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MrsDan

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Re: PDA??? how comfortable are you?
« Reply #15 on: June 12, 2017, 12:28:07 PM »
This past weekend we went to Dan's brother's Coast Guard retirement. BF gets along really well with Dan's family. It's more like my family, as I have basically no relationship with my own. But he made no attempts to hold my hand, I finally reached for it partway through the ceremony. He was also a lot let affectionate. I wonder if he felt like it was more respectful because of the setting. I don't think he was uncomfortable being there, he's been to Dan's family events before. Dan's sister was there with her new baby and he held him more than I did!
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Re: PDA??? how comfortable are you?
« Reply #16 on: June 14, 2017, 04:39:32 PM »
MrsDan I would think he was aware of the family presence. I went to a festival and met NG's 21yr old daughter for the first time and even with him being divorced not widowed I was more concsious of the PDA and let him be the lead.

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Re: PDA??? how comfortable are you?
« Reply #17 on: June 14, 2017, 05:24:26 PM »
Totally get that, klim! I feel the same way. I shared on another thread that I don't stay overnight at NG's place (I did once and I think he's lightening up on that 'rule' a bit) because he set the house rule for his daughter so her boyfriend doesn't spend the night. NG says he knows they probably stay there when he's out of town or at my house though, but it's the setting the example thing. Like you, when I am there, I let him take the lead on how much PDA should be in the public spaces in front of them :)
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Re: PDA??? how comfortable are you?
« Reply #18 on: June 18, 2017, 03:36:03 PM »
Thought of this thread again this morning :) Was at NG's place last night and while we were laying around watching TV, we were playing footsies ... not exactly a PDA, but a moment of closeness. I mean, he was wrapping his toes around and in between mine. I had to work hard not to giggle. I'm not ticklish but am also not used to a ton of closeness, so it felt more 'intimate' than how I've spent cuddle time in past relationships. I've noticed that we've been sharing deeper kisses when we say goodbye now, like when he walks me to my car as I'm leaving his place or when he's leaving my house. This always happens outside, so yeah, PDA :)
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trying2breathe

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Re: PDA??? how comfortable are you?
« Reply #19 on: June 20, 2017, 02:09:18 PM »
Took PDA to a new level this weekend, it was my high school's twice a year get together at our local dance bar.  NG and I did the usual bump & grind and then some, as he tried to put his stamp on me as "taken".  And I didn't mind it at all  :D
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Christopher

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Re: PDA??? how comfortable are you?
« Reply #20 on: August 15, 2017, 03:38:01 PM »
walking holding hands                               5
walking arm around shoulder or waist         4 (the posture might not be easy to walk around with)
peck on the cheek or lips                            5
staring into each others eyes                       5
really kissing                                             4
Sitting on their lap or vice versa                   5

I like the notion "If you love them, show it." You are a living example of your love for one another and how a relationship ought to be done.
I'm amazed at how many females these days don't feel the same way.

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Re: PDA??? how comfortable are you?
« Reply #21 on: August 16, 2017, 11:02:15 AM »
I had to smile about your 'posture' comment, Christopher. I don't come from affectionate people; the first husband was abusive, the second was very loving (widowed from both), and NG has become more affectionate over time. I have had to learn how to show it. I am a work in progress in this area for sure!
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Christopher

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Re: PDA??? how comfortable are you?
« Reply #22 on: August 18, 2017, 12:10:28 AM »
I had to smile about your 'posture' comment, Christopher. I don't come from affectionate people; the first husband was abusive, the second was very loving (widowed from both), and NG has become more affectionate over time. I have had to learn how to show it. I am a work in progress in this area for sure!

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Re: PDA??? how comfortable are you?
« Reply #23 on: November 09, 2017, 06:01:03 PM »
My LH and I were the "get a room" couple. Not so much with kissing, but constant touching. I'm sure inappropriate touching to some. Of course while he was on duty he wouldn't kiss or touch me. He really didn't like for me to be seen with him in uniform, for my safety.

NG and I just started dating, so I'm going with his PDA comfort level. We hold hands, touch while talking, and quick pecks.
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