I think her cocaine addiction over the years certainly made her normally crazy worse)

She's at the beach with her relatives and kids (he has a 22 year old son too).. Parties first night with son..son fell off a wall?.?...anyway she had her daughter call NG then she got on the phone saying he broke his back.

His back isn't broken..but he did need stitches over his eye.

Then yesterday...she must have been posting some jealous nasty things and dogging him and what a bad parent he was. Then puts as her cover photo a pic of all of them drunk on the beach and their son "mooning" the camera. I am closed lipped about it...she's just a piece of work.

I've handled running into her a public events with class (dance recitals) I spoke and went on. Keep my distance. Publicly I say nothing...she's making an ass of herself.

I'm just venting on here. I've honestly never seen anything like it out of a 46 year old woman. Bat shit crazy.
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Re: Those dating divorcee with nutty ex
« Reply #93 on: July 14, 2017, 08:34:18 AM »
In the car this morning on the way to drop his kids at camp 6 year old says to me "mommy said if she gets us a puppy we can't stay with Daddy during the week any more".
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« Reply #94 on: July 14, 2017, 09:09:26 AM »
Going on vacation in August (we have NG's son for a week then).  Decided where - we do lots of outdoors stuff - hiking, camping, canoeing, etc.  NG's son's mom does none of this.  But to pre-one-up NG and so NG's son would be all "been there done that," she decided that they would go exactly where we're going, two weeks before we do.  She keeps texting him photos of highway signs and license plates just to show him that they're where we had planned to take the kids in two weeks.  Can't make this $h!t up!  It's crazy!  So pathetic and insane.  And what's she gonna do there, other than feel psyched that she did this to NG?  Before her, I didn't believe people could be this....  Malicious, empty, spiteful, obsessed?  You name it.  Yikes. 
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« Reply #95 on: July 14, 2017, 09:23:34 AM »
Going on vacation in August (we have NG's son for a week then).  Decided where - we do lots of outdoors stuff - hiking, camping, canoeing, etc.  NG's son's mom does none of this.  But to pre-one-up NG and so NG's son would be all "been there done that," she decided that they would go exactly where we're going, two weeks before we do.  She keeps texting him photos of highway signs and license plates just to show him that they're where we had planned to take the kids in two weeks.  Can't make this $h!t up!  It's crazy!  So pathetic and insane.  And what's she gonna do there, other than feel psyched that she did this to NG?  Before her, I didn't believe people could be this....  Malicious, empty, spiteful, obsessed?  You name it.  Yikes.

Yes this. Somedays I feel like it's "mean girls" high school.

Trying-crazy ex..when we got a puppy...she told her daughter she was getting a puppy pit bull...Luckily her landlord told her "No".

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Re: Those dating divorcee with nutty ex
« Reply #96 on: July 14, 2017, 12:20:30 PM »
Hugs to all going through this. I don't miss all that with LH's ex.
Andree'

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« Reply #97 on: July 17, 2017, 02:39:37 PM »
I think this is why I'm not in a relationship.  I just don't think I have the temperament for all the drama and games.......yet I miss companionship.  <sigh>

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« Reply #98 on: October 25, 2017, 02:44:15 PM »
She's crazier than ever.

I read a few of her texts she had sent NG... The latest "I'm sorry I am not dead..I know that would make life much easier for the both of you..I know your princess doesn't have to deal with an ex husband because hes dead..but we have kids together and I am going to be in your life for a long time"...

This one really pissed me off...but she's nuts..and trying to get a reaction out of me..Not going to happen. I think it kills her that's she's on ignore and mute from me. Like she doesn't exist.

