Author Topic: I don't know how to date as an adult!  (Read 1397 times)

Portside

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Re: I don't know how to date as an adult!
« Reply #15 on: October 04, 2017, 01:02:32 PM »

Now in the morning I'm thinking I could of handled it if I had some forewarning,if he had  texted me and said "you know when I get back from europe it would be nice to spend the night together is it ok if I stay at your place when I get back?" Then I could mentally prepare.


Klim, I don't think you are weird or anything  ;D but us guys don't normally verbalize the whole evening's plans/not plans like that.

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trying2breathe

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Re: I don't know how to date as an adult!
« Reply #16 on: October 04, 2017, 04:15:45 PM »
klim  I feel much like you do right now, as my youngest left for college and I'm now an empty nester.  Last Friday evening for the first time, NG came for dinner and stayed overnight.  It wasn't a big deal that he spent the night but it was awkward for me on Saturday morning as we had coffee and he stayed around for awhile reading the newspaper and I'm thinking - be on your way so that I can get on with my day!
I'm lucky that NG is laid-back and not easily offended, I'm trying to figure out how to set boundaries and work together and so far it's not been easy.  I guess it's part of being in a new relationship, there will be awkward times and it's something to work through.
Good luck!
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Re: I don't know how to date as an adult!
« Reply #17 on: October 04, 2017, 05:30:08 PM »
This thread is cracking me up and making me feel better. When my boyfriend started spending more and more time at my house I could not figure out how to tell him he needed to go home- I mean, I didn't want to hurt his feelings or appear to not enjoy his company, but I needed some alone time already! So...three years later, I've kinda just gotten used to him being around all the damn time. He's worn me down ;D
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klim

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Re: I don't know how to date as an adult!
« Reply #18 on: October 04, 2017, 06:04:25 PM »
ok as long it takes 3 years I think I'll be ok! :)
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arneal

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Re: I don't know how to date as an adult!
« Reply #19 on: October 04, 2017, 06:18:28 PM »
Ha, Bunny! I have my moments when I wish NG wouldn't leave, but then if he didn't, I'd probably be looking for space for myself  ;D ;D
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trying2breathe

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Re: I don't know how to date as an adult!
« Reply #20 on: October 04, 2017, 08:29:45 PM »
Ok, this is making me laugh too - if we decide to really be together, Saturday mornings we'll be doing our thing and just get on with it.  Wow, this is such an awkward stage - amazing how new relationships at this point are so very different.  I'm grateful to be able to share  ::)
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Re: I don't know how to date as an adult!
« Reply #21 on: October 05, 2017, 11:36:32 AM »
Loving this thread so much.  I was having so much with this that I actually did a few online courses etc on "Dating Like a Grown Up".  Yep, I paid the big bucks, to grow some balls to handle dating. 

 

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Re: I don't know how to date as an adult!
« Reply #22 on: October 05, 2017, 12:14:13 PM »
Needy -- good for you! I continue to read information from the so-called experts but tend to use it more for how to best communicate. Much of what I found seemed to lean toward coercion or fakery, and I'm not about that. I don't want to trick a man into being in my life. However, not being the most social person, I wanted tips for how to not be stupid at a conversation and how to be comfortable in silent moments. I still struggle with wanting to fill up the space with talk ...  :-\
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