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3.5 years....
« on: July 11, 2017, 07:33:23 AM »

Am I beyond active grieving?  I don't know.  Perhaps after I move, I can move into that mode.  I will be out of my house in 2 weeks.

Yesterday, I got together with some close colleagues of my husband from the university.  Fortunately, they will still talk about him.  It seems as though they feel as if he hasn't been gone that long.  I feel that way, too.  We told stories and talked about his character and his work and how much he is missed on campus.

One of those colleagues is leaving this university for another, and we both lamented about leaving our homes and our memories.

3.5 years.  They have gone so slowly, yet so quickly.

Life is short.  Love with all you've got. 

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Re: 3.5 years....
« Reply #1 on: July 11, 2017, 01:57:03 PM »
Hug to you Maureen.
I don't want it to be his legacy that his death destroyed me.
I need to honour his life by rebuilding my life.


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Re: 3.5 years....
« Reply #2 on: July 13, 2017, 05:29:49 AM »
Hugs Maureen!
I give you so much credit in taking these next steps, especially moving. I have a 5 year plan to move, but it's been a 5 year plan for 2 years now!

I realize as I read your post that I am "beyond active grieving" and there's a hint of guilt in doing so. You are in the middle of a huge transition so it's natural that you don't feel that way right now. As you know all too well, in time...

Wishing you strength over these next few weeks...
I miss how happy I was with you.