And yea...the poor daughter is starting to act cool towards me because of crazy Mom..I knew she would...but it will all play out. This woman is a complete nutjob.
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Re: Those dating divorcee with nutty ex
« Reply #99 on: October 25, 2017, 02:50:23 PM »
Sugarbell  :-\ I could not bring myself to hit 'like' for that because, ew. She is horrid. Trying to get a rise is putting it mildly. My Jersey Girl would have poured out all over her for that. How dare she compare herself to your situation. No one would mind her being around for a long time if she wasn't off her bead. Ugh. Keep the strength, friend! You are obviously a great influence on the children who are stuck in the middle of all this.
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« Reply #100 on: October 25, 2017, 05:12:07 PM »
sugarbell that one is batshit crazy!  When crazy people make crazy comments it's not always easy to take the high road but it seems like you manage to.

DH2 had court meeting with social worker and crazy ex yesterday and he just sat back and let her show all of her crazy glory.  He came showing that weeks ago he emailed her his 2 parent plan options and she never responded or offered her own.  She came with one saying she wants kids every week Monday thru Friday and he can have them every single weekend.  Seriously?  As if she will never want to do anything on a weekend with her children? They will never see her family who live out of state and cousins who visit on weekends? 

When social worker asked her why she didn't think their father should have equal time she said "they need their mother until they are at least 12". (They are 6 & 8)  oh yes, every child psychologist says kids (especially boys) don't need a father until they are teens, NOT!

Social worker seems like she will make reasonable recommendations to the judge but it's still another month with limited contact until the court date.  Poor kids were almost in tears when they realized they missed their Dads birthday (because she wouldn't let them have dinner with him) I had them make cards and he said he was too busy to celebrate.  Despite all of the poison she puts in their heads, he never tells them the truth about her.  One more reason I love and respect him.
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« Reply #101 on: October 25, 2017, 05:45:57 PM »
Thats just selfish and cruel of your mans ex TRYING. Jealousy makes already unstable people just so self absorbed and insane and she sounds insane.

6 years ago i wouldve ripped her a new one...and her vile untrue gossip deserves an ass kicking.

But she spent 20 years making a complete fool out of herself...long before i moved back here. I dont want to even be associated like i know her much at all.  Me sticking my nose in the air and remaining above her nonsense is driving her more over the edge than if i fed into her drama.

She needs drama like we need oxygen. Thank God ive had experience with mentally ill peopke over the years and thank GOD I meditate.

Toxic unstable Bitch.
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Re: Those dating divorcee with nutty ex
« Reply #102 on: October 25, 2017, 06:31:46 PM »
Sugarbell just keep coming here to vent when she succeeds at pushing your buttons.  They may be crazy but we have survived bigger challenges.
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« Reply #103 on: October 26, 2017, 08:39:24 AM »
She needs drama like we need oxygen.

This is it right here.  The best thing we can all do is float over the waves, let them ripple smaller till they're gone (or till the next ones), and not add fuel to the fire (excuse the mixed metaphor hahaha).  I still get a little shot of adrenaline run through me and a tightened stomach every time another thing happens or even really when I think about her, just because I'm now conditioned to anticipate upsetting craziness - my goal is to not only not react on the outside, but to not be affected on the inside.  One day, right?  Kudos to all of you staying healthy and sane despite this MADNESS!  xoxoxo
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Re: Those dating divorcee with nutty ex
« Reply #104 on: October 27, 2017, 11:47:37 AM »
That's me..Ive mastered not letting anyone know that I think she's bat shit crazy. I bite my tongue.. think before I speak (or don't speak)-However, internally..I still feel my blood boil. But it does go away quickly..until the next episode. NG doesn't let her get to him at all..Just shakes his head, rolls his eyes..the worst thing he has said is "She is miserable and wants everyone around her miserable" and that she is "not well in the head".

I tend to be a quiet underhanded type (character flaw I know) I keep my cards close to my chest..then do passive/aggressive shit to get at someone who has said hurtful things about me behind my back. But subtlely. I want to get to the point that it rolls off my chest and I don't give it a thought. Not there yet.

Ugh!!! I swear I think she's the worst ex wife in this town.
B.W.H. 9/24/2007