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Ginger

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Books - Resource and Good Reads
« on: March 23, 2015, 06:49:27 AM »
I saw sdarrah1130's Library Post in the General Discussion and I thought maybe we needed to have a book resources list in this forum.
I copied and pasted the Books that were posted in the General forum and then added more in following posts.  If you find a book that was helpful to you or might help another widow/widower, please add it to this post.

Wifeless:

"A Grief Observed" by C. S. Lewis, which describes his journey through grief after losing his wife.
 
And the first half of:
 
"Man?s Search for Meaning . . ." by Viktor E. Frankl, in which he makes the argument that
"... suffering ceases to be suffering in some way in the moment that it finds a meaning".
Over the 5+ years of my widowhood, I have found this to be true.

 H. Kushner's "When Bad Things Happen to Good People", which I have not read but many other widows and widowers have found helpful, are mentioned in the following article that you may wish to read about recovery from grief:
 
http://www.gapsychology.org/displaycommon.cfm?an=1&subarticlenbr=305
 

Lisapop:

I was not a big reader on the subject but many people recommend I Am Grieving As Fast As I Can

Catnip:

I recommend "Widow to Widow by Genevieve Davis Ginsburg". I've gone back to it time and time again, and it's been 8 years for me.


Baylee627

"And Life Comes Back: A Wife's Story of Love, Loss, and Hope", by Tricia Lott Williford.

It's about the author's first year or so after being widowed in her early 30's, the different phases she experienced, and finally, a renewed sense of hope. The author is Christian. If you're not religious, I would still say the book is relatable,  and the author's not overly preachy.

 Just a good read.

swilson:

A few I've read, many I hope to read;

Widow to Widow: Thoughtful, Practical Ideas For Rebuilding Your Life ~ Genevieve Davis Ginsburg

For Widows Only ~ Annie Estlund

When Your Soul Aches ~ Lois Mowday Rabey

Companion Through the Darkness ~ Stephanie Ericsson

I Will Not Be Broken ~ Jerry White

The Tender Scar: Life After the Death of a Spouse ~ Mabry, Richard

Chicken Soup for The Greiving Soul ~ Jack Canfoeld, Mark Victor Hansen & Amy Newmark

Seven Choices ~Finding Daylight After Loss Shatters Your World" by Elizabeth Harper

Reflections of a Grieving Spouse: The Unexpected Journey from

Loss to Renewed Hope ~ H. Norman Wright's

Coping with Life After Your Mate Dies ~ Cushenbery, Donald C.

Getting to the Other Side of Grief: Overcoming the Loss of a Spouse ~Zonnebelt-Smeenge, Susan J.

The Light That Never Dies: A Story of Hope in the Shadows of Grief ~ William HendricksA

Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows through Loss ~ Jerry Sittser

Finding Your Way Through Grief, A Guide for the First Year ~ Marty Tousley

Waking Up Alone, Grief & Healing ~ Julie K Cicero

How to go on Living When Someone you Love Dies, ~ Therese A Rando

Widows Wear Stilettos, A Practical & Emotional Guide for the young widow ~ Carole Brody Fleet

I Wasn't Ready to say Goodbye ~ Brooke Noel & Pamela Blair

Healing After Loss by Martha W Hickman

Loving What Is, Four Questions that Can Change Your Life ~ Byron Katie

From One Widow to Another: Converstations on the New you ~ Miriam Neff

The Grief Club ~ Melody Beattie

A Widow's Story ~ Joyce Carol Oates

The Sisterhood of Widows ~ Mary Francis

Traveling With George: An Out-of-This-World Experience ~ Betty Waldron Portenlanger

Where Do I Go from Here? - Neff, Miriam

From One Widow to Another - Neff, Miriam

Captains Wife:

I personally liked "Saturday Night Widows", although would read this one a little further out.   "A Widows Walk-a Memoir of 9-11" - would also read this one later on. I personally liked I'm Grieving as Fast as I Can (in the beginning). "The UnFaithful Widow" (also a little further out).

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Re: Books - Resource and Good Reads
« Reply #1 on: March 23, 2015, 07:12:51 AM »
Books that were recommended to me. Some spoke to me, some didn't.
I also pulled some resource book lists for children from the old board that I will copy into another post.

Hello From Heaven - Bill Guggenheim, Judy Guggenheim (for those who believe in after life communication) I found it very interesting

The Five People You Meet in Heaven - Mitch Albom (not resource material but a good read)

Good Grief - A Novel by Lolly Winston (not resource material but a good read - was a very popular read on the old board )

When Bad Things Happen to Good People - Harold S. Kushner

Widowed - Dr. Joyce Brothers

Resource books:

A Decembered Grief - Harold Ivan Smith

Getting to the Other Side of Grief - ZonnebeltSmeenge/De Vries

A Time to Grieve - Meditations for Healing After the Death of a Loved One

Transcending Loss - Ashley Davis Prend, A.C.S.W.



