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still_lost

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I've given up
« on: June 15, 2017, 12:37:32 PM »
8 years have passed and not much has changed. I've dated and had a relationship, but things didn't work out in the end. I'm not happy with my job living situation, etc., and I don't have many friends to vent to. I care for my child every day, go to work, and then come home and do the necessary chores. My only comfort is spending time with my son who gives me a reason to get up every day. I can't begin to fix my life, I don't know where to start. I've given up on people and the hope that this will get better. It seems to have only gotten worse the more time goes by.

Metv

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Re: I've given up
« Reply #1 on: June 15, 2017, 01:02:24 PM »
You've raised a child, learned to be independent (sometimes think it's all to necessary), and made it this far. It's really a strange phenomena to me that the people you (we) felt the closet to before widowing, are the ones farthest removed now. Hoping you'll find a way to peace. It shouldn't be this hard ?
A very sincere hope for you.

Trying

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Re: I've given up
« Reply #2 on: June 15, 2017, 02:49:40 PM »
Raising a child on your own and being the sole person responsible for everything is exhausting.  Please don't give up, even if you only find a few minutes, do something that brings you joy.  You deserve happiness.  The lost friends thing is a part of this that no one warns about.
You will forever be my always.

BrokenHeart2

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Re: I've given up
« Reply #3 on: June 15, 2017, 02:57:48 PM »
SL I'm so sorry you're having a rough go of it.  Can you find something for you and your son to do that is enjoyable and relaxing?  I can't imagine how tough it would be to raise a child in widowhood but pat yourself on the back, you're doing it!
Hugs to you
I don't want it to be his legacy that his death destroyed me.
I need to honour his life by rebuilding my life.

Mrskro

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Re: I've given up
« Reply #4 on: June 15, 2017, 05:56:23 PM »
SL, 

I hear you.
  I'm not as far out, coming up on three years, and I haven't even tried to have a relationship but my life is work(I'm going to high jack your thread for a sec.  I work for a man child, micro-managing idiot and quit for 2 blessed wonderful days last week until everyone I work with made me come back), kids, everyday life chores, sleep.   Repeat.   I feel like I'm existing and not living.   

But I know, at the very least I can come here and vent, to people that get it.  People generally suck is my new life motto, but I know there are people that unfortunately get it.   

One of the strangest things about widowhood, is the people I thought would be here and aren't.   But there's a couple I didn't expect to be that are.   

Hugs to you.   


still_lost

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Re: I've given up
« Reply #5 on: June 16, 2017, 09:06:26 AM »
I'm just so tired physically and emotionally. I wasn't supposed to be doing this alone.

Julester3

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Re: I've given up
« Reply #6 on: June 16, 2017, 10:53:45 AM »
Hugs. I feel this many times a day and moreso on a day like Friday, today, when the week has really taken a toll on me.

Missing AC

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Re: I've given up
« Reply #7 on: June 17, 2017, 02:04:59 PM »
I'm just so tired physically and emotionally. I wasn't supposed to be doing this alone.


I'm with you 100% on this.  It wasn't supposed to be this way.

Hugs