Author Topic: Facing another loss  (Read 1268 times)

nonesuch

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Facing another loss
« on: April 27, 2017, 07:18:23 AM »
My husband died seven years ago.  Four years ago, I met my current SO.
Yesterday, he was diagnosed with prostate cancer.  The prognosis does not sound good.  It is likely the cancer has already spread.  I'm angry that his old doctor didn't have this biopsied a year ago,  and frightened that I don't have what it takes to stay strong. 

He's only 65.  This isn't fair. 

Mrskro

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Re: Facing another loss
« Reply #1 on: April 27, 2017, 07:21:25 AM »
OH nonesuch.

I am so sorry, send you and your SO hugs, thoughts and prayers.  I can't imagine.

F*ck Cancer!

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Re: Facing another loss
« Reply #2 on: April 27, 2017, 07:33:08 AM »
Nonesuch I am so very sorry, hugs and prayers for both of you.  Fucking cancer doesn't care who it destroys.
You will forever be my always.

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Re: Facing another loss
« Reply #3 on: April 27, 2017, 08:03:58 AM »
Deep breaths.  I'm really sorry, nonesuch.  I really get it.

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Re: Facing another loss
« Reply #4 on: April 27, 2017, 08:33:56 AM »
I'm so sorry.  Those words don't even begin to communicate the feelings I have for you upon reading that.  Thinking of you so much.
widowed 2011 (DH 28)

maddalena

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Re: Facing another loss
« Reply #5 on: April 27, 2017, 09:46:08 AM »
there are no words. I hope it isn't as bad as you think. But nope, it's not fair at all.

MR

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Re: Facing another loss
« Reply #6 on: April 27, 2017, 09:46:45 AM »
Hi nonesuch,
So sorry to hear it. Don't have to express my feeling , You and he will be in my prayers.
Hugs
Manoj

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Re: Facing another loss
« Reply #7 on: April 27, 2017, 11:12:34 AM »
I wish I had the right words Nonesuch. Thinking of you both while you navigate his illness.

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Re: Facing another loss
« Reply #8 on: April 27, 2017, 12:10:34 PM »
Hi Nonesuch,

I too feel that "I'm sorry" is so inadequate. I can relate to your fear. Where did we find the strength the first time?
If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough.      ~ A. Einstein

momtokam

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Re: Facing another loss
« Reply #9 on: April 27, 2017, 12:35:53 PM »
Not fair in any way, shape, or form.
It just simple sucks!

Biggest hugs......

BrokenHeart2

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Re: Facing another loss
« Reply #10 on: April 27, 2017, 03:57:23 PM »
Hugs and prayer to you and your SO Nonesuch.
I don't want it to be his legacy that his death destroyed me.
I need to honour his life by rebuilding my life.

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Re: Facing another loss
« Reply #11 on: April 27, 2017, 08:19:13 PM »
Oh my gosh...this is terrible! I cannot imagine what you are going through. Hugs and prayers...

twistedmensa

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Re: Facing another loss
« Reply #12 on: April 28, 2017, 12:42:05 AM »
I am so very sorry. Fuck cancer.

swilson

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Re: Facing another loss
« Reply #13 on: April 28, 2017, 06:28:08 AM »
I'm sorry you're both facing this. Someone had the tag line "I'd like to punch cancer in the face" and I agree
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Re: Facing another loss
« Reply #14 on: April 28, 2017, 05:22:38 PM »
Like everyone else, I know the words seem empty. However, I truly am so sorry. Please come here to vent and keep us posted. Praying for you both.
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