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Another dimension
« on: July 07, 2017, 09:10:27 AM »
I imagine that many of you have Facebook accounts.  Every day, I have a list of posts in a category called "On this Day".  This was one of the posts that showed today:

July 7, 2011
Leaving the castle for the night....

Yeah.  That was a day in my life, a few months after our wedding, in what now feels like a different dimension altogether.  My second husband was a professor of geography, and he was teaching as a guest in a small international university that was housed in a castle in Italy.  Fortunately, I was able to travel with him and experience that little piece of the world with him that summer.

Sometimes, I ask myself, "Did that life really happen?  Was it all a dream?  A mirage?" happened.  I am grateful for every minute of those few short years I had with him.  We made the most of it.  Yes we did. 

But with every memory, losing him still breaks my heart. 

Life is short.  Love with all you've got. 

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Re: Another dimension
« Reply #1 on: July 07, 2017, 09:31:38 AM »

Sometimes I see those posts and wonder who that person was...
If you can't explain it simply, you don't understand it well enough.      ~ A. Einstein


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Re: Another dimension
« Reply #2 on: July 07, 2017, 11:12:07 AM »
I have a love and hate relationship with my Facebook "On this Day" feature. I used to post and share a lot on FB before my husband passed so it can be either comforting or torturous based on how I'm feeling that day.


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Re: Another dimension
« Reply #3 on: July 07, 2017, 01:02:13 PM »
Some times those FB memories are like a punch in the gut. That life feels like it belonged to someone else.
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Re: Another dimension
« Reply #4 on: July 07, 2017, 05:07:36 PM »
Yes, Maureen.  Completely understand.  Last family vacation was the 4th of July 6 yrs. ago.  I was with NG, new folks, new places, this 4th,  and I see on FB "on this day."  My LH had hacked my account ( I left my phone out) and made a post as me of  how awesome he was, our family was, and how blessed I was to have them.  Friends immediately responded that HE must have hacked me. He was a silly, goofy guy.  And then the barrage of pictures from that last big time together appeared.  I miss him and our life. 

I am waiting for when I hold on to my new life, AND it feels real.  (sigh)


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Re: Another dimension
« Reply #5 on: July 07, 2017, 08:57:29 PM »
Yesterday was the On This Day where DH announced to the world he had cancer. I knew it was coming, but wasn't sure exactly when until I fired up FB yesterday morning and was greeted with it.

It was so dignified, and so honest. I was so proud of him.

As Julester says, it's a total love/hate relationship. We were both extremely active on FB, and tagged each other in our posts a lot, so there's a lot of wonderful memories, and some tough ones.