Author Topic: Always one more thing  (Read 572 times)

oneoftwo

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Always one more thing
« on: August 30, 2017, 02:56:33 PM »
Our kids are dual citizens, I finally have started the process for our youngest child- he heads away to uni soon and I know his Dad wants him to have his second passport. So I've done some of the paperwork
But...
it means I have to dig through and find my husbands birth certificate, our wedding certificate, and his death certificate. And pack them up and mail them away.
I'm really balking at this- it makes me sick to my stomach to think of looking at that again (and I have to - to make sure I send the right documents) it seems insurmountable that I have to look at these documents again.
So, it's been a long time coming, and maybe this afternoon I can handle it.
It's just never ending really

 

Trying

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Re: Always one more thing
« Reply #1 on: August 30, 2017, 05:05:24 PM »
After 4 years I recently had to get the death certificate out again, it sucks every time.  Back to school time here and filling out the damn forms, "father's name" still sucks every time too.  It's important to me that the school knows he's not a dead beat dad, he's just dead.
You will forever be my always.

oneoftwo

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Re: Always one more thing
« Reply #2 on: August 30, 2017, 11:50:42 PM »
Yep- those forms suck. But I did always put his name down- after all he is their Dad.

Forgottenwife

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Re: Always one more thing
« Reply #3 on: August 31, 2017, 10:26:53 AM »
Huge hugs. I always dread the times that I have to get the death certificate out. Sending it to strangers sucks. 

Sorry you have to deal with it in this circumstance.

Julester3

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Re: Always one more thing
« Reply #4 on: August 31, 2017, 12:31:05 PM »
Hugs! It sucks to pull out those documents!

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Re: Always one more thing
« Reply #5 on: August 31, 2017, 05:55:41 PM »
oneoftwo, you have the harder case, doing it on behalf of him.  I know it's hard to deal with Those Documents.  I am the non-native, so I filed for their Canadian passports with just my documents.

Does it help if you reflect that this is a final thing he can do for his son, but that he needs your help?

Take care,
Rob T
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soloact

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Re: Always one more thing
« Reply #6 on: September 02, 2017, 10:54:14 PM »
After almost ten years I still hate that death certificate. I've seen my share of them but my husband's name was never supposed to be on one.

Sorry you have this again.

oneoftwo

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Re: Always one more thing
« Reply #7 on: September 07, 2017, 02:33:10 PM »
Thanks guys,
I still haven't dealt with this, my latest excuse is that it's already too late for it to get there on a work day, so I may as well wait till Monday. I think I can muster strength/mental fortitude between now and then to get the stuff in an envelope.
But I did make some calls about some details that needed doing.
I get nauseous even thinking about that piece of paper-
the coroner was kind and omitted a lot, but there is enough there that I've read once, and caused complete break down -
I know I'm wasting more energy thinking about it than I will in getting it done, but that seems to be my MO these days