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Re: Books - Resource and Good Reads
« Reply #2 on: March 23, 2015, 08:00:58 AM »
The following is a long list of resource books that had been posted by a member (sorry I don't have the member's name)  from the old board. Most have to do with children, either as a resource for adults or books children could read. (Disclaimer: I know nothing about any of these resources but thought it may be helpful to parents looking for a starting point.)

Adult

The Grieving Child - A Parent's Guide
By Helen Fitzgerald
Simon & Schuster / New York / 1992

Helping Children Cope with the Loss of a Loved One, A Guide for Grownups
William C. Kroen, Ph.D., LMHC
Free Spirit Works for Kids/1996

Children and Grief, When a Parent Dies
J. William Worden
Guilford Publications, Inc./1996

Common Threads of Teenage Grief, A Handbook for Healing
By Teens Who Know & Janet N. Tyson, LPC
Helm Publishing/1998

No Time For Good-byes, Coping with Sorrow, Anger and Injustice After a Tragic Death-5th ed.
Janice Harris Lord
Pathfinder Publishing/California/2000

On Children and Death, How children and their parents can and do cope with death
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D.
Simon & Schuster/1997 Copyright 1983 by Kubler-Ross

Helping Children Cope With Grief
Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D.
Muncie, Ind.:Accelerated Development Inc./1983

Explaining Death To Children
Grollman EA, ed.
Beacon Press/Boston/1967

Helping Children Grieve: When Someone They Love Dies
Huntley T.
Augsberg Fortress/Minneapolis/1991

For Those Who Live: Helping Children Cope With the Death of a Brother or Sister
LaTour K.
Centering Corporation/Omaha, NE/1983

Helping Children Cope With Death
The Dougy Center
The Dougy Center / 1998

35 Ways to Help a Grieving Child
The Dougy Center
The Dougy Center / 1999

Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss
Hope Edelman
Dell / 1995

Living With Grief: Children, Adolescents and Loss
Hospice Foundation of America
Brunner Mazel / Hospice Foundation of America / 2000

Helping Teens Cope With Death
The Dougy Center
The Dougy Center / 1998

Helping Children Grieve: When Someone They Love Dies
Huntley, T.
Augsburg Fortress/Minneapolis/1991

Life & Loss: A Guide To Help Grieving Children, 2nd Edition
Linda Goldman
Accelerated Development / 2000


Child

Lost and Found: A Kid's Book For Living Through Loss
Rabbi Marc Gellman & Monsignor Thomas Hartman
Morrow Junior Books / New York / 1999

The Fall of Freddie the Leaf, A Story of Life for All Ages
Leo Buscaglia, Ph.D.
Slack Inc./1982

The Next Place
Warren Hanson
Waldman House Press, Inc./1997`

Gentle Willow, A Story for Children About Dying
Joyce C. Mills, Ph.D.
Magination Press, Washington, DC


The Tenth Good Thing About Barney
Judith Viorst
Atheneum New York/1971


Older Child

Help for the Hard Times: Getting Through Loss
Earl Hipp
Hazelden / 1995

How It Feels When A Parent Dies
Jill Krementz
Alfred A. Knopf / New York / 1996

Straight Talk About Death For Teenagers: How to Cope With Losing Someone You Love
Earl A. Grollman
Beacon Press / Boston

The Saddest Time
Simon N.
Albert Whitman & Co./Morton Grove, IL/1986


Younger Child

I Will Always Love You
Hans Wilhelm
Crown Publishers / New York / 1985

It Must Hurt A Lot: A Child's Book About Death
Doris Sanford
Multnomah Press / Hong Kong / 1986

The Accident
Carol Carrick
Text / 1976

The Empty Place
Roberta Temes, Ph.D.
New Horizon Press / 1992

The Saddest Time
Norma Simon
General Publishing / 1986

When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide to Understanding Death
Laurie Kransy Brown & Marc Brown
Little, Brown & Company / 1996

I Know I Made It Happen
Blackburn L.B.
Centering Corporation/Omaha, NE/1991

Why Did Grandpa Die? A Book About Death.
Hazen BS
Western Publishing/Rancine, WI/1985

Anderson's Goodbye
Clifton L. Everett
Henry Holt/New York/1983

Sammy's Mommy Has Cancer
Kohlenberg S.
Magination Press/New York/1993

It Must Hurt A Lot: A Child's Book About Death
Sanford D.
Multnomah Press/Hong Kong/1986

I Heard Your Mommy Died
Scrivai M.
Centering Corporation/Omaha, NE/1994

What's Heaven?
Shriver M.
Scholastic/New York/1999

Saying Goodbye to Daddy
Vigna J.
Albert Whitman & Co./IL/1991

I Don't Have Uncle Phil Anymore
Marjorie White Pellegrino
Magination Press / Washington, DC / 1999

Gentle Willow: A Story For Children About Dying
Joyce C. Mills, Ph.D.
Imagination Press / New York / 1993

Ginger

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Re: Books - Resource and Good Reads
« Reply #3 on: March 23, 2015, 06:53:41 PM »
Two more book recommendations from the old board.

