Author Topic: Will I ever stop expecting him to walk through the door?  (Read 424 times)

CandiceS

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Will I ever stop expecting him to walk through the door?
« on: June 21, 2017, 12:00:50 AM »
Every time I hear the neighbors door slam, see his car pull up(his parents took it over), or the dogs start barking in the middle of the night, I expect him to come in like nothing happened.
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RyanAmysMom

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Re: Will I ever stop expecting him to walk through the door?
« Reply #1 on: June 21, 2017, 02:24:37 AM »
You will stop.  Eventually.  Maybe in 6 months, maybe sooner, maybe later.  But the fact that you're still "waiting" tells me you haven't really accepted his passing yet.  Give yourself time.  Acknowledge those moments. Grieve through them.  (I don't have those moments anymore, and I miss them....)

Julester3

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Re: Will I ever stop expecting him to walk through the door?
« Reply #2 on: June 21, 2017, 08:06:39 AM »
My husband was a creature of habit. Almost always home at 6 pm. My brain knows the car is in the garage so I don't expect to hear anything and I know nothing will happen but my eyes look to the garage door when I am home at that time out of habit. Hugs to you!

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Re: Will I ever stop expecting him to walk through the door?
« Reply #3 on: June 21, 2017, 08:27:32 AM »
We moved to a new house just a few months before my husband was diagnosed with brain cancer.  This house had no good memories of a time before cancer and then his death for a very long time. 

After he died, I used to have dreams about being back in our old house, his car turning the corner down our block after school let out.  My daughter was a baby then and we used to sit on a blanket out front playing and waiting for him to come home.  I would also dream of him coming back from a run, hearing the screen door slam and him saying "Helllllooooooo!!!!! Anybody home?!" 

I stopped having those dreams a long time ago but I can still see it - the movie that plays through my head.  A lot of my memories have faded but not the ones of his coming home.  Of course, I don't expect him anymore but the memories are happy ones.  Now I am glad that I still have them burning brightly in my mind.  Hugs!

Mac_Encheeze

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Re: Will I ever stop expecting him to walk through the door?
« Reply #4 on: June 21, 2017, 09:10:39 AM »
It hasn't even been a month for me and I keep expecting her to be here. I'm at my mother-in-laws in Connecticut and I live in Texas. A couple times this week since I've been here I've woken up expecting my wife to be down stairs talking to her mother. Or like the other day, I left her best friends house and I couldn't wait to get back to my MIL's because I just KNEW she would be there waiting for me. But as I pulled up in the driveway, I remembered and it hit me like a ton of bricks.

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Re: Will I ever stop expecting him to walk through the door?
« Reply #5 on: June 22, 2017, 11:38:03 AM »
Its been almost 10 month but still feel she is coming back. Now mind has accepted that she is never coming back but heart hasn't.

rockshaye

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Re: Will I ever stop expecting him to walk through the door?
« Reply #6 on: June 22, 2017, 11:10:25 PM »
Its been 6 months I don't feel like he is coming back, but I keep hoping it was a dream or a movie. Its my life now a horrible reality