LauraS:
Anyone longing for a sign from your spouse? You may be missing them because you don't know what to look for.
"Love Beyond Life: the Healing Power of After-Death Communications" (Joel Martin and Patricia Romanowski).

Teal:
"Life Without Lisa" by Richard Ballo. He was widowed in 1993 - Lisa was 38, he was 39, and their two sons were 5 & 6. The bulk of the book covers the first two years after her death, with the last three chapters giving his perspective at 3, 4 & 5 years out and the epilogue written 10 years out.

I'd recommend it to both men & women - and while parts of it will resonate more if you have children, I think you'll appreciate the book even if you don't have children. I imagine all of us could find something in it that makes us stop & say "Oh yes - I know that feeling."

It is heartfelt and heartbreaking, filled with the details and realities we have to confront - but ultimately a story of hope and healing

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« Reply #4 on: March 25, 2015, 09:30:50 PM »
Ginger, thank you for pulling all of this together. It's an excellent resource list!
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« Reply #5 on: March 30, 2015, 02:55:49 PM »
I haven't read any of these, but this list appeared in Brain Pickings. I would like to read a couple of these for myself:

Consolation for Life?s Darkest Hours: 7 Unusual and Wonderful Books that Help Children Grieve and Make Sense of Death

http://www.brainpickings.org/2015/03/23/best-childrens-books-death-grief-mourning/?mc_cid=bb97b591d0&mc_eid=48d09ea0ed
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« Reply #6 on: March 30, 2015, 05:46:36 PM »
My Father's Arms Are a Boat (it appears on the brain pickings list) is absolutely beautiful, imo; one of my forever favorites.


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« Reply #7 on: May 14, 2015, 07:44:15 AM »
I can't stop crying Grief and Recovery, A compassionate guide. by John D. Martin & Frank D Ferris
B.H.S. 1-20-1974 - 11-13-2014

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« Reply #8 on: August 21, 2015, 02:20:42 PM »
Although I wouldn't necessarily say I'm religious, several months ago one of dan's customers asked if it was alright if he sent me a book. He thought it might help me, so I agreed. What he sent me was "Jesus Calling" by Sarah Young and it's just daily pieces to consider..some have been spot on for what I was feeling that day.  I've made it a daily routine, first thing in the morning and it does give me peace.

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« Reply #9 on: August 22, 2015, 07:32:02 AM »
Dan's Soulmate, My boss gave me "Jesus Calling."  He gave it to me about one year before my husband died suddenly.  Read what it says on March 24th, the day God called my husband home.  God told me right there that I was going to lose someone I love, and give them to God.  That book has been spot on for me too!

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« Reply #10 on: September 23, 2015, 01:35:46 PM »
I wanted to share that I just finished "American Wife" by Taya Kyle, Chris Kyle's widow, and have so much respect for her.  Her thoughts on the grief process really resonated with me.  While I have had a tough time this last year, reading her story certainly reminded me that others have far bigger challenges in their grief journey.

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« Reply #11 on: September 15, 2016, 10:11:22 PM »
"Confessions of a Mediocre Widow: Or, How I Lost My Husband and My Sanity" by Catherine Tidd really touched me.

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« Reply #12 on: June 25, 2017, 11:50:03 AM »
In reading my Sunday e-newsletter of Brain Pickings (www.brainpickings.org - wonderful every single week, no affiliation), the lead essay got my attention:

"Seneca on Grief and the Key to Resilience in the Face of Loss:

https://tinyurl.com/y73g2hrn

And it is also full of links to other wonderful reads and essays and books, as well.

Posting to this older pinned thread to perhaps be helpful to share with others here that may be newly-widowed and even insightful to others, like me, to read in reflection who are further out.  Each of our individual healing and growth journeys are so unique and personal - but there are common threads that connect us all.

If you do sit back and read it through, would love to hear and discuss your thoughts or reflections on the piece.

Warm wishes.

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« Reply #13 on: June 28, 2017, 04:54:14 PM »
"Reaper Man" by Terry Pratchett - a fantasy novel about the Grim Reaper, humorous/kind/philosophical, made me feel really good.
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